How long should you wait before tying the knot with someone?

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Researchers have found out that waiting can be beneficial for a marriage.
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How long would you be willing to wait for your loved one to pop the question? What factor does age play? And how long should you generally wait before tying the knot with someone?

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Answer 1

Based upon my own life experience and from observing others who marry REGARDLESS of the amount of time spent together beforehand, I believe that no one should "tie the knot" in today's society anymore. The true meaning of marriage AND the significance of a commitment of being together with only that one beloved person for their lifetime, is no longer earnestly correlated, especially in the developed western nations.



Historically, marriage had far more signification and benefit to the married couple because it was literally entrenched as a lifelong allegiance. Couples bonded together through mutuality of character, beliefs, amenability and devotion in a way that is rarely seen today. Society has bent the rules so much, especially during the past century until now, that anyone can basically do whatever they want, whenever they want, and to the extent that it makes the statute of marriage a travesty.



Our current society is constantly changing the specifications of what "marriage" is or should be. For example, the legal system in general makes it far too copious when marriage partners mutually agree that they no longer feel the marriage is worth continuing. A "no-fault divorce" allows a couple to easily obtain a divorce - without any ramifications. Some marriages are so short, the ink on their marriage license isn't even dry before divorce proceedings begin. Since this perspective is so common today, what then, would be the purpose of marrying in the first place?



Even as recent as the early 20th century, people married and stayed married - 50 years or more was commonplace. Today, a couple celebrating their wedding anniversary beyond even 5 years is considered a 'remarkable success'. Marriage should be a foundation of sincere love, mutual respect and loyalty that shouldn't ever be taken lightly. It's such a shame that it has become a sham.

Answer 2

Based upon my own life experience and from observing others who marry REGARDLESS of the amount of time spent together beforehand, I believe that no one should "tie the knot" in today's society anymore. The true meaning of marriage AND the significance of a commitment of being together with only that one beloved person for their lifetime, is no longer earnestly correlated, especially in the developed western nations.



Historically, marriage had far more signification and benefit to the married couple because it was literally entrenched as a lifelong allegiance. Couples bonded together through mutuality of character, beliefs, amenability and devotion in a way that is rarely seen today. Society has bent the rules so much, especially during the past century until now, that anyone can basically do whatever they want, whenever they want, and to the extent that it makes the statute of marriage a travesty.



Our current society is constantly changing the specifications of what "marriage" is or should be. For example, the legal system in general makes it far too copious when marriage partners mutually agree that they no longer feel the marriage is worth continuing. A "no-fault divorce" allows a couple to easily obtain a divorce - without any ramifications. Some marriages are so short, the ink on their marriage license isn't even dry before divorce proceedings begin. Since this perspective is so common today, what then, would be the purpose of marrying in the first place?



Even as recent as the early 20th century, people married and stayed married - 50 years or more was commonplace. Today, a couple celebrating their wedding anniversary beyond even 5 years is considered a 'remarkable success'. Marriage should be a foundation of sincere love, mutual respect and loyalty that shouldn't ever be taken lightly. It's such a shame that it has become a sham.

Answer 3

I was widowed young. Now I am engaged. It's a loooong engagement and my choice. 7 years so far. Maybe, just maybe I will consider tying the knot if my fiance wants to wait another decade or two. I am in no hurry the second time around. Living together will show a person's true colors and it is not always pretty in some cases. Little quirks can become big ones. I figure there is always a dark side to a person and that is the person I want to see emerge to make a better determination if I should stay. Then you can decide if you still want to get married or move on.

Answer 4

Well, having sex with your mate doesn't make this is the right person to marry, there is no time to wait before tying the knot with someone it could be years or never, the main thing is to grow and learn much about your mate before popping the big question or accepting with that magical word yes { female mostly } ,Age is no factor long as it's legit, some of my friends got married to quick and now living the single life or working on their second or third marriage to sum it up , again there is no time to wait before tying the knot but to me too soon is not a good idea

Answer 5

Tying the knot with another human being is one of the greatest celebrations we can receive in our society. Being with someone is a blessed and spiritual gift, and it is not to be treated upon lightly. Meeting the love of your life is a very special part of life. Love hurts, but eventually everyone will find someone. When you find that one, special person that you want to face the world with, you must come to a decision - are you ready to tie the knot with this person? Do their ideals match yours? What about the long run? Will they want children? Will they bring an adequate income to support the two of you (or more in the case of a polygamous relationship)? But the most fundamental question of all; do you love this person enough to settle down and tie the knot with them?

If the answer is yes, then sit your partner down and tell him/her/they/xis/xer/xey/nongenderspecific pronoun that you're ready for a life of knot-tying with them. Have something prepared; preferably the rope itself - the rope of life.

Cross the two ends of the rope so that it makes an x-shape. From there, put one of the sides through the loop that was created and tug hard. Make sure your partner is participating as well and you will have tied the matrimonial knot with them. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

2 years

Answer 7

Hi Yahoo! Great question here, most will surely enjoy answering! I will have to agree with the experts! Waiting is definitely going to help. It will allow both sides to get to know each other perfectly and also adapt to flaws and other defects that will be detected during the wait. Generally speaking, 3-4 years from the start of the relationship should be enough to sort everything out and make a decision about tying the knot and yes, age is definitely something to consider. I wouldn’t want to be 30 or more to get it done!

Answer 8

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 9

2 years

Answer 10

I will bit chslap any woman who marries a guy she has known less than 2 years and seriously dated less than 1. It took me 5 before I decided he was worth it.



The woman who rushes into it will be the one who complains about the bad catch she reeled in after a couple years of marriage.



NEWLYWEDS, YOUR PARTNER WILL ALWAYS HAVE THEIR GAME FACE ON FOR THE FIRST YEAR! They will still be trying to impress you and make sure they keep you. Once they realize you're there for the long haul, they show you who they really are. It can be a beautiful thing or a scary thing.



You have to go through stuff to the point where you almost hate them and decide they are worth it before you can marry them. That's when you have successfully learned to take the bad with the good. You've also practiced forgiveness. NO abuse doesn't count. If he/she abuses/dishonors you, run.



If you can get through 3-5 years of serious dating, you'll get over that 7 year itch in marriage with very little difficulty.



Some people say 5 years is too long. I disagree. Five years in, you're dealing with your best friend, not someone who is just looking to get something out of the deal.

Answer 11

I think within 6 months of steadily dating the same person, you ought to know whether you are compatible, can compromise equally with each other, feel there's a balance in the relationship, aren't hoping for miracles (your partner is not going to change, you take and accept the faults as well as the good stuff). And whether you two want the same things--marriage, kids, a long companionable relationship, have some (not all) of the same interests, like each other's friends, can deal civilly with each other's families. No money issues. No religious issues. No political issues. Etc. And within about 6 months, you ought to know whether YOU want to marry that person. Not everyone wants to be married but may want to spend the rest of their life with that one person--and if the other agrees with it so be it. Marriage isn't for everyone. If you want kids but your partner doesn't, that's something to consider. If you want to buy a house but your partner never wants to own something like that. If your partner can't seem to even talk about a long-term relationship, can't voice a long-term commitment to you, then you have to seriously think about whether you can stay with that person. And certainly if you and/or your partner cannot face each other and honestly talk about things--problems or not--after being together 6 months or more, then you are not communicating which is not a good thing and why so many marriages fall apart. "Tying the knot" per se is not the big goal. Coming to trust and rely and be able to get a mature, adult discussion about your lives is.

Answer 12

the answer for this isn't any number of years... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate... marriage is a rose... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...

Answer 13

I think within 6 months of steadily dating the same person, you ought to know whether you are compatible, can compromise equally with each other, feel there's a balance in the relationship, aren't hoping for miracles (your partner is not going to change, you take and accept the faults as well as the good stuff). And whether you two want the same things--marriage, kids, a long companionable relationship, have some (not all) of the same interests, like each other's friends, can deal civilly with each other's families. No money issues. No religious issues. No political issues. Etc. And within about 6 months, you ought to know whether YOU want to marry that person. Not everyone wants to be married but may want to spend the rest of their life with that one person--and if the other agrees with it so be it. Marriage isn't for everyone. If you want kids but your partner doesn't, that's something to consider. If you want to buy a house but your partner never wants to own something like that. If your partner can't seem to even talk about a long-term relationship, can't voice a long-term commitment to you, then you have to seriously think about whether you can stay with that person. And certainly if you and/or your partner cannot face each other and honestly talk about things--problems or not--after being together 6 months or more, then you are not communicating which is not a good thing and why so many marriages fall apart. "Tying the knot" per se is not the big goal. Coming to trust and rely and be able to get a mature, adult discussion about your lives is.

Answer 14

Wow, good question. I would have to say at least until you're both in you sixties. Just hear me out I'm not a crazy person making this up as I go I would never do that. Okay. Think about this. If you get married in you twenties of thirties then you two are going to change and by the time you two are in your sixties you two are going to be different people. One of you maybe a cat the other maybe a dog there is just no way of telling. Look all I am saying wait unitl you are in your sixies that way the sex is so much better. Don't believe good that's more for me.

Answer 15

Preferably forever. A confirmed bachlorette here.

I think people live together AT least 5 years before deciding if they want to have a future together--whether or not that includes marriage.

Dating gives no indicator as to what a person is like day-to-day, hour-to-hour.

Living with someone is the only way one can tell if the other person is a person one would be able to live with long-term.

One cannot tell how well another is at helping around the house if they do not live with that person. Many women I know have gotten trapped into sub-slavery because they haven't lived with a person --or lived with a person long enough--to realize that all the household chores,cooking, & child care will fall on them.

Cute little personality quirks become annoying habits when one has to live with such things. Only living with someone for a while can determine if one can learn to ignore these habits.

Also, you'll be able to find out if you are involved with an ambitious person or a couch potato. You will be able to find out if you don't mind your partner staring at a screen 70% of her/his life, or playing video games instead of going out for a jog or hike with you--if that's what you're into.

And why 5 years? Well, after 5 years the honeymoon is over and day-to-day doldrums set in. THAT'S when you find out if you're capable of putting up with the other person.

DON'T GET TRAPPED. Happy endings happen only on the big screen, not in reality. Reality is fraught with difficulties and conflicts and ever-changing dynamics. The person you live with today will be a much different person 2 decades from now. This is how it's suppose to be. Life is fluid.

Answer 16

The answer for this isn't any number of years. I believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other. If you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there is any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage. Building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.



Are you ready to marry in my opinion?



Are you both over 18?



Are you willing to compromise (Compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.)



Are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



Are you able to pull through fights? (Without taking a break for some time)



Do you trust your partner?



Are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (They're not perfect.)



If you can answer yes to every question, you have a secure relationship. If you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad. In fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example. Nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage. When you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities. You are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate. Marriage is a rose. Roses are great to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses because they have thorns. Admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.

