how do you deal with your dad married to another girl?

Question

i knew he had an affair and my parents had to get divorced because of it... i just found out today that they're already married and they're living together... how do you deal with this? i couldnt deal with the divorce and now they're married; i honestly believed they wouldnt marry at all... my emotions are flying everywhere and idk whether to feel sad or mad about it. my mom, although wont admit it, is hurting a lot and i saw her smoking after she heard the news and took a drive to get some air. please help me out, i dont know what to feel or do

Answer 1

you may not like it - you may not understand it - but do you have to accept it. he cheated on your mom and he is remarried. so where to from here?



the way i see it you have 3 options



1 - be negative and bytchy to him and your new step mom. this will solve nothing except to make you feel even worse, and everyone else around you too.



2 - be indifferent. ignore them. once again it wont solve anything and will only set more distance between you.



3 - be positive. there must be something nice about your new step mom - take the time to get to know her. she will never be your real mom s no ned for guilt.



those are your choices hun - you will have to go with one of them. hopefully you will choose the smart route.

Answer 2

Just make it clear to your father that due to your loyalty toward your mother, you do not want a relationship with the woman and he should respect that. If you get married in the future and have a wedding you may need to bite your tongue and let new wifey be a guest, but don't seat her at the family table. That place belongs to your mother. other than that tell him any time spent with him will not be with her around. Just tell him that it would be different if your parents were already divorced and met another woman after the fact and had nothing to do with their divorce. I met my husband long after his divorce and his adult daughters welcomed me because I was never around when their marriage went kaput.

Answer 3

you really don't have to be nce to her, if you don't want to. he is married to this woman now and there is nothing you can do, but if this woman caused the divorce, there is no way i would be friends with her.

Answer 4

It may sound hart but is your dad life not yours, you have one live every minutes of it.

Answer 5

Well this may seem ridiculous, but my dad is engaged to my best friend... she was my best friend before she got with my dad too...