My wife filed for divorce, i love her so much but some reason i don't care that she is leaving me?

Question

She is divorcing me because we argue to frequently. I think its by far the dumbest **** ever. Were both 21 we got married last year, we have been together for 3 years. I love her so much but why don't care that she is leaving me. Everyone i know says fight to get her back, but i just don't see a reason to do so, she filed i didn't. (why should i fight for someone that doesn't want to be with me) Is that the wrong attitude to have? I am scared that i wont ever trust a woman ever again, i wont let her have my heart because i've been shitted on twice already. I think this is the reason why i feel this way right now about my current wife.
If you guys have any suggestions or advice please help. If you want to be rude with your answers please do so, maybe thats what i need. lol i serious feel nothing.

Sorry the typos if there are some, i am to lazy to go back a proof read.

Answer 1

It sounds like you're emotionally checked out from all the arguing, too. You can still love her and know you two shouldn't be together. It's a very logical and healthy way to look at things. Don't let people who aren't in your relationship try to influence you on what is "right".

Answer 2

I am thinking that it is because it hasn't set in yet that you are getting divorced and that you will no longer have her in your life. Maybe there is too much pain for you to take on board. It's up to you to fight to get her back, but as you said, why would you want to be with someone that doesn't really want to be with you. You could always just go for a trial separation. It's hard to say because I don't know what you two fight about. But it could be built up from smaller problems.



I'm not too sure if you guys got married before living together but if you did, it may have something to do with that. Living together can change so many things and each person may have a different living situation that you have to get used to. Some couples don't find this out until after they get married and it can really mess up a marriage.

Answer 3

I can totally relate. The arguing all the time just takes its toll on you emotionally over time. It breaks your spirit. :( I think it's possible to love someone but not be a good match for someone ya know? If you fight as often as you do, you are obviously not a good match.

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Maybe the reason why you aren't engaging emotionally is because subconsciously or consciously you know that YOU are the reason you guys fight all the time and maybe she is saying the same things the other two females said to you about your behaviors and you are in denial and refuse to admit your contribution to the failure of your relationships. Or maybe I don't know what I'm talking about lol! Either way good luck!

Remember don't make a decision you may regret down the road...it'll eat you alive! :)

Answer 4

Maybe you just havn't yet found the one, as you said, you are still quite young. My parents didn't meet each other until they were 32, and they have been married 35 years in two and a half weeks.

but if you think you two should really be together, then fight for her! it will either make you as a couple or break you..

Answer 5

I think you're in shock. Obviously I think you got married much too young. Maybe you're relieved even tho you love her. I think you should speak with a marriage counselor even if you divorce. That way there won't be the regrets that you didn't try.

Answer 6

You say you love her but maybe you don't. Maybe you're also tired of the constant fighting. And don't worry, if you do find the right woman, you know you're in love with her if you actually mind her leaving you. Also, your attitude is actually great compared to others who get divorced. You're just a optimistic person!

Answer 7

You and me both bud... I'm still with my wife, but we got married at 18 and 6 years later I could care less if she left. There's so much out there. Got married too young..

Answer 8

You don't feel anything because it hasn't sunken in yet. You should fight for your marriage and both of you get into counseling.

Answer 9

Umm.. if you don't really care that she is leaving you then deep inside you don't really love her. So sign the paper and get it over with it.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are just looking for someone to say, dump her. You have to commit yourself to trying to fix it or not.

Answer 11

Unhappyness should be in words not in in heart,love should be in heart not in words,

Answer 12

Well then you don't really love her...