Marrying a muslim guy.. please help?

Question

I am a hindu, i don't come from a religious family, my bf is muslim(malay).. I am training to be a vet, he likes dogs but cant touch them. and he told me it is possible for marriage between us without my converting as my career requires me to touch dogs. He says as long as he supports me it doesn't matter. We are moving to New Zealand. How do i meet his parents? Do i have to kiss their hand, even if i am not muslim? Do u think it is possible to get married? His parents are fine with inter-racial marriages, but i don't know how they might react to me being unable to convert. Also will living in New Zealand be hard for him? food etc?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Well I can't answer all your questions but I do know this.... Love knows no boundaries. If you both truly love eachother and he and his family are fine with inter racial marriages then I don't see any reason why you can't marry him. Surely his parents will expect you to have differences as they know you are hindu, so maybe they won't expect you to know all their traditions like kissing their hand on meeting etc? Your boyfriend should be able to tell you what is appropriate when you meet.



Lucky you moving to New Zealand! It is a beautiful country with lovely people. I wish I lived there sometimes!

Answer 2

in my opinion which i got from being a muslim my whole life "i was born Muslim" & studying Islam & Quran in "Azhar" it's not right for a Muslim to marry from other religion unless they convert but also you shouldn't just convert in order to get married but it has to be with true believe in Allah & wanting to be a Muslim for no other mortal intentions or personal purposes . but i found out that Muslims in eastern Asia are a bit different from the true meaning of Islam , actually they developed different habits & traditions & related it to Islam which are might be not all true. maybe because of the distance between their region & the center of the original Islamic world.

kissing hands is not necessarily a Muslim thing it's a special type of greeting in some communities to show respect to elders but if its ok with you then why not do it?

about dogs it's not that he can't touch them at all "misunderstood habit 4 Asian Muslims" but he can't touch them if he is washed up for prayer . if he did then he should wash up the area that was touched by dogs 7 times one of them with pure soil or sand.

about moving to new Zealand there are many Muslims living there & in Australia too & there lots of muslim food stores & restaurants i think he can handle it .. but im not sure about this marriage can happen that way. sorry.

Answer 3

Ok ive dated a muslim guy and the first thing she said to me when she met me was that she doesnt care whether im white, black, indian, asian, whatever .... as long as her grandchildren are raised muslim, she has no problem with ME. So if you are comfortable with that fact, then you should have no problem with them. Also, the main reason why theyre so strict with this fact is that muslim people in general are very forward moving and expanding ... their mentalities are to create a great muslim race and as many people to convert to islam as possible.



Also... regardless of whether u convert or whether ur bf wants u to convert or not, I was told that any non muslim girl that marries a muslim man.... automatically becomes a muslim upon marriage .... and if she is not, she will have to convert and it has to be consented. So regardless of whther u want to convert or not, u will be classified a muslim...



and lastly... you dont need to kiss their hands, becuase if ur not gona convert and ur not gonna follow their religion ... then what difference does it make whether u kiss their hands or not? they know ur not sincere and they know ur a non muslim .... dont degrade urself cuz theyll see right through u ....



im sure marriage is fine but just remember, muslim families are very strict regarding children and them being raised muslim ... and preserving muslim values



gluck

Answer 4

Unless you believe in Islam, what on earth is the point of converting? Also any religion that thinks dogs are dirty is just plain wrong in my book. But that's beside the point. The only person who knows how the in-laws react to you not converting is your fiancee. More to the point, how will they feel about their kinds growing up non-Muslim? I never heard of this hand-kissing thing before - maybe it's Malay?