Answer 17

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 18

3-4 years or more, and at least 1 year of living together. Why get married if you don't know what it's like to live with that person or if that person is going to be flaky after the honeymoon phase wears off. Main reasons for divorce are money problems, boredom or falling out of love, unwanted pregnancies, cheating, and a huge one is lack of sexual intimacy as well as physical/emotional abuse. There's a reason why people always comment on how people tend to show their true colours after marriage...whether good or bad you want to know before you get married. 3-4 years seems like a long time to wait for marriage sure but if you made it to 3-4 years something must be right. Also 3-4 years is nothing compared to 20-30 or more years of an unhappy marriage. Also if you fall out within a year or 2 at least you won't be married. I say this because I've dated guys and they always were angels in the first year...then suddenly...woah. I've been with my current boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and we have lived together for 1 1/2 year. I would feel comfortable marrying him, but am in no rush because things are nice and I feel like we pretty much are married anyway.

Answer 19

Funny enough, I used to (and in a way, still do) believe in the "two year rule," but I've been dating someone and we're quickly approaching the 2 year mark. We've had conversations about a life together, but at the same time we both have important academic goals we want to reach (she plans on pursuing law school, while I plan on medical school), so the conclusion we both came to was that if we got married and started a family, that would jeopardize the goals we want to meet. Long story short, we both plan to continue to date until we're either done with grad school or are almost done.



That's quite a few years away as we're both in undergraduate, but we're optimistic and planning to tie the knot some day.

Answer 20

I don't think there is a designated right or wrong amount of time; however, I think someone should be careful and know that marriage is serious and can be difficult to get out of especially if children are in the mix. Marriage should be not hastily run into, no one is perfect that is for sure but you don't want to blindly rush into a marriage that unhealthy. Know the person well, use your mind and for example if it's only been 3 or 6 months, you have to really ask your self do you know them well enough to make a life long commitment?

Answer 21

People fall madly in love, thinking (feeling rather) that it will last forever and is enough for a serious relationship. However, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long. Eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course). If couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can grow into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. If a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship will probably peter out eventually - or worse. Quite often we fall in love because we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us. Thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful. This is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sexually involved. Sex can be emotionally bonding, which is disastrous if the other things are not there: strong friendship, similar values and standards, common interests, etc.

Answer 22

If you have to set a SPECIFIC time to consider it "time" then you don't know what love is. Sure, I think it's stupid to get married at first sight like that stupid show and force short term relationships and choices...that's just it, you shouldn't just go "Oh, I think I love this person, but I'm gonna wait five years to be sure" or get hitched right off for that matter.



When the time comes...it just is, be it after a few months, or a few years. There will always be those who wait too long and miss their chance, and always those who rush in and get bitten. But all those things can sometimes work out too.



Aside from your feelings, nothing else really matters. There are no rules to love. Not to real love anyways. It's blind, furious and also subtle...it loves to bite you in the backside when you least expect it.

Answer 23

the answer for this isn't any number of years... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate... marriage is a rose... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...

Answer 24

Each couple is different. There is no one specific time for a couple to get married. I have known young people that were ready at 17 and others who weren't ready at 35. As a general rule, I would say that a couple should get married when they are completely comfortable with the idea of sharing their lives together. They should be a peace with each other, no doubts, tensions or uncertainties. My wife and I were comfortable together and wanted to spend our time together. All thoughts of being with others vanished from our minds. We met in September, went on our first date in October, were engaged in November and were married the following May. I was 22 and she was 21. That was 42 years ago and we are still dating each other. The point is that we were able to be ourselves when we were together. There was nothing to hide, no stress about whether or not we were making a good impression, we were completely honest with each other. When a couple has reached that unity of togetherness, then there is no need to wait any longer than necessary to make the proper arrangements. Long engagements are not encouraged. If you are not comfortable with each other, then you should not be engaged. If you are, then there is no need to wait for marriage.

Answer 25

5 years

Answer 26

the answer for this isn't any number of years........................... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other........................... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage........................... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...........................



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...........................)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...........................)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship........................... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad........................... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example........................... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage........................... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities........................... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate........................... marriage is a rose........................... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns........................... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...........................

Answer 27

preferably forever... a confirmed bachlorette here...

i think people live together at least 5 years before deciding if they want to have a future together--whether or not that includes marriage...

dating gives no indicator as to what a person is like day-to-day, hour-to-hour...

living with someone is the only way one can tell if the other person is a person one would be able to live with long-term...

one cannot tell how well another is at helping around the house if they do not live with that person... numerous women i know have gotten trapped into sub-slavery 'cause they haven't lived with a person --or lived with a person long enough--to realize that all the household chores,cooking, & child care shall fall on them...

cute little personality quirks become annoying habits when one has to live with such things... only living with someone for a while can determine if one can learn to ignore these habits...

also, you'll be able to find out if you are involved with an ambitious person or a couch potato... you shall be able to find out if you don't mind your partner staring at a screen 70% of her/his life, or playing video games instead of going out for a jog or hike with you--if that's what you're into...

and why 5 years? well, after 5 years the honeymoon is over and day-to-day doldrums set in... that's when you find out if you're capable of putting up with the other person...

don't get trapped... happy endings happen only on the big screen, not in reality... reality is fraught with difficulties and conflicts and ever-changing dynamics... the person you live with today shall be a much different person 2 decades from now... this is how it's suppose to be... life is fluid...

Answer 28

Well , first you should know what you want to be in life ,and do everything you need to do that will get you there. Relationships can sometimes take you away from what you want to be, and you will regret it for the rest of your life. Example, say you want to be a Teacher , your partner wants to start a business and pulls you in that direction , you may regret not following your dreams one day. I say get to where you want to be , enjoy yourself and have fun while achieving your goal . Then when the right person comes into your life , you will know in your heart the time is right .Follow your own dreams and not someone else's . Life is shorter than you think. If you meet someone while you are working to achieve your goals, and you both are supporting each other, to reach each others goals ? Well then , marry, if you feel its the right thing to do. Life is not perfect though, but just make sure the pros far out weigh the cons.Good Luck to you.

Answer 29

5 years

Answer 30

Depends on the time spent with this person. Couples who see each other a lot can wait shorter times than couples who don't. Approximately 1 2/3 years is ideal although you can go to 3 years if the pace is slower. If this is not the first marriage, it might be a recommendation to wait a tad longer to make sure this new marriage works out right.

Answer 31

Too many people rush into marriage. It takes time to get to know someone, like really get to know them. Everyone is on their best behavior when they begin dating. And since it takes time to know someone's lifestyle, meet their friends, earn their trust and fall in love, there is no benefit of rushing into marriage.



I would never even consider marrying anyone after knowing and dating them for less than five years. In five year's time, you get to learn a person's habits, if there is mutual respect and trust, how they handle their money, their ethics and morals, how they handle stress, distress and how they treat their family and even how they treat waitresses.



If people are IN love, then hopefully they will be in love for a good long time. So, there is no point in rushing into anything if you intend to plan your whole lives together, because you ARE together.



While I have your attention, I seriously do not think anyone should marry under the age of 25, maybe 30. Yeah, you may think I am nuts, but young adults need some life experience after college before making a lifelong commitment.

Answer 32

If you have to set a SPECIFIC time to consider it "time" then you don't know what love is. Sure, I think it's stupid to get married at first sight like that stupid show and force short term relationships and choices...that's just it, you shouldn't just go "Oh, I think I love this person, but I'm gonna wait five years to be sure" or get hitched right off for that matter.



When the time comes...it just is, be it after a few months, or a few years. There will always be those who wait too long and miss their chance, and always those who rush in and get bitten. But all those things can sometimes work out too.



Aside from your feelings, nothing else really matters. There are no rules to love. Not to real love anyways. It's blind, furious and also subtle...it loves to bite you in the backside when you least expect it.

Answer 33

I think it all depends on the couple. I think my father asked my mother to marry him the 2nd time that they met and she said yes. They were married 42 years until her death. Then he did the same thing with another woman, asked her to marry him after he had only met her twice. They stayed married until he died. Me, I don't think I could ever do that. I'd want to know the person fairly well before I asked them to marry me. I dated my late wife for 16 months before I asked her to marry me and we were friends quite a while before that. So, I think it depends on the person. I don't think I would suggest to anyone to do what my father did. I think he probably could have made a better choice with the 2nd marriage had he spent more time to try to make a better decision. I think if you meet the right person there is an instant chemistry between the two people. I had never really had any connection with anyone until I met my late wife and we were very close until her death. We went everywhere together and did everything together - we were rarely ever apart from each other. If they would have let me in the ambulance the day she died, I would have gone in the ambulance with her. but they wouldn't let me. We pretty much started talking to each other and never really quit talking to each other until she died. I guess a lot has to do with the connection that the 2 people feel that they have with each other. A lot of people will say that there is a specific amount of time, but those are just general guidelines - these formulas don't work for everyone.

Answer 34

4 years

Answer 35

Marriage isn't as important as movies and media make it out to be. Just because you don't go out and get married doesn't mean you don't love your girlfriend/boyfriend or don't see yourself living the rest of your life with them.



Getting married has been an economical thing for centuries, it's never been about love. It was only a few decades ago that people got married when they DESPISED eachother. Still, there were bills to pay and families to feed.

Not to mention arranged marriages, which still go on today, are made so that the parents can make fat stacks off their children.



Marriage is more a 'nice ceremony' than something that you have to do to prove your love to your spouse.

How do you think gay couples have made it this far? They haven't been able to get married since the dawn of civilisation.

Answer 36

I married at 17 to my first husband after knowing him 6 weeks, lasted 3 yrs. I married my second husband at 24 after knowing him 2 years, lasted 5 years. I was 30 when I married my third husband after knowing him 5 years, THAT one lasted 26 years (and I was by his side when he died). I am now what we like to call "Mated". My Mate and I have been together 2.5 years after knowing each other 8 months. We are both entering our 60's and the "knot tying" just doesn't seem that important right now. So, there you have a bunch of data; all of which points to maybe there is NO right time to "tie the knot"?

Answer 37

Too much weight is what broke the bridge, and I guess this same dynamic can apply to how long a person can wait until they are no longer interested in the person. I'll go along with the 6 mos. or bust rule, b/c it doesn't usually take that long before you can notice a pattern of how someone treats you, consistently, and if it's more wishy-washy or starting to fade away, then it might be time to reconsider taking it any further, at this point.

Answer 38

Dont do it at all , if you trust the person then theres no need to include the government in your business, if someone says this but still the other wants to get married then theyre probably gold-digging , if you dont trust them then you shouldnt be thinking about marriage with that person anyway.



There is no better advice than this , and theres still no gaurantee of not getting stabbed in the back if you get married ,deal with it!



Imagine being married to a man for 9 years and the tenth year he says hes only with you cause he doesnt wanna lose his stuff , there go your best years , and i doubt a good man would wanna get married to a 30+ girl , those are 95% of the time former sluts that became gold diggers.

Answer 39

There is no set time and it is different with everyone. However, if you rush in, you have no idea what you are getting into. Everyone can pretend to be lovely for a few months. You need to see how your partner reacts in many different situations. Check on family too, they will give you lots of insights as to whether they are a great functioning family and have good principles.



