Men, I made a terrible mistake?

Question

For five years, my boyfriend and I have been in a (mostly) wonderful relationship. He's made mistakes, and I forgave him. Or at least I thought so.. until the opportunity arose for me to make the same kind of mistake. For reasons I don't want to go into, I ended up caving and having a very brief physical relationship with another man. I regretted it instantly and came clean to my boyfriend.

He's obviously hurt, but has agreed to stay with me and try to work things out. I completely understand the trust being gone and I take full responsibility. My question is, how can I help my boyfriend overcome the hurt? He will not go to counseling with me.

Answer 1

You can't. Just like you never got over it and you got him back the first chance you got. Taking responsibility when you cheat on someone is a cop out. If I punched you in the face and then said "sorry bout that, I take responsibility for my actions" that wouldn't mean jack crap. The time to be responsible is when the opportunity presents itself and you turn it down, that is responsibility, what you did was immaturity.

Answer 2

“He's made mistakes, and I forgave him” It sounds like your relationship with him has some flexibility already built into it???



As far as your affair; well the work is on your part now. There is nothing you can do excepts do the work to make sure he finds no suspicion in your activity. You have to once again “prove” yourself to him. This is the work.



But the real problem which is at the core of all this is the fundamental lack of ethics on both your parts which does not seem to allow FIDELITY to live in your realtionship.

Answer 3

You need to get to the bottom of why you felt compelled to "be honest" with him. You enjoyed getting even, and you enjoy the pain it caused him. That's what you need to focus on. You need to move on and forget about him or he needs to forget about you because you two like to cause each other pain.

Now you know why all this "honesty" that day time talk shows say couples MUST have, is bul/lsh$t, you should have kept your guilt to yourself instead of spreading it all over him. you are heartless or brainless

Answer 4

It's too late to give you this advice, but remember it for the future.



If you are foolish enough to be unfaithful

don't tell your partner.

Telling your partner

only transfers the guilt and pain

from you to them

thereby hurting them twice.

Suffer your infidelity in silence.

Answer 5

Tainted relationship. Move on and learn from the mistakes.

Answer 6

2 wrongs don't make a right. Go your separate ways and learn from this that fideilty is the only way.

Answer 7

That dude has no self-respect

Answer 8

hahahahhhhaaaa...another stupid whore...just continue to spread your legs wide for any cock that gets hard for you!!