Is my marriage worth saving when my wife is lazy?

Question

We've bee married for 5 years and have a 3 year old. The last time she worked was in 2010. She lost her job because her boss didn't want a pregannt woman working there. Anyway, she became a stay at home mom. I have been supporting her all these years and I'm tired of it. Our son is now in preschool and my wife decided to pursue a nursing degree instead of getting a job./ She said she sent a lot of applications online, but had no responses, so she thought going back to school to be a registered nurse would be better. I pay for her prenursing courses and books, preschool, bills etc. She now says she needs money to do a home health aide course so she could earn money while she goes to school, but I can't give it to her because I'm tight on money and who knows if this venture will work out. She needs to find out why things don't work out for her. She has a business degree and can't find a job? What is wrong with her. I'm just tired of taking care of her. She only cooks, cleans, laundry and take care of our son and goes to school. I want her to forget becoming a registered nurse, so she can work. She says it's going to be hard taking science classes and working at the same time. What's so hard about college Anatomy and Physiology? What should I do about her?

Answer 1

She has to get a part time job if not then divorce. Support is cheaper than being married. It takes 2 in this economy.

Answer 2

Your wife is hardly lazy when cooking, cleaning, laundry, and having a 3 years old up her butt 24/7. I'm amazed she has time to the school work needed to pursue a nursing degree. This degree will bring in a nice living once completed. For you, it's all about money. You might want to switch jobs with her for a week and see how easy it is. If you don't change your perspective away from your earnings giving you all the power and authority, because from what you have stated, what she does is viewed as lazy and not contributive; your marriage is doomed. Do what ever you can to support her instead of bashing her; there will be a positive result in the end.

Answer 3

So, your wife lost her job in 2012 "because her boss didn't wnat a pregnant woman working there".... do you know this is against the law and discrimination? I wonder why she didn't sue the bastard.



Meanwhile, taking care of a home and child, and going to school at the same time is a lot of work... you dont' seem to comprehend this. And if she's going to school for a nursing degree, she is going to be making a fair wage after she graduates.



This is a tough economy with her business degree - health care workers are far more in demand.



I dont' know what to tell you, but if this were the 1950's you'd have to suck it up because most women didnt' work.



Do whatever you want.... i wouldn't live with you. Seems your first priority is money.

Answer 4

So your wife is "only" doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of your son, and going to school? And she can't find a job in this economy! Imagine.



Do you not see how ridiculous this statement is? Try walking in her shoes for a day.



I am a married woman with a business degree. I have a job AND I do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, AND I'm the primary care-taker of my child. Plus, I'm pregnant. Thank goodness I'm done with school or I'd be even more overwhelmed.



You men have no idea how good you have it. Why don't you try to be a little more grateful for what you have? That might help solve your problem.

Answer 5

In reality man maybe she is just tired of the whole business aspect and wants a change. Supporting the one your with is life but in reality she needs to be told if she wants to go back to school she needs to get a job and work for a few years to pay for it since your budget is already blown on the house, groceries, childcare, and car payments etc. Tell her that she should have thought about having the money to pay for furthering her education prior to engaging in the idea. I would say get a loan but that would just be another bill for you to pay. Good Luck.

Answer 6

She is not lazy! She got fired and is trying to get a new job. She might want a different job because she is tired of her old job. Anatomy and physiology is quite hard, plus trying to raise a small child, cook, clean, laundry, and sending out applications. You should be a lot more supportive for her.

Answer 7

Your wife wants to better herself by going back to school. You are the one who doesn't want your wife to better herself. Becoming a nurse is a great career to get into & you should be proud of her for wanting to go back to work. Sounds like she would be better off without you. She gets her nursing degree then she can finally get a divorce from you.

Answer 8

whats wrong with her, is you. you are supposed to support her in what she wants. evidently you have NO concept of how much a RN brings home yearly nad it's a garentee job based on the fact RN's are contantly needed at hospitals and clinics. i get that money is tight, so maybe discuss with her the money issues, but other than that? there is nothing "wrong" with her. the real question is what is wrong with you? she is choosing a career that brings in quiet a bit of money.

Answer 9

I'm positive you are a troll. No way a man would be so disrespectful to him wife. YOU are supposed to be the breadwinner in the home, she is supposed to take care of the home and the kids.

Answer 10

Trade places

Answer 11

An RN is a great job and in high demand. Think of it as an investment.

Answer 12

Lay it on the line with her,man up and tell her how you feel.

She should get work and contribute,dont fall for her weak excuses.She has qualifications so she should be using them and seeking work.

Give her a few months to shape up and get a job and if she doesnt then rethink all this and maybe leave her.Job seeking is tough for all but you have to keep on and not give up.

She should do anything,shop work,hotel work,anything as long as it brings in some money.

Answer 13

She is doing a lot, man. Let up. If you found another woman, admit it.

Answer 14

what the hell?



She does not sound lazy. She sounds ambitious. You sound like an ****.

Answer 15

No, it's not worth saving...she'd be better off on her own...