You need a partner who totally respects you (and you do the same to them), as well as has your back in every situation. How do they react when you make a mistake? With love and care or do they put on a tantrum. If you accidentally crashed their car or other favourite thing - how would they treat you? If no respect, then don't continue with them.



What is their emotional IQ? This is very important. You don't want to marry someone who is childish and immature.

Answer 40

There is no one golden rule as each person has an individual perspective and what is considered by some to be a reasonable length of time to wait before getting married is not going to be shared by others. This decision comes down to personal choice, the connection between two people and what both parties respectively want from the relationship, both in the short term and the long term. Some people lead with their heart, others lead with their head and there is no right or wrong.

Answer 41

I can only speak to my own experience. My wife and I had known each other for about 6 years before we got married. We dated for a couple of years, then moved in together. We are still married 20+ years later. A large group of our friends have similar stories. They dated for a while, then lived together, then got married after several years. Of the friends we have who got married after just a few months of dating, 6 are divorced and one of those has been divorced twice already. And a couple of them are still married. I'm not trying to use this as a platform to say that what we did is the only way to go or that it's always the best way to go in every situation -- it's not intended to be a rule, just that this represents something that has worked in the real world.



In my opinion, there is only one rule about how long you should wait: Married life should not be a surprise. By the time you get married, your partner should be your best friend, and you should know your partner's career goals, financial habits, views on having children, home ownership, sports preferences, food preferences, sexual and affection demands, willingness to travel, allergies, fashion sense (if any), music likes, sense of humor, and their argument style among many other strengths and weaknesses of character. And you have to be able to see yourself with this person in light of all of those things, either because of or despite them.

Answer 42

In my experience I think all it takes is commitment. Which is hard to find. If you are both committed fully 100% then there is no time limit. I know some people say no one should be married anymore because nowadays people just throw it away. But there are still people out there that have old fashioned morals and my husband and I are proof of that.



We never lived together before we got married - hell I only saw him ONCE in person before we got married. We had an internet relationship from when I was 13 years old. Of course for the first year we didn't even know each other's names. Then it just grew. He is from England - I live in the states - surely it wouldn't work out. But it did. And I was committed from a VERY young age and I got lucky because he was the same. We had the same outlook (no sex before marriage, divorce is NOT an option we will work through problems, ...etc..) He is 3 years older than me. We found each other at 13 and 16 by chance in a yahoo chat room because we liked the same anime (Gundam Wing).



I did not have any boyfriends before him and he had no girlfriends. We snail mailed, e-mailed, chat, and used calling cards to talk on the phone. There was no question. We managed to keep our relationship going for 4 years strong without even seeing each other.



Finally when I was 17 my dad decided that I could meet him if I earned my own plane money. I worked all summer to earn that money and before I knew it I was on a plane to England with my dad. His family welcomed us and even treated us to lunch. I was only in his town for a day and a half. I gave him a hug and we held hands but never kissed. But from that point on both of us knew that we would be together and make it work even though we were from different countries.



I graduated high school and got married in the same year. I was 18. Our first kiss for the BOTH of us was at the alter. We were each others firsts for everything. Despite the whole world against us and the struggles to get him his green card we made it work and now this November we are going on 10 years married. I wouldn't change anything. We trust each other fully and are committed fully.



People have the power but it takes two people and you just have to find that person. Once you do then you don't wait - you go for it and that's what we did. I just happened to find love earlier in life and didn't let society pull me down when everyone told me it wouldn't work. I didn't care what anyone said about me and kept on pushing because that just fueled me even more to prove them wrong. Both of us have been through a lot and we have come out stronger than ever - nothing can tear us apart.

Answer 43

How long should you wait?



1. Till you finish your education



2. Till you know who you are and what you want in life. (this could be as late as the 30s-40s.)



3. Till you find that someone who drives you batsh*t crazy at the thought of being without them



4. Till you discuss major choices with that someone and find you agree on most things. (type of marriage ceremony, housing, where to live, children, careers, romance/sex, finances, pets, allergies, health, politics, spirituality/religion, in-laws, etc.)



Marriage is changing and evolving. I see people who are happily single forever, some dating, some not... I see people who stay single and live together, raising their children, I see people who are polyamorous in open marriages... and I see people who are serial monogamists divorcing over and over again so they can 'stay true' to the newest love of their life. The post-modern family is truly an enigma and hard to define -- traditions are changing so fast.



I have seen marriages thrive more often when people wait -- instead of marrying too soon because they feel the 'clock ticking.' It is a decision that truly gets the 'green light' when we find that both intuition (heart) and logic (mind) agree. If there is any doubt, or any feelings of pressure, this is a 'caution' light that should not be ignored.

Answer 44

Depends on those looking at the long term commitment. Some people would like to date for three or four years before they really know whether or not they want to marry that person. If divorce is an option, then don't even bother getting married. I'd say 2 years is long enough in my opinion, but again, it depends on the person. And ultimately, if it takes 4 yrs before you think you know someone enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them, then go for it.

Answer 45

the answer for this isn't any number of years... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate... marriage is a rose... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...

Answer 46

You should marry when you are comfortable with the other person. Wait untill you are positive that you want to marry that person. Make sure you get along, enjoy each other, ect. Know if you snd the other person have compatible living, just make sure you really want to some the rest of your life with the person.



Then, talk to the other person about marriage, see if you both have similar goals in the future. Always remember that you two will be spending the rest of your lives together. If you believe that the person is the correct person for you, then go for it as soon as you are ready. The is no right age or time. It is all up to you. As soon as you are ready, ask. And as soon as the other person is ready, they will answer.

Answer 47

people fall madly in love, thinking (feeling rather) that it shall last forever and is enough for a serious relationship... however, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long... eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course)... if couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc..., in some depth (obviously there shall be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc..., this can grow into a long and wonderful relationship... if one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership... it's easy to behave at our proper when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility... if a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship shall probably peter out eventually - or worse... quite often we fall in love 'cause we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us... thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful... this is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sugarually involved... sugar can be emotionally bonding, which is disastrous if the other things are not theNot sure what to say about this strong friendship, similar values and standards, common interests, etc...

Answer 48

I say minimum....one year. But you have to decide that for yourself. That being said......I have been with my man for almost 19 years. I am not the same person I was 19 years ago and neither is he. We have had ups and downs. We are still learning new things about each other. He continues to surprise me and we learn new stuff all the time. Some things he does I like, some things he does I hate. And the same vica versa. People change as the years go by. The key is being open to the change. Excepting what you can't change and being very honest with each other. Also you have to learn to let some things go. I love my man with all my heart, he is the best man I know. I wish sometimes he was more romantic but you know, that is OK. I can buy myself flowers. Good luck.

Answer 49

I think it depends on who we are going to tie the knot with. There are some exceptional people in this world, who we can believe in a short time and who we can love very easily. Who we want to be a life partner with, is a moralist, pious and liberal-minded one, then after waiting a short time we can create marital relationship with him/her; otherwise, after waiting a long time, our relationship may be broken.



Some love marriages happen after a long time affairs, but the couple can not sustain their marital relationship. On the other hand, some do marriage after knowing each other for a short period and the marital relationship remains intact forever.



A short period is enough for recognizing and realizing a good one. So, if our dear one is trustworthy and pious, we should tie the knot with him/her within a short time.

Answer 50

Firstly there has to be love between the two parties, a strong one, otherwise it is pointless. Secondly when I eventually plan to get married to the right girl (hope she is out there somewhere), I will wait at the very least a year and a half; it seems a good time for the two of you to get to know each other and know how you feel about each other. It can be any time after that, but as I say, it is the bare minimum that should be allowed.

Answer 51

No one correct answer...........there are too many factors..........how mature the person is for their age......



a very level headed 18 year old......or a still immature 35 year old..........there's no one set type.



Financial concerns are Always an issue.........two Young people working hard towards their goals might make it work..............two dreamers who think love pays the rent won't get far.



and then there's compatibility.............one of the main reasons for divorce is that OPPOSITES may attract intially...............they make for the WORST marriages-



Opposites are fun in the short turn....and you compliment each other and all that.........for awhile.



But for the LONG haul...........the last thing you want, is someone who does things the complete opposite from you.



So give it a good solid two years...........and if you don't think it's a good match by then............cut your losses and move on - I wouldn't waste more time than that, on someone I wasn't looking to definitely marry.

Answer 52

i don't think there's a designated right or wrong amount of time; however, i think someone should be careful and know that marriage is serious and can be difficult to get out of especially if children are in the mix... marriage should be not hastily run into, no one is perfect that is for sure but you don't want to blindly rush into a marriage that unhealthy... know the person well, use your mind and for example if it's only been 3 or 6 months, you have to really ask your self do you know them well enough to make a life long commitment?

Answer 53

Studies say you it takes 2-4 years to really know someone and waiting that long or longer makes it less likely for your marriage to end in divorce. So I'd say 2 year minimum, the longer the better. You can have to same level of commitment in a relationship with someone without being married. Marriage is a piece of paper. I would never legally tie myself to someone I didn't really know, I don't think age makes a difference.

Answer 54

I guess how old you are can play a bit part in this. If you're in your mid-thirties and you know yourself and you know what are good and bad signs in your partner, 6 months of being in a relationship before getting engaged might be reasonable. However if you're in your early-twenties then 2 or 3 years might be a better time to wait.

Obviously every couple is different and some couples might feel they need to wait longer than others.

Answer 55

funny enough, i used to (and in a way, still do) believe in the "two year rule," but i've been dating someone and we're quickly approaching the 2 year mark... we've had conversations about a life together, but at the same time we both have important academic goals we want to reach (she plans on pursuing law school, while i plan on medical school), so the conclusion we both came to was that if we got married and started a family, that would jeopardize the goals we want to meet... long story short, we both plan to continue to date until we're either done with grad school or are almost done...



that's quite a few years away as we're both in undergraduate, but we're optimistic and planning to tie the knot some day...

Answer 56

No matter how long you live or stay with a person you still want know them. I believe a year is long enough to know if you want to keep living in sin or kick that person to the curb. Think about it; we want be here forever so who wants to stay with a person 5 or 6 years waiting for that proposal that may never happen. Things happen and people either choose to stay together or get divorced, but don't waste a lifetime getting to know a person because you never will, and time is valuable, so either get married or move on to the next.

Answer 57

I think knot tying is a trait which should be taught at a very young age. Think about it, you never know when it might come in handy. Especially when buying something at Home Depot. Then it becomes a safety concern for the trip home. Nobody wants to lose something on the freeway.

Answer 58

Tying the knot is a part of the Hindu marriage ceremony where the garment of the bride and groom is tied is small knot as they take 7 rounds around the fire. White western wedding are different, isnt it??

Answer 59

I'm different in relationships. I know about a couple weeks in (or less) whether I want this person in my life or not. As such, 6 months. I guess I take after my parents. They knew each other 6 months before they got married, and they're still together. For other people, who don't have that kind of self awareness in romantic relationships, probably at least 2 years. I'm not a wishy washy person, I know what I want.

