A guy fooled my friend online for marriage its a breach of promise to marry?

Question

This guy knew all the time he will not marry her but still for many months he out fooled her to believe he will marry her.She at her end only had this intention to get married to him and believed him and trusted him.They use to chat and talk every day for 8 or 9 hours a day and he use to assure her how much he loves her and would do anything in world to get married to her.He at his end has told her that he was an single father that got divorced few years before.She at her end was also a singer parent she declined his marriage proposal when he asked her to take up responsibilities for her son as a mother.When she declined he promised her he would send his son back to his mother and even gave her a final date to do that.He said that his child would live with his mother afther he married my friend.In the mean time he trapped my friend to believe him and also convinced her to come nude on the webcam, as he would be her husband soon and she fell a prey.He later on dumped her without saying anything.Then 3 months afther a woman send her alot of ugly e-mails with abusive words. Only then she came to know he was not divorced but married and he did not only have one child but a pregnant woman and two teenage children. She was shocked. Now this man is blackmailing her that he will spread all her nude photos and videos he made of her without her knowledge as he recorded her cam.She is totally shattered as at her end she was considering him to be her would be husband but he at his end knew all the time that he was cheating her and using her for sexual favours and now he is blackmailing her and trying to destroy her life.The guy is an Indian National living in Kuwait for 15 years and the girl is a Indian National living in Denmark. The guy has also hidden his true age and it turns out that the guy is 11 years older then his actual age. But since they have not meet in real life is there anyway she can make a complaint to the police, and stop him from publishing her photos online? She doesn't want anything from him other then he deletes her photos and leave her alone.He has already injured her so much that she wont be able to truest any man again.He is an Indian Muslim of age 43 living in Kuwait, please advice what can be done and how to put across this case to the police?My friend was only with him as she was serious about marriage were as he was just out fooling her and his wife has informed he has done this with many other girls and woman,but she is not willing to support my friend because his wife believe my friend was wrong at her end to go nude on cam and that she seduced her husband.My friend is a decent girl that only did all this out of love and for the man she was suppose to spend rest of her life with, so please advice and don't come up with any rude comments as nothing can change the facts what she did for this cheap guy. He is not taking away her dignity infronT of the world please advice what to do?

Answer 1

She has NO legal recourse.



SHE made her own choices and she is an adult. How can you take someone to court for failing to keep up a promise to marry? If that were true, I'd be living in court, with the amount of lies men have told me!



She chose to pose for the photos, now she has to suck up whatever happens.

Answer 2

Honey, you're cheating on your husband. You're not happy at home. If you were, you wouldn't be so lonely and unfulfilled that a total stranger is filling a void in your life. Be careful. People can say anything over the net. It's easy to idealize someone you've never met. But the fact that you are turning to him for intimacy and are sharing private sexual details of your marriage is cheating. YOu may not have actually slept with him yet, but you know damn well if your husband knew what the two of you have really been talking about, he wouldn't be happy at all. Would you be upset if it were your husband doing the exact same thing with a woman? Of course you would! So take a hint from me--don't do this. You say you guys have built a great life for yourselves, so if this is true, then don't destroy or chance destroying everything you have with your husband with a crush online. Any time you turn outside your marriage for something that you're missing is a form of cheating is how I view it. The time you spend chatting with him is time you've taken from your husband. You don't say if you have kids, but I bet you do. Don't do this. These things never end well. Be honorable and remember those vows you took in front of God and your friends and family.

Answer 3

On line relationships are not real relationships. Each person only knows what the other person tells them is true, not what is really true. So, all this drama over an unreal non-relationship is a warning to the wise to not depend on a purely online relationship to ever work. You have to meet in person and get to know each other for several months, at least, before even thinking about marrying a person.



As for taking away her dignity in front of the world, your friend did that to herself by send him nude pictures. So, any claim by her that he embarrassed her or made false promises would not be taken seriously by the courts. She should have learned a painful lesson about trusting people she's only met on the internet and about not sending nude pictures to anyone. Sorry...

Answer 4

Promise to marry a person has no legal binding. Interestingly on-line promises have no value. So your friend should have been more careful. Its neither breach of promise nor breach of trust.

Answer 5

You can file this complain in Y! as it is considered as cyber crime and fraud. I have answered you before. But, would like to give you more precise answer. This crime comes under threat and not only deactivate the ID of the person but can work practically as a criminal offence. Keep all the messages of threat of him so that if needed IP address can be trap.



This is the physical address of the Y!:



Yahoo! Customer Care

Attn: Mail Abuse

701 First Avenue

Sunnyvale, CA 94089



You can report this. And, file a police complaint regarding this for proper action. File your complaint with proper header information. You can get this as



To learn how to display the full headers in a Yahoo! Mail account, please visit the Yahoo! Mail Help Desk at:



http://help.yahoo.com/help/us/mail/config/config-11.html



You can file this report by mail by visiting : http://help.yahoo.com/



But, don't write to deactivate his Y! ID, but write to track him so that he could be catch and to stop him for further indecency act which ruin your friend image. It should be esclated above then. Believe me what I said to you. I gave you enough information to help you. I am able to do so because I myself working for Yahoo! and come across the cases like you.



Don't delete his any of threatening mails. It will help you much further to track this criminal and don't do anything if he further blackmail your friend. If this person is considered cheap, then your friend also turn cheap and blind for fake online love. Learn to maintain your decency till you not married. Learn from this mistake forever.



Posting your question again and again won't help you much but if you take firm and suitable action will help you a lot.



I don't know, if the temptation is so much in Indian Mind, who forget their own culture and go for this and body enhancing which make only fake identity and beauty and create fake image(exception is there).



God bless you!

Answer 6

I didn't read your entire "wall of text" but if they only knew each other online, then she was foolish to believe anything he said OR to bank on marrying a guy she didn't even know...you can talk online 24 hrs a day but not really "know" the other person until you spend a considerable amount of time in each other's presence...



She should consider it a lesson learned...

Answer 7

your friend was gullible and foolish

it may strip her dignity

but its not a crime



EVERYONE knows you dont trust 100% like that

she thought she was different



lesson learnt



shrieking breech of promise etc will only make her look more foolish

learn and move on