Tell me your best relationship advice...?

Question

Tell me your best relationship advice...?

Answer 1

Wife and I follow each one of these rules religiously?



Have you ever wondered "what is the secret to a long and happy marriage?" Our collection of tried and true marriage advice tips will help you answer that very question! These secrets to a happy marriage come straight from the horse's mouth -- those who are happily married!



1. Never assume.



2. Compliment more than you criticize.



3. For each time you vent about your husband/wife to your friends, tell three positive stories.



4. Remember that it is ok to do things differently (e.g. there is more than one way to peel a potato or fold the laundry).



5. Always make time for the two of you.



6. Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.



7. Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.



8. Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.



9. Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly. This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions (or lack of) or expenditures.



10. Never go to bed angry. (Unless it's 3a.m. and you're exhausted, angry, and not thinking straight.)



11. Remember that people do fight. It's how you do it that matters.



12. Before starting an argument, consider if it's really worth it.



13. Fight naked. ;)



14. Agree to disagree.



15. Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).



16. Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?



17. Respect each other's privacy.



18. Remember that "love is like childhood. You need to learn to share."



19. Marriage is not 50/50, it's two people giving 100/100 all of the time.



20. Surprise each other now and then.



21. The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!



22. Have date night!



23. Never pass up an opportunity to say "I love you".



24. Hold hands.



25. Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).



26. Always believe that you got better than you deserved.



27. Be quick to say "I'm sorry".



28. Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.



29. Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!



30. Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.



31. Hang in there. It's worth it.



32. Play nice, play often, love much.



33. Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.



34. Never keep secrets from each other.



35. Be each other's champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!



36. Communication is the key!



37. Always respect each other.



38. Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.



39. It's the little things that matter most.



40. Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.



41. It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.



42. Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.



43. Don't make love in the same place/position everytime. Variety is the spice of life!

Answer 2

My advice since I am in a wonderful relationship myself is........

Every day compliment your partner.

Do something nice for them everyday to show them you love them even a hug will do.

Respect them

Communicate with them.

Support them

and never go to bed mad always work out the problem before.

Don't bring up past problems in a new problem.

Do not assume or accuse.

Always show affection.

Don't give them any reason not to trust you.



If you do all that things will always be good! :)

Good luck I hope you are happy for many many years!

Answer 3

Be honest - about what you're happy about, and also what you are NOT happy about.



Put your spouse first.



Do something to make them feel special EVERY day. Even if very small.



Don't ever let them feel like you don't need them.



Love them. A lot. Keep up the sex, even if you aren't that interested. Kiss them, even for no reason or out of the blue.



Seems easy, but after years it's more difficult. If you let it all slide, the relationship slides too.



EDIT one more thing - trust and be trusted. You have to be able to share your innermost thoughts with the other without fear of ridicule. When you completely bare your soul to the other (very difficult to do) you open yourself up for destruction. Many people never learn to do that with their spouse.

Answer 4

First off, marry before starting a family, that is giving your child he respect they deserve.



You should have basic rules of conduct, one no-brainer is that cheating is a deal breaker, no questions, no excuses, that will end the marriage. For me the same goes for drug use. We do not call each other names, EVER. We share the responsibilities of our home, earning money, budgeting, paying bills, that way there are not surprises (we both hate surprises).





Be honest about everything, no sneaking, lying, game playing. That is a very good start. If you wonder about something, talk to your spouse about it, do not stew.

Answer 5

1. have separate accounts. if you have a joint account...good. but don't let that be your only account. each partner needs to have his or her own account.

2. keep working. don't stop working just because you have children. you REALLY put yourself at your husbands will and mercy if you allow him to be the sole breadwinner. even moreso...if he decides to leave you (and this is after you stopped working and had children) he will leave you with nothing. if you have to take your hours down to part time...then fine. just don't stop working. your independence in this relationship is just as important as his.

3. this is an equal partnership. take away the unwritten rules of domestic chores. both of you participate in making the mess so both of you should help to clean it up. both of you eat, so both of you should cook and participate in shopping for the groceries.

4. if and when you do decide to have children...dont forget your husband. just because you have a baby doesn't mean that your entire world should revolve around that child. you were a wife first, then a mother second. always always ALWAYS try to make time for each other. even after the baby has arrived. set aside some time like every other week or ever week. because most relationships start to decline after the arrival of the first child. the husband and wife stop taking care of each other and devote their attention to the child. while children are demanding especially with they are newborn...it doesn't mean that you have to stop paying attentnion to each other. always find time for each other. even if you have to schedule it. or keep it simple like take out and blockbuster. ALWAYS find time for each other.

5. think outside of the box, especially regarding your partnership. just because you two are living together and beginning to plan your family doesn't mean that your relationship doesn't have to become stale and boring (like other couples that do the 'life script' thing). keep it exciting. keep it fun. keep laughing.

6. you can learn what not to do from just reading yahoo answers.

7. communication communicaiton communicaiton. part of the reason why so many marriages fail is because of lack of communication. also because people find out things after the ceremony that they could have discussed before hand. before you tie the knot (if it gets to that point) you need to write down a list of things that you need to discuss and understand.