Answer 60

In my situation, I "jumped" into getting married when only 3 months shy of graduating from High School. I was already 18 years old...My Mother had told me at the time that as soon I graduated, she was going to kick me out of the House..I had a boyfriend and we "ran away" together,went to another State and got married from the Justice of the Peace. Now, looking back I know I've made a serious mistake and should have gone to live with my Grand parents and maybe take some courses/job training at the Voc. Tech instead.. We never had kids and so glad of that as they might have had to end up on welfare...I've been since divorced now for 24 years and don't regret it either...I'm now making plans to return to school and obtain job stills/training and hope I can make a desent living for my self...If I were you and planning to get married, ask your self is this what I really want? Go to School and do something with your life...find a good paying job..Than if I really want to get married then do it...First talk it over with your folks and your man you want to marry first...Good Luck to you and Hope I helped.

Answer 61

I'm not married, but I think it would take a long time for me. The way I see it this is different from person to person and relationship to relationship, and we shouldn't judge anyone else for their choices because we don't know how they feel. The most important thing, I think, is that you're marrying your best friend. Someone you can trust fully, whom you know and adore inside out, and whom you truly love; you're not just "in love" with them. And very importantly: They have to feel the same way about you. And last of all, you have to know in your heart that it's right. That doesn't mean you should marry the first person you fall for, but after a good while, if you ask yourself the question, I think you should know the answer in your heart. If you don't, you're not ready.

Answer 62

Presumptuous question. Who says marriage is for everyone? I will say, if you're in a position to marry your High School sweetheart, as in you're both going to the SAME college, on scholarship, and have your futures pretty much on lock, why not go for it, but if you get out of High School single or life pulls you away from the person you grew up with, sleep around and enjoy your 20s, and don't even consider marriage until you're at least 30.

Answer 63

i think if 2 people just want sex, they should make a commitment. one should ask someone within 2 years, or break up, and yet there are exception all around.

marriage with God is like the ultimate covenant, marriage with church are like till death do you part. civil marriage and common law marriage already exist to. Marry the right person at the right time, in the right place. the right time is before 24, maybe 30, the right place is in the TEMPLE, for time and all eternity. the thing about marriage though is we need to be mature and unself and discover what it means to be full partners. because salvation actually depends on a man and a wife being "faithful" (i.e. together).

Answer 64

Honestly, I m thinking no less than 3 years, longer if the couple is in their early 20 s. You want to experience all the sides of that person before committing to them for life. We continue to change throughout our life, though the biggest changes seem to occur in our 20 s and early 30 s. How a person deals with life is very important, how they handle conflict, how they handle finances, how they view life, how well they adjust to changes in life and their views on being a parent. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper and a name change. It is really easy to get a marriage license, plan a wedding and say I do. Though, when it turns bad it s really hard and expensive to end. No one goes into a marriage expecting it to end and if they do that should be their first sign. There is no need to rush, if a couple is meant to be together a lifetime, they will be together a lifetime with or without a piece of paper bonding them together.

Answer 65

I think the knot should be tied when you have built a bond between each other you know for sure you can love a person until the very end no matter what obstacle's you face, and like to share happiness with each other.

Answer 66

If you need to ask then don't! Marriage is a very, very serious thing!!! It's actually a legal and spiritual contract and it's neither right or fair to trivialize it. It's not something you should do simply you Valentine's or your friends have you thinking about that. Wake up! It's a minimum of at least two people's entire lives onward and it's fair if someone's love you and cares about you, and would willy-nilly marry someone else.

Answer 67

You need to wait until both you and your partner have mastered tying this specific knot proficiently, and in the same way as one another. Then you will be able to tie the knot as a team.

Answer 68

We met in college. I was a hometown boy while she stayed in the dorm. She then went on to med school while I rooted myself to a day job. We didn't move in together and it was painfully hard being apart for almost 4 years seeing each other only a few hours during weekends. All in all, I waited 7 years before popping the question. I guess it was all about trust more than anything else.



Since then we've been together for 21 years and I don't see that changing any time soon and forever.

Answer 69

preferably forever... a confirmed bachlorette here...

i think people live together at least 5 years before deciding if they want to have a future together--whether or not that includes marriage...

dating gives no indicator as to what a person is like day-to-day, hour-to-hour...

living with someone is the only way one can tell if the other person is a person one would be able to live with long-term...

one cannot tell how well another is at helping around the house if they do not live with that person... numerous women i know have gotten trapped into sub-slavery 'cause they haven't lived with a person --or lived with a person long enough--to realize that all the household chores,cooking, & child care shall fall on them...

cute little personality quirks become annoying habits when one has to live with such things... only living with someone for a while can determine if one can learn to ignore these habits...

also, you'll be able to find out if you are involved with an ambitious person or a couch potato... you shall be able to find out if you don't mind your partner staring at a screen 70% of her/his life, or playing video games instead of going out for a jog or hike with you--if that's what you're into...

and why 5 years? well, after 5 years the honeymoon is over and day-to-day doldrums set in... that's when you find out if you're capable of putting up with the other person...

don't get trapped... happy endings happen only on the big screen, not in reality... reality is fraught with difficulties and conflicts and ever-changing dynamics... the person you live with today shall be a much different person 2 decades from now... this is how it's suppose to be... life is fluid...

Answer 70

I am just appalled by some of the answers here. I feel terrible for their partners and it seems like they have no clue at all as to what love really is. It is not about stringing your partner along until you decide to work out your mental issues. If that is the case, you are not ready to love anyone.



People decide when to get married at different times. I think one year is just the right amount of time. It is important to be open in discussing marriage with your partner. If you guys are on different pages, it is probably time to move on. If you know they are right for you, don't let them get away.

Answer 71

If you understand what love is, and how to get to know somebody, and can control your desire to use them for sex, then it doesn't take near that long.



I'd known my wife for over 2 years before taking her on a date. Before I only saw her on occasion, just chatted every so often. After we went on a dozen or so dates we decided we were interested in dating exclusively. After about 3 months we had become best friends and decided that marriage was a good step. We were engaged for only 3 months before we got married.



It's now been 8 years and we still look forward to each day together.

Answer 72

Long enough to get to know my partner better, rushing into marriage mostly results into divorce because

because people did not take enough time to get to know each other better. I would stay up to 4 years with my partner before considering tying the knot.

Answer 73

It sounds like you want to know how to do the right thing and end up with the right person.



In that case, a woman may want to wait at least a year if she just met the person. If she's been knowing him and just started dating, maybe 6 months or so. If she's known him awhile and is in her late twenties or older, she may want to wait only 3 months.



Other factors would include having enough finances, a homestead, and being able to spend time and care for a spouse. Also, since her relationship will be unique to itself, she may want to feel it out and decide what sort of time frame she feels works best.

Answer 74

I think you've gotta go with your heart. When it feels right, it feels right. But if you feel like it's taking too long for you to get that right feeling, maybe you've gotta talk to your partner more, for example about seeing each other's future with each other definitely in it, what you really want from the relationship, if there are a few obstacles between the both of you that you just seem to keep waiting for themselves to fix, things like that. In the end it's up to one question: do I right now feel like I want to spend the rest of my life with this person? If yes, that's amazing. If not, make sure you get a move on to understand how you really feel and come to terms with your confusion. But then again people tend to have slightly different views/ reasons for marriage, but these days it's definitely very commonly for love.

Answer 75

If everyone is honest with themselves, anyone south of 30 years of age has not been through enough of life and matured enough to handle a responsibility such as marriage.



When you're married, you put away the facebook, text messaging friends of the opposite sex, and so forth.



Marriage has been turned into a fallback and convenience for 21-25 year olds who haven't experienced the real world.

Answer 76

A year

Answer 77

My parents got married after about 4-5 months, and have been together for 15 years. They even told me that that's too fast, but it worked for them. I would have waited longer, maybe about a year. You never know what that person is really like until you're stuck with them for the rest of life unless you want to go through the expensive process of divorce.

Answer 78

You're supposed to take the time to know the person, regardless of how long it takes. You should learn about them and understand their bad habbits, so that you can work on fixing them. Love in a realtionship is not about having a person who understands you and never judges you,l it's about know how crazy you both are. When was the last time you heard a couple discuss laundry? Watch the school of life on Youtube, they have great videos on the subject of love, romanticism and how you'll marry the wrong person.

Answer 79

It really depends on your mindset. I recommend living with someone first and finding out their financial background before marrying them. Marriage is just a piece of paper that ties you financially to another person. Which can be a blessing and a curse. It does give you power of attorney and whatnot for medical decisions but mostly, it's about money. I've been with my partner almost 7 years and I haven't married him yet because his credit is god awful and I don't want the responsibility of his debts. My parents dated a solid year before getting married and were happily wed until my father died from cancer after 13 years.

Answer 80

I think each couple is different. I know someone who married someone after a few weeks and they are still married after 10 year. I think that is rare...but love for each couple is different. Normally, I would say, do not jump in so quickly. Wait until you feel comfortable and really know someone. If you're serious about marriage and want it to last, then good things really do take time.



Love and marriage is a gift...and should be treated as such...it should not be unwrapped quickly...if it's right, then you really will know.

Answer 81

Do not listen to any of these naysayers. At most they can advise you on what to do but shouldn't tell you what to do. It and you & your partners choice & based on when you two feel comfortable. Whether it be two years or ten years. Now with almost any relationship, the honeymoon phase ends after about 6 months. After that point you two will start to see if you want to continue the relationship or not. Whether that means a long-term dating thing, engagement and/or eventually marriage.

Answer 82

Let's not complicate things. We know you don't know when to marry someone because you're not sure about your own life goals. The right time to marry someone is when you are satisfied with your own life. That's only when you can healthily and fully connect with someone else. Love like all relationships take some work and commitment, with the right person, you should WANT to do all these things and it takes some level of maturity to stick it out through thick and thin. That's all it takes.

Answer 83

Women are risky today, only good for short term sexual relationships. Its fun. You’ll notice outright hostility, various colorful insults and rage when women learn you keep every dollar you earn instead of wasting it on women and their frivolous whims. Particularly when they realize YOU know you don’t even need to take women out or pay for them in order to enjoy plenty of sexy time. A steep marriage decline currently at a 93-year low and the awakening of more men unwilling to sign fraudulent marriage contracts is the reason women are more promiscuous than ever.



If women "didn't care" like they pretended about what men do, there wouldn't be countless "where are all the good men" articles saturating the internet. BEGGING for a man. BEGGING. We, men even provided a solution to their problem, because women are too lazy and incapable of doing it themselves. They can find a good man within 5 miles from their homes. Lol!

Answer 84

Feelings can change alot over time so I think that after about three years of getting to know someone well might be a good time to tie the knot; assuming you are seeing oneanother on a regular basis.

