I recently caught my husband calling prostitutes at one in the morning, just before Christmas, by viewing our family phone records. He received return phone calls from the prostitute phone numbers, and withdrew $100 cash from our joint checking account. He says that it was a joke, and his friend was in on it. I called the friend, and he was not involved, and felt what my husband did was wrong. My husband and I do not live together, due to work, but we do see each other once a week. I recently lost my job, and all of the financial responsibilities and stress have fallen on my husbands shoulders. Over the course of our two year marriage, my husband has worked seven months and I have worked nineteen months (I received unemployment for three months in 2012, and have been recently unemployed for two months with no unemployment b/c I'm a contractor). My husband had the nerve to say that I should be looking for a job and not our family phone records. I do not usually view our family phone records, but I became suspicious when my husband started to turn his phone off after work, only talking to me during the day when he was working. We are under a lot of financial stress, because my husband is not the primary breadwinner and struggles to support our family. While I understand the stress our family is under, I feel adultery is not acceptable, and lying about it is even worse. Without going into the details, I found out early in our marriage that my husband was not into monogamy. This is, sadly, not the first time he has attempted to solicit sex with a woman other than his wife. During our marriage, I contracted an STD that can only be transmitted sexually - and I have been faithful to my husband. My doctor even suggested it was proof of adultery, and suggested I speak with my husband. I did, and he denied going outside our marriage - but the proof was there. There has been an excessive amount of emotional and physical abuse in our marriage, which I believe results in my husbands frustration in not being able to be the sole provider, and live a life that is grander than our current situation. He is a foreign born trust fund child, and it is true that I cannot provide the life he is used to living - although I have financed a car, electronics and furniture to try and make him happy. I feel like his betrayal before Christmas, and his lack of interest in celebrating Thanksgiving and Christmas with me, shows that he is either checked out, or checking out of our marriage. I have not given him cause to cheat (we are intimate when he is home), and I feel that power and control are behind his actions, due to the verbal and physical abuse. My family is begging me to leave him, and I even packed my bags - but he begged me to stay. I am religious, and I love my husband despite his faults. However, I wonder if I am being blinded by love and manipulated, because my husband's legal status in the U.S. is attached to our marriage. Early in our marriage, his ex-girlfriend alleged that he stole money from her, that my husband contacted her during our marriage (when I was unemployed), and attempted to pay her for legal status in the U.S. by marriage. I considered the source (hell hath no fury like a woman scorned), but now I wonder. When I financed a new car for my husband, he did not want me on the car title and made a huge deal about. Additionally, he wanted to be on the title of the car I purchased before our marriage, after I would not relent on being an owner on the new car title. This is my first time posting for help, and I sincerely need it. What should I do? Thank you for your help and God Bless!