Answer 6

Simple:



Be honest, and talk!!! Talk a lot with each other, share everything you can, and never hold anything back.



Communication is the key to a good and healthy relation. Love is never enough, you two need to know what is going on.



And never be afraid to ask him for anything, he should be there to help. And same goes to you. You both should sacrifice as much you can for each other.



Don’t forget, to really love someone, is to be willing to give in everyting, sacrifice your self, and please that significant one as much as you can without ever asking or expecting anything in return.



If love is mutual, you will receive everything in return!



It has worked for me and my Wife, and almost 10 years after, we love each other much more with every day that passes by.

Answer 7

I could offer tons of advice from experience...with the same person for 30 years! Maybe the best single observation, not necessarily advice, is to watch out for the odd "phenomena" that is this: often , the things we are most attracted to in a person in the short term are the very ones that we end up having problems with in the long haul...maybe some things are best in small doses? Example-the "strong, silent type" male we fall in love with becomes the husband who "never talks to me". The mate who is "so much fun, loves to have a good time" becomes the "party animal" who wants to go out every night. The career-minded, goal oriented, good-provider types become work-aholics who are never home. You get the idea...i guess the advice is to beware of any characteristic your chosen possesses to a really strong degree, even good ones. They may come back to bite you in the @ss one day. Be careful what you wish for?

Answer 8

My best advice would be honest communication, willingness to compromise, and always show your love for one another.

All relationships take some work, and you both have to be willing to put forth the effort.

Answer 9

Married 20 wonderful years. The very best advice anyone ever gave me was "NEVER GO TO BE ANGRY." We haven't in all these years and we are really very happy!

Answer 10

my advice is to live life to the fullest. people hear this all the time and take it for granted.



you only live life once. who knows when it will end. there is a chance every second, but so low it won't happen. (such as a meteor or something falling fromthe sky)



so just appreciate everything. theres no time for sadness.

Answer 11

My personal opionio is Honesty and Trust. That is the number one aspect to make a relationship/marriage stronge and keep it that way.



It is soo important to trust your spouse and be able to communicate and have a discussion openly and honestly.



Not only that, just loving your mate and showing them that you love them, keeping that love alive, and knowing how to keep it alive.

The best of luck to you and your new to be family. My personal advice is just be completly honest with your mate.



There is nothing better in a relationship than a clean and honest conversation with your best friend.



EDIT: All these answers are soo great and so true. Its soo interesting to read advices of people that are happily married and still in love. I just adore the couples that keep the love and marriage alive for many years.



SUCCESS IN MARRIAGE IS MORE THAN FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON. ITS BECOMING THE RIGHT PERSON.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

I am happily married and we always try to do stuff we did when we were dating - special places. Places we have good memories together.

Get out and fun together as a couple. Don't let things fall into a rut. Take little road trips and just do things together. Have date night or a date weekend! Trust me , it helps keep things lively!



Good luck!

Answer 14

The best advice given to me for my marriage was ...

no matter how mad you are, go to bed together.

It's good advice -- things seem not as bad in the morning when you wake up next to someone.



Otherwise, the best may be -- a good marriage is like a table: four bare legs and nothing on top.

Answer 15

My best advice for a fulfilling relationship is for the two people involved to agree to keep the lines of communication OPEN, and never to let anything or anyone else become a priority over keeping your home happy, and your loved one at the forefront on your to do list. (Don't forget to take care of yourself)

Answer 16

easy,... i had a lot of relationships... and the only thing that works well is "compromise". everything else will do well... i had a relationship before that she is just the sweetest person i have ever met in y life... and i asked her why she's being so sweet to me... and she replied... "i wanted to be the sweetest person you'll ever know... so you will never forget me"... i never did.. and this was 10 years ago... the only reason why we decided to be friends is because she moved somewhere far. anyway... i learned that from her... and since then... i wanted to be the best man my partner will ever meet... it never fails!...

Answer 17

The best advice is don't expect too much from the other person. Another good piece of advice is don't expect the guy to want to be in a "relationship" before he agrees to it.

Answer 18

Always make time for you and your hubby to be a couple. After the kids come, it's difficult but in order for you to maintain the relationship you have, you must keep it fresh. Go on dates, keep holding hands, treat each other with respect. Keep using words like please and thank you. Good luck!

Answer 19

We can talk to each other about anything at anytime.



Honesty and respect is a must always.

When we argue we don't call names or scream at each other.



We both want whats best for each other and our marriage because that's what makes us both happy.



There's more but that's some of the important ones.

Answer 20

My advice would be to keep your friends and his friends out of your relationship problems. Everyone is going to have problems and arguments. When they happen, talk to each other (after you calm down), DON'T bring your friends into it.

Answer 21

here's a tip - get a commitment from him. if u 2 have kids and he is not yer hubby, he could leave anytime, despite what u think

Answer 22

honesty and being married to my bestfriend helps alot. cause i tell him everything. never go to bed mad. been with him since i was 15yrs old and im 36yrs now.