Answer 85

each couple is different... there's no one specific time for a couple to get married... i have known young people that were ready at 17 and others who weren't ready at 35... as a general rule, i would say that a couple should get married when they are completely comfortable with the idea of sharing their lives together... they should be a peace with each other, no doubts, tensions or uncertainties... my wife and i were comfortable together and wanted to spend our time together... all thoughts of being with others vanished from our minds... we met in september, went on our first date in october, were engaged in november and were married the following may... i was 22 and she was 21... that was 42 years ago and we are still dating each other... the point is that we were able to be ourselves when we were together... there was nothing to hide, no stress about whether or not we were making a good impression, we were completely honest with each other... when a couple has reached that unity of togetherness, then there's no need to wait any longer than necessary to make the proper arrangements... long engagements are not encouraged... if you are not comfortable with each other, then you should not be engaged... if you are, then there's no need to wait for marriage...

Answer 86

Close to 2 years. Statistics also show that the couples with the best odds of not going through a divorce marry at around age 26. My father always said the most important decision you will make in your entire life is whom to marry. It can also be the worst mistake you can dream of. Divorce. Lost 50% of your assets or more. Lost access to children (whom may become more dear to you than your anticipated spouse). Your credit destroyed. Having the stigma of being divorced. Pissing off family and church leaders. Appearing "used" and "with baggage" to all potential new dates. Etc. Be very, VERY certain you are willing to risk all of the above for the person that has asked you to marry.

Answer 87

There may be no exact number. How should you know whether you have to wait 6 months or 6 years?

If you are lucky enough to find the right person of your life, you will know when to get married. You just know the time. You don't need to set a timeline for yourself, when should I get married, how long I have to wait...

Answer 88

I believe it is up to the couple and their prospecting families. They can choose to set a final date depending on the circumstances and financial situation. It is wise to tie the knot in after getting to know each other. Six months or a full year is long enough.

Answer 89

It depends, 2-4 years would be my answer. You shouldn't rush into things nor would a woman wait so long if she is desperate for a family of her own unless she loved only once and is willing to wait forever. Sometimes its hard to see what your partner is really like and often show their real colours once married so it should not be rushed. I wouldn't want to waste my time on someone who often like to cheats or not interested in marrying or commitment. Clocks ticking

Answer 90

For a long time now I've thought that 5 years sounds right.



Of course I would never just wait for a proposal. If I thought the time was right I'd do it myself.

Answer 91

Date at least six months before being engaged. Date at least one year after engagement before being married. If you are in your 30's, you and your intended should expect to pay for most or all of the wedding. A fancy wedding doesn't mean you will have a long, happy marriage.

Answer 92

I'd say 25 is a good time to get married at minimum since that's usually the age where you have your life somewhat stable (usually) but you should always wait until you are in a position of financial and emotional stability. Personally, I think you should date at least five years before marrying anyone, since then you know what they a truly like, know who they truly are and you know how you truly feel about them.

Answer 93

there is no time limit...I know couples who have been married for 40+ years who got engaged just a few weeks after meeting for the first time...I personally married my wife after just under 6 months of dating but we knew we wanted to get married almost immediately...it all depends on the people...on a side note, a few people mentioned living together first to test the relationship...problem with that is, there is no commitment...you could move in together and the second day get in a fight and you or your boyfriend/girlfriend moves out and this could be a constant issue...there is nothing keeping the other person there after any sort of fight...in marriage, you are in it for the long haul...of course, now days divorce is almost as easy as breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, but still the point is that there is very little commitment when you are just dating, and moving in together doesn't change that...if you are ready to move in with eachother, you should be talking about marriage because marriage is the only time you should be living together...otherwise it just sets you up for failure...

Answer 94

I'm a 43 year old woman. I've been married and widowed once. I will be marrying the love of my life very soon. I think that age, financial well being, mental readiness, and other factors play a part in how long you should wait.

Answer 95

I would give it 3 to 6 months minimum. You could live your life by statistics and follow the herd. However, I would advise that you listen to your head and follow your heart. There are plenty of divorced folks that waited a long time before marriage. And they can tell you how good waiting worked out for them.

Answer 96

There's no good answer because there's no reliable template. I know people who got engaged literally 24 hours after meeting and made it all the way to the end together. I've also known people who "dated" for years and years and years and then got married and it all fell apart right away.



Here's the best advice: trust those around you who love you. Hopefully you have one or more people in your life who want the best for you but are willing to call you out if you're being dumb. Take what they say to heart.

Answer 97

There is no need to EVER get married. In fact, I would positively recommend NOT GETTING MARRIED. Marriage does nothing to change a relationship. It just gives the poorer partner the legal option to claim money from the wealthier partner at a future time of their choosing if they decide to divorce. It is much better to just live as partners without the legal risk that arises from signing a marriage contract.

Answer 98

I believe we should remove premarital sex from our lives and society, only then will marriages actually become something serious. Right now they are pure jokes, i mean i live in a society where premarital sex isn't common and our marriages don't usually end in divorce, but there are some bad marriages here too. But not as much as the west.

Anyway it's just my opinion and i'm trying not to judge anyone so forgive me if i disrespected you or hurt you or your feelings in any other way.

Answer 99

Once you're sure their the one you want, go for it. Why wait?



People are dynamic not static. They change over time. It's not about figuring out who they'll be for the rest of their life. It's about deciding to jump on board and change together. There are no guarantees no matter how long you take.

Answer 100

Honestly it doesn't matter because love is love you can get married to someone after 3 months or 1 month, time doesn't matter because if your with the person you love who cares. And honestly doesn't even matter i know people that got married at 17 and are still married 28 years later and are so happy. I don't think time matter if you feel like you should pop the question go for it because, What if you wind up losing them and regretting. Also do you don't listen to other people because what other people say don't matter its your life.

Answer 101

My parents we're together for 14 years before they go married; but my ex's parents were together for 3 months before they got married. Both have been happily married for 15+ years. I suppose it just depends on the relationship, if you feel that strongly about someone you want to stay with them forever after three months just be ready to make adjustments on both sides of the relationship if need be. Or maybe your just happy being with your partner as was the case with my parents who essentially just got married for tax/legal benefits. Get married when it feels right in the relationship, there's no set point that you should be allowed to marry someone in my opinion.

Answer 102

Two years minimum. I was in my late twenties and had been dating my wife for several years when I decided that I wanted to get married. That changed my mentality entirely and I only wanted to get married once in my life so I decided to consider it for a year. If I still wanted to get married at that time I would do it. Didn't wait quite a year but close and we got married after a 3 month engagement. That was 35 years ago and we're still married, still happy, and enjoying grandchildren.

Answer 103

I would take at least 2 years to decide if that person can be my partner for life, anything less would be a dangerous play in my opinion. Maturity comes with age, so I believe if a person exhumes such a high level of maturity, I really don't mind the age.

Answer 104

I do not believe there is or should be a time . Each relationship is different and to set a time would be tricky. Marriage SHOULD be for life, thus a couple should first become companions, then friends, then lovers. I would wait at least six months before even proposing.

Answer 105

It depends on the couple. I had just graduated for college and my future husband was just out of the Navy in Jan. on 1968. We met at the end of the month and were married on May 30, 1968.Just over 3 months later.. We will celebrate our 48th wedding anniversary in 2 1/2 weeks.

Answer 106

When you're both ready. It's kind of nice when one is ready and one isn't, because the it tests the one who's ready's commitment. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, so if the one who isn't ready wants to wait, all it does is further prove the love of the person who's ready.



However, I've heard that the two year mark is a good time to consider marriage.

Answer 107

At least a full year......but making sure you COMMUNICATE big time about all your hopes and dreams and what you expect out of a marriage, your faith, if children are planned , making a good budget to stick to, goals set and how you relate to your friends family, To hop into marriage is a wrong move for the most part.

**I would want a person who is debt free, communicates, loves family, and associated with friends, above all has a wonderful faith, priorities straight....enjoy activities together and some separate........be flexible. Be honest and true.

Answer 108

It took me probably about 5 years left to break the purity clock, but to be honest: my first relationship is brief, and my second relationship lasted about a semester. And now, I'm a 20-year old "virgin with rage" and I still have no choice but to go with a potential someone of the same interest as me. Well, you just don't have to wait any longer. Just do whatever you wanna do, it's your life.

Answer 109

I think 5 years, It gives you long enough time to get over the honeymoon period, and let the other person demonstrates who they truly are, and for the two of you to know if you are compatible long term.



So do as I say but not as I did, I got married in about a year and a half, best time ever till he passed.

Answer 110

Certainly 2-3 years.

Answer 111

As long as it takes. maybe 3 years so sure move a long right. I would think near end of 3 years of dating things will get more boring. My heart makes me feel like it will want more done. I feel like I'm not the only one who would want more. That be then be the great time to decide making that leap or not to move things more forward and interesting.

Answer 112

5-7 years. People usually break up in year 5 or 7 because you've grown and changed so much. If you're in your 30's I'd say 2-3 years because while you're still growing your flaws and habits will not change to much so your partner won't have surprises

Answer 113

Realize marriage is a financial contract.



Men, are you sure you want to go there? If she won't work now, she's a gold-digger! Run away.



If you will have kids, then MAKE SURE she's the right one to have kids with. Maybe write a contract so you get to share in raising the kids. If you can't agree now, wrong woma



Women, are you sure about this guy? Will he be a good father? Are you sure??

Is he lazy now? It might get worse.

If you think you "can change him", you are WRONG!!!! Make sure you like the way he is now.

Answer 114

Depends on the relationship. I say 1-1 1/2 years but some people would disagree with me.



As for age.. if you really love that person age shouldn't matter at all.

Answer 115

At least two years, in order to really put the relationship to the test. Make sure that this person is in it for the long haul, and not just overly eager to merry someone(anyone that says yes), in an attempt to gain some form of superficial "fulfillment". If the person actually does love you, then they can wait at least two years.

Answer 116

The first year will be their game-face, making a good impression and trying hard to do it all well. I think 3 years is great , plus experiencing living with them too . Remember, you don't want a divorce so make sure they are what you want for the rest of your life, and having raising your kids too if you have any.

Answer 117

Couples shouldn't need to tie any knot. They should know if they're in love, and if they want to spend their lives together without "tying the knot".

Answer 118

My wife and i were together 8 weeks and got married that was 25 years ago.During the 40,s My mom and Dad knew each other a short time, married in 1944 and are still together as all most all my Dad brothers and sisters, researchers don,t no jack.

Answer 119

Research indicates that if the couple dates at least 2 years before marrying OR living together .. that the relationship is FAR more likely to last.

Answer 120

1 year.

Answer 121

Both partners should be at least 26 and should have known each other at least 2 years, preferably under stressful conditions at least once. Travel together to another country for a month or two is a good test.

Answer 122

My husband and I got married on our 1 year anniversary of being together. We have now been blissfully married for 3 years. I think that it is definitely different for everyone. I honestly believe that once you know, you feel it in your heart and that is the right time. .I had no doubts or worries at all. We got engaged in June and had a beautiful wedding one month later in the middle of August. It was everything I ever wanted and we spared no expense.

Answer 123

I simply answer it,if i love the person,y not?.. i can wait how matters it long...but remember always i am only a person can feel tired for you to wait that long time..thats the love there is a right time for that... thats why you have to wait,, but sometimes it can feel tired because you don't have assurance that the person has a reason why she/he need to come back...

