If a wife hits her husband, it's ok to hit back. Why can't people understand that?

Question

If a woman is man enough to hit a man, she should be man enough to get hit like a man.

I told my wife after our first fight that if she were to ever hit me, I would hit her back. She said the same goes for her. We have a good marriage.

A year ago, my wife got very angry, and slapped me for the first time. Just as I promised, I smacked her right back. We sat down, talked about it, and she joked that she'd hit me again if I didn't hit her back.

Why is society trying to breed a race of pussy men who wouldn't lift a finger to their wife even if she's castrating them?

Oh, and a "real man" doesn't let his woman walk all over him. A real man treats his wife as his equal, and doesn't see her gender as a shield.

Answer 1

As a woman, I have to agree with you! I have gotten into my fair share of physical fights (not with bfs or my ex fiancé) and I fully expect someone to make a move against me. I really don't know why on earth anyone would think a guy shouldn't be able to defend himself when a woman hits him!

Answer 2

Fact is neither of you have any business hitting the other for any reason. Rather than hit her back, which could have landed you in jail you should have called the cops and had her arrested for domestic violence. Domestic violence isn't a hit me I hit you back proposition. It is a huge problem and is actually a punishable offense in most states, and a felony charge in many states.

Hitting or being hit has nothing to do with being or not being a man. As a matter of fact any time there is violence within a relationship it pretty much means your ability to communicate as a couple is none existant! The fact that you think you have to return a slap, punch or whatever proves that you are both still immature.

The actions you take if and when getting slapped dictates whether you're a man or a boy!

Answer 3

I agree entirely. Nothing drives me more nuts than hearing my husband say "I will never hit you, even if you hit me". ... Why?? I've always wondered this, even in school. Why is it, that I'm allowed to smack the living **** out of you, yet you can't raise a hand to me? How does that make any sense at all? If I hit you, I expect you to hit back. I want a fight, not a friggin' boxing bag. I have no idea where this 'unwritten rule' came from, but it sucks. Most stupid rule I've ever had the displeasure of trying to understand.

Answer 4

There are no rules between consenting adults, and I agree with your sentiments about what men have become.



The problem with hitting someone is that you might hurt them. Men have superior upper body strength to a woman, and so it is easy for to underestimate your own strength.



And, if you were ever reported, be aware that the justice system and family law both loathe men. You will always lose, and any allegations brought against you by a woman or child will always be presumed correct.



Always, no exceptions.



If you are innocent, there is a small chance that a good lawyer might eventually save you from such allegations. But even then, many people will still consider the allegations to be correct. So, you still lose.



If you doubt that, consider this: nearly 80% of the prison population is male, despite the fact that women do bad things too....Something to think about.

Answer 5

Agreed HOWEVER, the courts don't agree with you. My ex punched me in the face, I grabbed her wrist to prevent her from doing it again. I was a ranked amateur boxer and knew if I punched her she wouldn't get up. When I let her go, she called the police. They made a report, and even thanked me for not escalating.



I filed for a divorce on her 3 days later - her first claim? I beat her. Had to go to a special trial to let a judge rule on my abusive nature. She showed pictures of her red wrist. I showed pictures of a busted lip and had a cop testify on my side. The judge still lectured me there had to be a better way. The whole thing cost thousands of dollars, and if I had done what you did, I would have been in jail.



I agree with your view on a wussy society, but rather than hit a girl back, I just cut her off. Plenty of women in the world, no reason to deal with that crap.

Answer 6

Because thats how society is. Its ****** up but true. I grew up through this **** with my mom hitting my father with objects like frying pans and stuff but when my dad would only push her off of him she'd start crying and asking my and my sisters if We saw him hit her even though he just pushed her away to defend himself. I'm assuming you are from the states or canada because this happens all the time. I'm completely for feminism the way it was back in the day with women being equal which is awsome but now since they are equal they wanna just get away with everything because they are a woman

Answer 7

Technically I agree. If you hit anybody you should expect to get hit back, however I'd think more of you as a man if you didn't.

Answer 8

Sounds like it works for you two, but remember who goes to jail faster if either one calls the police, or even a neighbor for that?



Guys have a bad rep for being abusive. And if we hit, we at very ideally least get kicked out of the home, but most cops would rather lock you away because they hate domestic calls. They know those are he most dangerous and works out better if the guy can cool off, off the street.

Answer 9

Are you saying that a 5'1 woman who can barely lift 50 pounds, is equal to a guy who is 6'0 and weighs 250 pounds ? because most guys can take out their girlfriends with a single punch... can't say the same about women though.

Answer 10

How about you put some proper boundaries in place and agree that neither of you has the right to hit the other. Lashing out is never right and two wrongs never make a right.

Answer 11

I agree, if she hits first, then you can hit her back but- men should never be the one to physically hurt a girl first

Answer 12

yes people believe oh its only bad when men hit but it is just as bad i believe they have the right to hit back

Answer 13

Wife Hits Husband

Answer 14

I'd have put you in jail

Answer 15

It depends, but why not just walk away, you can take a smack across the face. It would not be a fair fight, men are made physically stronger than women.

Answer 16

if she hits you, you can hit her by other means, you know what im saying? ;) regards

Answer 17

Amen.

Answer 18

Of course it is.

Answer 19

neither of u should be hitting the other. period.