Answer 124

If by knot, you mean marry, I think you should wait a year and a half. You should have an idea of who they are by then. If you mean what age, I believe around 30-33. If you mean hump/bang/wild thang/ bump n grind/ get it on/ sideways boogy/ smash/ woop that thang/ get it in/ do the do/ grind/ groove/ knock them boots..OFF/ take her down/ wax that/ tap that??? I'd say about 18 yo.

Answer 125

I would say 4-5 years at least but that's just my opinion. Although if you are 100% SURE that you both equally love each other and you think you're both very stable in the relationship emotionally then maybe go for it!

Answer 126

14 months, 16 days, 27 hours, 15 minutes, and 27 seconds after the third date; unless the second date was a nice dinner out, in which case, you start counting exactly half-way between the second -dates ending and the third dates beginning. Failure to ask at this exact time will result in a failed marriage.

Answer 127

If marriage is your goal (and it isn't for everyone) then I think no more than 3 years after you start dating. If you're not sure by then you never will be and you're probably only doing it to make the other person happy.

Answer 128

I would say as long as it takes to read through a list of the horrible things that can happen in a divorce.



Situations 180. That's a fact of life.

Answer 129

you need to wait until both you and your partner have mastered tying this specific knot proficiently, and in the same way as one another... then you shall be able to tie the knot as a team...

Answer 130

This may be highly modern, but I feel moving in and cohabiting is more important than marriage initially, then you should get married if you feel committed because divorce is expensive etc. and you shouldn't bother getting legally joined unless you won't go through the hassle of divorce. Living together then separating is much cheaper and hassle-free

Answer 131

In the past when we rode horses a person got married from 10 and up. People only lived to about 40 back then.

Answer 132

I would say 2-3 years would be more suitable but Hey I've seen people get married after they had been together for 1 year.

Answer 133

George and Laura Bush didn't know each other for too long before marrying. Same goes for Lyndon and Lady Bird Johnson. They were (and the Bushes still are) married for decades. I think it depends on the people involved.

Answer 134

Well I mean if you're into that sort of thing....we're tolerant these days just make sure it's safe. I've never seen the sexual appeal of tying somebody up but y'know....go for it. About six months I'd say.

Answer 135

This is a personal matter. I know of a couple who got engaged within 15 minutes of meeting one another. The guy fell for her and asked her to marry him. They married a year later. I know of others who waited and lived together only to divorce shortly after marrying. I know of a famous couple who weren't even a couple. They got drunk and got married. The guy asked for and got an annulment the following day. The woman was devastated.



It really is a personal matter.

Answer 136

My fiance proposed to me within the short period of 2 years, I rejected the proposal and told him neither one of us were ready. He asked me again about 3 years later and I accepted. He told me later on that he didn't think anything through and just wanted to rush into marriage, when in reality, we were both still in an early stage of our relationship. I think it takes time for a relationship to develop or grow. I think after at least the 3rd year in a relationship is when people actually consider spending the rest of their life with their significant other. But unlike myself, some people just see themselves with their partner in a really early stage of dating. It takes me a while, but I eventually come around.

Answer 137

During my psychology class I learned that it takes an average person, two and a half years, living under the same roof, every day, to 100% get to know someone.

This....THIS is the key to finding if you are ready for marriage or not. During that time you get to know their faults (cause after all when we get to know someone, its usually natural to know whats best about them first)

If you can accept their faults, and live with them for that long and STILL be happy with each other. Then you know he or she is worth marrying.

Answer 138

It depends. What is important, is that the two persons really love each other very much and know each other very well. If the woman is pregnant, the man should not wait to pop the question if he really loves her and that gentle creature inside her.

It's the 21st century, so age doesn't matter very much.

Answer 139

I agree that after the six mont period that you should know if that person is the right fit for you. Getting married is a big deal, wedding etc. I beleieve that you should live together first and see how you work together after the six month period and then decide when to plan. 2-3 years.

Answer 140

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Answer 141

The best time for a man to marry. Is when he has enough money in one Country to live on there. Then goes to a other Country to marry & live there with her. That way when she files for devorce in her Country she can get it. But not his money. He can then go to a different Country to remarry. And forget old wounds. While the exwife picks up cans of the street & such to survive.

Answer 142

It is up to you and the other person whom you are involved with to make that decision. Not your family, Not coworkers or SO CALLED friends.

However, my sincere opinion is the best time is when the BOTH OF YOU are financially STABLE. When the both of you are SECURE within yourself.

When the two of you are HAPPY with your lives. If and when you are SECURE in YOUR relationship and not going to be JEALOUS if the person to whom you are to marry receives sincere friendship of others,

This would all be a good start.

Answer 143

I would not put a particular time frame on it but I knew my late husband for 5 years as our studies made marriage impractical he died at 27 and we never really settled into marriage. After a period of three years I met my darling Seamus, we raised the question of marriage several times during the 22 years we were together but as neither of us was particularly bothered. We did however make joint wills and all property was in joint names. However prior to living together we discussed many things in order to determine that we were compatible. Mundane things such as joint finances, household duties, wanting children or not, freedom to pursue our separate interests, shared interests and religion (he was Catholic, I am Atheist.) We were great friends and lovers but when he became ill the strong bounds of friendship kept us together. When he died I gave him a full Catholic funeral. I have never looked for another man. The length of time prior to marriage is to me, less important than the communication to inform compatibility.

Answer 144

LET GOD LEAD YOU. he found the perfect time for me and my future spouse to meet, and is growing usup to become one. We are twins spiritually and our spiritsjump for joy when we are near eachother.We have grown closerto God and will do ministry together,aswe areon the same page. What God gives me he gives my spouse the other half, it truly is a bliss. We are both only 20/21 so we are learning and lovingit.in the ourting stage we unerstand that its were you grow muscles and gain a foundation. He is almost everything I wished for and God allowed me to understand that he will growto be the 100% package as we grow. Id say le God decide when the guy should propose,as he willl decide the right time when both are ready.Check out HEATHER LINDSEY FOR GODLY SPOUSE ENCOURGAGEMENT :)

Answer 145

You should tie their knots as soon as you abduct them. Ive made the mistake of waiting before and it never ends up pretty.

Answer 146

I have a hundred foot rope and a book describing how to tie 601 knots but why is this even that interesting?

Answer 147

Don t to that **** people do in USA where they marry after 1 year together. Take your ******* time. If you want to be together forever, then why marry fast? Date, live together for a few years. I ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years, since we were 16, and we don t want to get married until we re like 30. We ve got no hurry, we want to be together so there s no need to get marries STRAIGHT away. And if your partner doesn t get that and wants to rush you into it, maybe you re in the wrong relationship.

Answer 148

I don't think one size fits all on this one. I met my wife online. We talked for 3 months then she moved in. Six months after that we got married. That was 16 years ago and everything has been great ever since.

Answer 149

As long as possible. Marriage has ruined many a good relationship.

You don't need a piece of paper to have a long, happy, lasting relationship.

Answer 150

I'm thinking at least five years long enough to see what differences each other have also as a point to see if it would last

Answer 151

Until I'm 62.

Answer 152

You don't want to rush things. people say you never finish knowing a person no matter how long you've know/been with them try to see if you can picture them not in you life. Also try to imagine your feature with them(be realistic with yourself). Therefore i would say to wait about a year and a half.

Answer 153

3 years of dating, 4 years of living together. So 7 altogether. Minimum.

Answer 154

There's no right time, if he/she is the one you will know when the right time is to tie the knot, no matter how much time you have known each other.

Answer 155

Really depends what you are tying a knot in.

Answer 156

I once read advice to the effect that people should not get married before they had summered and wintered together - ie they had known each other for at least a year

Answer 157

4 years before marriage. A guy can be 10 years older than me. (Once I turn 20.) He could only be 1-2 years younger than me though. Those are my preferences.

Answer 158

Fits like a comfortable slipper and feel no need to impress anyone.

Watch a movie, with popcorn and do not feel a need to say anything. Why? because you are that comfortable with each other.

Married for 27 years.

Answer 159

It depends on a persons beliefs of their raising. For those that believe in their got, intuition, Christian faith, or some may say are hopeless romantics, there is no time frame. There is "one" and knowing that it will work comes as natural as breathing.



Then again, you can learn to love (or like) anyone after sleeping with them, living with them, meeting their family, and their bad habits. Its preference.

Answer 160

10 days

Answer 161

a year

Answer 162

Everyone so far is WRONG WRONG WRONG. They think think they know what marriage is supposed to be. It is NOT ABOUT THEM. It is about CHILDREN. A marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman to start a family and raise CHILDREN. Both should wait until 30...and not lump bullcrap expectations on top of it.

Answer 163

Every couple is different, but i don't think that rushing into a marriage in a few mere months is ever a good idea

Answer 164

Honestly, you should wait until you know everything there is to know about the person. You should definitely wait a couple years I think. You should get to know the person and their heart and soul. Make sure you share just about everything with each other.

Answer 165

It depends entirely on the chemistry between the two people. My wife and I dated for approx. 6-8 months and then married. We now have three children and six grandchildren in our lives and are happily looking forward to our 30th anniversary coming up.

Answer 166

I think that if they are both ready to get married yeah go for it! I think after 1 year they should know if they really want to be with each other. I think love is love no matter what the time

Answer 167

I think you should be 25 and working so you can financially support each other, and date for 3 years or so before marriage.

Answer 168

If you feel like asking dis question. Currently you are not in right relationship.



Important is to feel good every moment that doubt doesnt cross your mind ever.



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If theres a doubt its only because our heart knows its wrong.

Answer 169

2 years, at least. People need to take some time to get to know each other detailed. Get married in a year or just few days are just impulsive actions.

Answer 170

We met on a blind date.On our 2nd date 48 hours later he TOLD me we would marry.We did 4 months later.Perfect love,life,and marriage until he died in bed by my side unexpectedly from a heart attack.We were both robbed,but so blessed by the wonderful love for each other and the marriage we did have.

Answer 171

I would only wait 2 years after being engaged.

Answer 172

It honestly depends. I got married after three years of having a girlfriend. I got married three years after because I really loved my girlfriend, and I wanted to share my unconditional love with her. I wanted to have kids with her. I wanted to spend the rest of my life by her side.

You should only get married if you FEEL you are ready, and that you are ready to give your love to your new lifelong partner. Also only get married if you love her so much, you will not get tired of her. That is something VERY important.

Answer 173

I think you should be a couple for 2 - 4 years to know each other. Then let the love flutter.

Answer 174

When it's someone you CAN and want to spend the rest of your life with. It doesn't really matter how long, so well as this is met.

Answer 175

I think that three years when you and your potential partner are in a long distance relationship, and other three years of living apart. That describes mine and wife's situation and it was a long time together. Good luck.

Answer 176

Atleast 5 years, I'm guessing.

Answer 177

According to my experience, me and my better half waited for 10 years, we started contacting or dating in 2005 and at that time both of us are studying then after that job issue. I told her and her family to give me 2 years and il be back with the job and Thanks God it happened and i got job and i went to her home with my parents and proposed her and now she is my wife infact its 4th month going on for her pregnancy. All started and ended and now beginning on a happy note is just because we waited and trusted each others commitment and waited till we have our own choice of jobs



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Answer 178

1- 1 1/2 years is a nice figure to work with

Answer 179

It depends on many things. But I think between 6 moths and 2 years is good.

Answer 180

at least 1 full year of actually knowing some one face to face there is something about that last few months say 9/12 where people start to let down their guard and become their real selves.

Answer 181

At the very least 2 years.

Answer 182

I think they should at least be dating for 4 years so they know they are perfect for each other. During those 4 years though they have to not heat on each other.

Answer 183

I met a girl in the afternoon and proposed that evening, she accepted and we married three months later. It lasted fifty-six years and we were very much in love. She passed away in 2010 aged seventy-six and I mourn her loss daily. However it is horses for courses, what worked for us may not work for all.

Answer 184

I think you should do it whenever you're ready. Personally, I'm going to wait until I'm done with college..... so in about 10- 15 years! ( :

Answer 185

It depends on how old you and your future spouse are. I obviously wouldn't pop the question if we were still in school/college. Be together AT LEAST a year, move out, get jobs, etc.

Answer 186

Minimum of a year. I'm getting married next week after seven years.

Answer 187

My parents married within three days. Still together 28 years later.

Answer 188

1 day

Answer 189

At least one year. You should not rush into a lifelong commitment without taking out enough time to get to know a person.

Answer 190

There's so little difference between marriage and living together - none in law, need be none in loving. Not sure I can see the point.

Answer 191

I haven't found mine or maybe my relationships have hardly lasted a year. So its only when you are destined to, will you get married .... and therefore so goes the saying marriages are made in heaven.

Answer 192

The real question to ask yourself is...should you tie the knot with someone??it is not because everybody does that you should and it is not because you think you can than you should...

Answer 193

Not until you have gone camping with him for at least 2 weeks, met and spent time with all his/her kids, lived in the same house platonically, met and spent time with his/her parents, gotten approval from all his/her friends and relatives. ..... Then wait 10 more years just to be sure.

Answer 194

Once they're old enough to wear shoes so I would say a couple years after birth and then show them how to tie a shoe lace.

Answer 195

Two years.

Answer 196

2-6 years. You need to learn your partner's habits, personality, etc. The longer, the better

Answer 197

Reminds me of an old song. "Fools in where wise men fear to tread". And marriage is definitely one of those things rushing into is sometimes the only way to get something done where, if thought about, someone would not do.

Answer 198

as long as it takes you to be sure you really love and appreciate the values of the Person Man or Woman I passionately Love everything the best of the Mongols who of 90% Mongol race now face genocide stood for and did

Answer 199

As long as you both feel is the right time. Nobody's business. Provided you have the legal capacity to marry, it is your business and your business alone.

Answer 200

I knew my husband for one year before he proposed on our first anniversary. We have been married since with a baby on the way and I could never love anybody else as much as I love him!

Answer 201

before the girl turns 40

Answer 202

MINIMUM 1 and a bit years! Anything more than 10 years is not right.

Answer 203

Until you feel like this person is willing to become a better person for your benefit, and you are willing to become a better person for them. I believe you should be completely honest with them, and trust them. Marriage is no small matter, and I think you should treasure your other half and remind them of your love daily.

Answer 204

Forever. Marriage is an outdated concept that just doesn't work in modern times.

Answer 205

We met in June of 89 and got married that same year, and that was 27 years ago.

Answer 206

A person maybe don't have to have 6 children prior to making your own vows.

Answer 207

I can only speak from my own experience. ... We dated for a year before marriage, and then were married for 61 years before I lost him to cancer last year.



My observation on "living together" before marriage, is that marriages lasted longer before that became the norm.

Answer 208

We waited until she was 5 months pregnant

Answer 209

I probably will have to wait until I get a stable job and have enough money. it's important, because you never know why you gonna need that after marriage.

Answer 210

2 years min

Answer 211

Its a contract. As long as you are happy with the term you dont need to wait.

Answer 212

I think wait till you're about 25 if you're female and 29-30 if you're male.

Answer 213

Apparently couples who live together for around six years are much less likely to divorce later on

Answer 214

I think it depends - for me I don't think I could marry someone unless I knew them very well and there was a great deal of mutual trust and respect, but my dad asked my mother to marry him after the 2nd time he met her and they stayed married until her death 42 years later and he asked his second wife to marry him the 2nd time he met her and they stayed married until his death I think 4 -5 years later. so I guess it depends.

Answer 215

Half a year or more. It's hard to say since I'm not married.

Answer 216

When their knot starts swelling after its gently pulled out of its sheathe.

Answer 217

Forever. If you're a man, marriage hold no advantage or benefit for you. Nothing but disadvantage.

Answer 218

don't!!!! Marriage is a way of controlling the population. **** whoever you want. love isn't real! Hope this helps.

Answer 219

2 years.

Get to know them well and be sure they don't have Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Answer 220

The LAST place to go for marriage advice is Yahoo Answers.

Answer 221

Don't it's a complete waste of time - it only ends up in divorce.

Answer 222

You should always wait till other knots are untangled.

Answer 223

Never - single is just fine. Get a dog if you need company. They are much more loving and easier to get along with, to feed, and to clean up after.

Answer 224

2 years the relationship needs to be put to the test

Answer 225

2 years at least

Answer 226

About a year to wait for them to be comforable enough to act their real way and show their true feelings.

Answer 227

I think 1-2 years is fine but it depends on your age, maturity and mindset.

Answer 228

You get married when you feel like you could trust and stay with your person forever. No being unsure or don't get married if you feel rushed or pressured.

Answer 229

The right time to get married is when you can survive ok after you get divorced and your wife takes half of what you own.

Answer 230

Before your fully mature and act like it.Have a job,house,car, and money for the wedding

Answer 231

well i'm 17 so all say 7 years

Answer 232

Only the 2 individuals getting married knows that answer. Any other response is ignorant and judgemental. Thanks for encouraging people to judge other's lifestyles yahoo.

Answer 233

Based on personal experience, the time will obviously vary between age of the individuals. I think the key factor is how far along in the relationship are you? By this I do not mean you "think" you love someone you ve dated for the past X amount of years, but what happened during that time makes you want to stay together.



I m only 24, my fiancée 23 and we have been through some pretty tough times. For most it may be arguments, money, and differences in opinions, but her and I share a lot of the same parenting, social, and economic views. But we were initially going to wait until we were 27-28 years old before we thought about marriage, but something happened that made this process go a little quicker.



At the risk of sounding selfish and eccentric, I do not mean to when I say this. But for us, I was involved in a serious motor vehicle accident. I was hospitalised for a month where I was in a coma for a week, and I have an acquired brain injury because of this. During the beginning stage of when I was first emitted into the hospital, I was unconscious and had to undergo brain surgery. My girlfriend at the time was there first, signed the papers, and because of her I am still here living today.



She stuck by my side the entire time I was in a coma, left her job to be by my side, and her and her dad started the insurance process for me (as his job is based around law and legal issues). She basically did what a priest would ask you on your wedding day, which in this case was "will you stick by them, through sickness and health?". She did.



So for us, I knew she was the girl I wanted to marry before the accident, but seeing everything AFTER I knew I had to make it happen. We are still young, and only 3.5 years into our relationship, we met in college, and we share a lot of the same views. Yes our age and length of relationship is shorter than I would say is needed for our age, but in my personal experience if you have all that stuff and then add in the wedding vows involuntarily and STILL stay by each others side, then THAT is what means you are ready.



So yes, as you get older the wait time to get married is short, and as you are younger the wait time should be longer. But what happens in those years in the relationship is also a factor in my opinion. If you have lots of ups and downs and it is a healthy relationship otherwise, I believe the only thing that should come in to consideration is how YOU feel when you should pop the question (and obviously knowing she or he is wanting that too!)

Answer 234

As long as it takes to get to know each other well enough to feel that the person is the right person to be your lifelong soulmate.

Answer 235

Forever - don't do it.

Answer 236

2 years

Answer 237

1 and half hours and ur set

Answer 238

It is not how long you should wait. What is important is that you must know your partner very well first and what are your limitations before both of you time the knot.

Answer 239

Why get married?



You will not love the person anymore the day after you get married then you did before you got married.



A marriage does not mean commitment and someone will stay with you forever. Think about how many marriages have ended in divorce.



I have been with my Gf for 22 year.



What is the true point of marriage these days? There is no point.

Answer 240

I dated my husband for five years before we got married.

Answer 241

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 242

Until you are sure she is not gonna rob u blind! (lol) ;-0)

Answer 243

the answer for this isn't any number of years........................... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other........................... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage........................... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...........................



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...........................)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...........................)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship........................... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad........................... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example........................... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage........................... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities........................... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate........................... marriage is a rose........................... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns........................... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...........................

Answer 244

I think about 2 years if it is a stable relationship

Answer 245

4 ever since its a lot easier to quit each other and i am speaking from experience. living toghether should be enough if love is present.

Answer 246

I would ask the couple who are getting married the reason for marrying. Only 20 years ago, many people would get married fairly young (in their 20's) so that they would not be tempted to have sex outside of marriage. Fifty years ago, marriage was classed as a long term commitment and any pregnancy outside of marriage was considered a negative situation.



Many persons with a religious faith tradition, and many cultures, would view virginity as an important prerequisite for marriage. Today, this is very much a prerequisite in many Asian countries, though Western influences, together with overseas study, has become common.



In Western societies, the 1960's signalled the 'sexual revolution', and the 1970's 'no-fault' divorces. The 1990's were the 'living together' defacto-arrangements, the 2000s couples appear to have children or babies and don't seem to marry at all. Or else, the female is often waiting for the male to make the proposal.



Today, we see attempts to redefine the terms of marriage again - not merely between a man and woman. Personally, I believe that marriage has been tremendously undermined, and that many who do get married today may not understand the true value of marriage and emphasise only the

'wedding' ceremony. This is a result of previous generations' experimentation with new and different ways of relationship (seen above), the retreat from the traditional Christian values of marriage within the Western society (which emphasised a lifelong commitment, serving the other partner and not just running away because of 'feelings'); and because of the deep pain subsequently caused by seeing their own parents or friends separating from their original partners.

I come from as strong Christian faith and have been married for sixteen years. I was married after one year of dating. My sister-in-law ensured she developed a strong friendship with her future husband, and they worked on developing this for two years before marriage. They neither kissed, nor engaged in any sexual behaviour, until their honeymoon.



Hence, it all depends on the outlook of the person. Some research has stated defacto arrangements increase the rate of marriage failures, Others say that pre-marriage counselling is an important function to ensuring marriages do not fail. Others say that having a correct understanding of what marriage is for and to come with a perception that it is a lifelong commitment for the raising of children, and that love is not a mere feeling but a deliberate act of the will to be together no matter what - being wiling to negotiate, compromise and problem solve together to maintain its stability.

Look at these factors, and you will find that, no matter how long you wait to 'tie the knot', your marriage can be a successful one if you and your partner are faithful to each other and committed to stay together.

Answer 247

You should date for at least a year, then live together as you may find you both have habits that annoy the hell out of the other.

Answer 248

Date them for a good 6 months first, then move in with them, at some point in there meet their friends and see if you get along, then it's meet the family time, and if all of that goes well and you still want to be together. Then you can get married.

Answer 249

Move in together with that person ,so if it works for you,you are all set!

Answer 250

until you are 20 through 30

Answer 251

I don't know?

Answer 252

never get married. who cares if the government knows youre together its just a liability. plus youre more likely to get divorced than not. maybe you want god to know your in love with someone? well gods not real, but if you believe then why would god give a **** about you clearly he doesnt. so whats left why else would you get married society telling you to do it. F society

Answer 253

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 254

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 255

the answer for this isn't any number of years........................... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other........................... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage........................... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years...........................



are you ready to marry in my opinion?



are you both over 18?



are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing...........................)



are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?



are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)



do you trust your partner?



are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect...........................)



if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship........................... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad........................... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example........................... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage........................... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities........................... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate........................... marriage is a rose........................... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns........................... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns...........................

Answer 256

I think at LEAST 1 year for anyone, because although there are some successful cases you don't truly know if it's love or infactuation for the first year and you don't know the ins and outs of that person and their dark parts. Personally though I'd wait 2-3 years

Answer 257

I ve been with someone for 4 years, and I ve known them for 10 years. I thought he was Mr perfect and I understood everything about him, and we were eachother s everything.

But I later found out that he cheated on me, and he wasn t the guy I thought. I was upset and heartbroken, and I thought this was over. I thought I could never like someone again, and it made me suicidal. WHat I m trying to say is years aren t enough to tie a knot. You should be able to see that they would swacrifice things for you, for you to tie a knot with them.

That guy ws really flirtatious, he would talk really nice and be polite, but I didn t see that he actually liked me. I was confused as he would flirt with me and everything, but if I was upset, he could go about without caring about how I felt. I knew he didn t think of me to the extent I thought of him, but it took me four years to realise that and come to terms with it.

Answer 258

sometimes "you just know they are the right person"... it is hard to describe what "that feeling is" you know it when you feel it...

otherwise 7 years shall tell you a lot about the other person...

... having premarital sugar with that person just messes both of your mind up with confusion...

... in 7 years you shall know a lot about the person, especially their emotional illogical responses to situations... one is geared in the feelings department, the other in the logic department, so the 2 people really can understand whether they themselves can handle the other person's mood swings(or not)or whether you can fix them...(we all try to mold the other person)... when that does not work, they split...

... it has become too easy to do that... the moral compass is broken...



but then what do i know? my parents met on the ship(not the titanic) he did not speak her language and she not his(both from europe)... 3 months later they were wed in the courthouse 'cause that is all they could afford and( 9 months after the wedding the first child was born) & raised 4 children to young adults by the time the husband died from heart failure at 77... or 51 years of marriage...

it is upbringing.........and moral values... they only had each other... they "had to" make it... there was no other option in those days...

... my mom still misses him and it has been 9 years...

Answer 259

I would say 4 years honestly.

Answer 260

Dear Y!A,

I followed this question by accident 3 months ago, and immediately unfollowed it. WHY DO I KEEP GETTING NOTIFICATIONS?!? It needs to stop!



PS: To answer the question, I say 4 years and when both parties are comfortable.

Answer 261

A couple of years before you know better your potential spouse

Answer 262

One year.

Answer 263

Less time than the amount of time it takes Y/A to allow avatar and name changes

Answer 264

I believe that it completely depends on the couple and the circumstances.



My husband and I were friends for nine days. He then asked, "Will you marry me next weekend?" My reply was, literally, " Yes!" We were engaged for eight days. We were married on the 17th day - and we celebrated our 45th anniversary. three weeks ago!



People told us it wouldn't last!

Answer 265

Depends how long you've know them. if you knew them before you started dating. or if not. some people hid behind a fantasy mask

Answer 266

2 or 3 years from when you knew you were serious until you marry.

Answer 267

Whenever I feel like I am ready. No one has to be married or set a certain time to be married, unless they want.

Answer 268

how long should you wait?

forever.

there is no reason to believe that a relationship gets better with marriage.

keep it single and committed.

Answer 269

I feel like you should be together for at least a year but have known each other for at least two years.

Answer 270

I would say 3 years!

Answer 271

5 years

2 years is too little.

Answer 272

at least 10 million years

Answer 273

Wait until you get them to sign up for a good life insurance policy. $500,000 is ideal.

Answer 274

4 yrs

Answer 275

I see you neglected to mention gay marriage in your question, yahoo answers team you're a pathetic and homophobic disgrace.

Answer 276

If you try to find a someone, you cant have a good life in the future.

Answer 277

Depends on the people involved

Answer 278

When you both decide its finally ready. I know people who only dated for a few months and got married...

Answer 279

idealy before you got limp and before she turns into a proper ho LOL





trust me bruv, if you wait too long - mans will be boning her good.



so time is of the essence i say.



get in there ! ^_^



lol

Answer 280

Minimum of three years living together

Answer 281

You'll know. It shouldn't matter how long. It should fell right.

Answer 282

Todays idea of marriage is ******* stupid mostly everyone is following the open marriage style when it should be with the one person you love

Answer 283

Hi so who gets married these days not many now most just think it is old fashioned.

Answer 284

all up to chemistry and the relationship



if you're both comfortable and happy

Answer 285

It depends. For me, if we can get along with each other for couple of years, then decided to marry.

Answer 286

in my opinion there is no time limit, you should know when the time is right if you don't then your not ready to marry that someone special .

Answer 287

ive been with my partner 14 years were not married

she wears a big blinger on her engagement finger but its never crossed our minds

marriage is only control on both parties minds

Answer 288

Don't ever marry, waste of money

Answer 289

What a bs question. If we could answer that we wouldn't have divorce

Answer 290

1 day may be

Answer 291

at least 60 years

Answer 292

Until you know that they are exactly what you always dreamed of after knowing them for a few years I think.

Answer 293

Depends of the trust of each person, there is no minimum time for that

Answer 294

Hey thar boy, Be this a lynchin' or a weddin' ???

Answer 295

untill you feel like its a good relationship and you think that you want to spend the rest off your life with

Answer 296

There is no god time, don't wait do it now! If you wait you will never do it

Answer 297

I think you should wait a few months

Answer 298

live together first i say 5 years and a 2 extra...just in case an itch?

Answer 299

As long as possible!



The more you wait, the more beneficial it is!

Answer 300

long enough about 6+

Answer 301

You shouldn't be waiting. You should be living.

Answer 302

Until there is no doubt that you share each others best interests for better and for worse.

Answer 303

Until God gives you clear direction to marry.

Answer 304

When the time is right, if the feelings increase

Answer 305

I am so in love with this guy at work. If we were together, I would want to marry him rightaway. I would say yes, yes,yes!

Answer 306

Until the 12th of Never.

Answer 307

What does it matter these days? Marry whatever you want, when you want and divorce it when you get tired of it. No biggy

Answer 308

1 month max

Answer 309

It really depends on the condition s

Answer 310

Maybe when they need help tying their shoes?

Answer 311

I am a very nice boy , And good heart , In a relationship i love so much , Everything about me is love an care , Please let me use chance to beg you all, I am single and i need a good relationship , Real one not fake , I need to be marriage , Please i am begging you all get me one, Any good one ,,,THANKS

Answer 312

Never

Answer 313

8 YEARS!

Answer 314

As long as you can resist having sex with them

Answer 315

time is nonsense... by the time u meet the right person even 4 months could be enough

Answer 316

You should wait one day.

Answer 317

I don't think there is right or wrong answer for this question.

Answer 318

long enough for the feeling to subside

Answer 319

More importantly make sure you have a pre-nuptial agreement.

Answer 320

dating older woman

Answer 321

preferably forever... a confirmed bachlorette here...

i think people live together at least 5 years before deciding if they want to have a future together--whether or not that includes marriage...

dating gives no indicator as to what a person is like day-to-day, hour-to-hour...

living with someone is the only way one can tell if the other person is a person one would be able to live with long-term...

one cannot tell how well another is at helping around the house if they do not live with that person... numerous women i know have gotten trapped into sub-slavery 'cause they haven't lived with a person --or lived with a person long enough--to realize that all the household chores,cooking, & child care shall fall on them...

cute little personality quirks become annoying habits when one has to live with such things... only living with someone for a while can determine if one can learn to ignore these habits...

also, you'll be able to find out if you are involved with an ambitious person or a couch potato... you shall be able to find out if you don't mind your partner staring at a screen 70% of her/his life, or playing video games instead of going out for a jog or hike with you--if that's what you're into...

and why 5 years? well, after 5 years the honeymoon is over and day-to-day doldrums set in... that's when you find out if you're capable of putting up with the other person...

don't get trapped... happy endings happen only on the big screen, not in reality... reality is fraught with difficulties and conflicts and ever-changing dynamics... the person you live with today shall be a much different person 2 decades from now... this is how it's suppose to be... life is fluid...

Answer 322

Getting married is never okay.

Answer 323

As long as you feel ready.

Answer 324

69 days.

Answer 325

16 & pregnant, 18 & married

Answer 326

as long as you feel it would take to figure out if it is worth it

Answer 327

If the love is real then your heart will tell you

Answer 328

I think it depends on each individual couple.

Answer 329

As long as you want.

Answer 330

Never! Dating is disgusting!

Answer 331

75 years why rush it?

Answer 332

24 months or more(depends if you want to know everything about it)

Answer 333

1 year probably.

Answer 334

How ever long you feel is right.

Answer 335

the day you get married

Answer 336

The faster you do it the faster you can get divorced. JUST DO IT!

Answer 337

When it feels right for BOTH of you

Answer 338

When it rite you'll know

Answer 339

When you know you can never live without them when you know they would never leave you

Answer 340

There is no set time... If you feel the time is right, then do it

Answer 341

I think when you are ready to lay down your life for her/him... it is the time.

Answer 342

until you're ready

Answer 343

three to five years.

Answer 344

as long as possible

Answer 345

Until you feel ready?

Answer 346

i think theres too much nιgger babys

Answer 347

when she 's pregnant

Answer 348

when she gets pregnent,that"s the time to get married (that"s how my dad told me)

Answer 349

I think you have to make your best guess.

Answer 350

1 NIGHT

Answer 351

Depends on you.

Answer 352

couple of years.

Answer 353

why wait

Answer 354

I don t know, but what do you think?

Answer 355

tying a knot or getting married, I TAKE EVERYTHING LITERALLY, BE MORE SPECIFIC PLEASE

Answer 356

fdsfdfd

Answer 357

no comment

Answer 358

until you have some rope

Answer 359

whenever your ready

Answer 360

I wait ...(I am ?normal!)

Answer 361

never

Answer 362

JUST DO IT!!

Answer 363

never.

Answer 364

why would this be difficult even!!!???!!!

Answer 365

GORDIAN ???

Answer 366

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