I forbid my fiance from eating at her favorite chinese restaurant because they had a Buddha idol there?

Question

The Bible says not to eat food sacrificed to idols and when I walked into the chinese restaurant that she liked I saw a Buddha there and I told her that we were not eating there and she was not allowed to eat there anymore and explained why. She acts like its just a decoration but I told her I didn't care. When they have these fat Buddha idols lying around they are wrong in the first place and you can definately tell it isn't right. She is really mad at me now and I am trying to get her to see my point and she still isn't. What should I do? I know it was her favorite restaurant so I can kind of understand her being mad but I was hoping she would see my point.

Answer 1

Do you not respect others and their beliefs? While you may not agree with them, remember - it's just a restaurant! My God, man! If the food is good, who cares?



Have respect for those who don't think like you. You might learn something.

Answer 2

It is a restaurant for heaven sakes...A decoration...I am sure the food is prepared in a kitchen where all restaurants do and has no " sacrifice " connected to it....And further more who the he** are you to " forbid " her ??? Let the woman enjoy the restaurant....You should go back and read the Bible a little more before you grab a quote and use it to fit your desires.....And as long as we are on the subject what does the Bible say about those who worship the Buddha as their religious figure ? Do you think that God loves them any less ??? It sounds like you are just another blind sheep who only thinks " their " belief is the right one.....The ONE message you seem to leave out is that Jesus said we are all children of the father......All of us......

Answer 3

You are being ridiculous. The Buddha is a decoration. I am a christian and I go to Chinese restaurants with Buddha as all around. That does not mean it challenges my beliefs or that the food I eat there is a sacrifice to Buddha. If you feel that way say a prayer to your God and ask that your God bless the food to the nourishment of your body in Jesus name amen if that is what you believe. Would you walk around a restaurant and ask every customer and employee and owner if they believe as you do? That is the same thing you are doing.

Answer 4

I think you are out of line.



1) Do you really believe that the restaurant owners had live animals sacrificed to a god? In most countries, that is illegal.



2) Buddha is not a god. Buddha was a seeker after enlightenment.



3) Read the New Testament. Paul says that we are free from the law when we are in Christ and we need worry about whether the food is sacrificed to idols. His only admonition is that we make sure that when we do it that we don't harm the faith of weaker believers.

Answer 5

i think it's a little harsh... i'm catholic, but don't have a hard time with the iconism of other religions. though i do not accept them, there is nothing wrong with other religions believing their reliefs. you can be a christian, but you are also an american, which makes you free. the chinese restaurant has every right to display the icons. and i agree with your fiancee that they are (partially) for show, to get the whole feel of being in another culture's domain. the place is her favorite for the food -- and the buddha has no affect on the food. by purchasing the food, you are not encouraging or supporting their iconsim or religions or any beliefs otherwise, you are simply supporting a small business, the cornerstones of american commerce, and making your fiancee happy by getting yummy food.



too, "permission" is awful. your fiancee should not have to seek your "permission" to eat at places; i can think of few instances where such would be necessary, if at all. you are her lover and husband to be, not her master.



have your faith and spread it where you can. where you can't, pray for those that can not see your faith in God. and in the meantime, enjoy your chinese food.

Answer 6

What is wrong? What makes something right? Why are you acting so silly? What gives you the moral authority to deny someone based on a "decoration" even if its not a decoration what makes it wrong?



Do you know that the cross is an evil sign because only the lowest criminals were crucified? Do you know that a lot of the iconography and symbols of the church were adopted from previous religions of the local area in order to christianize them and give the local populations something that they could hold on.



Christmas was moved to Dec 24/25 becase the 24 was a pagan holiday so they would use this date to preach to them about jesus.



so you are being judgemental and the same thing you are trying to do" let her see your point of view" you should do and see her point of view. you shouldnt be so hard headed. and learn to love



you will not go to hell because the food you buy has a buddha. btw he teaches the same doctrine that your great lord jesus christ, peace be upon him, taught?



god gave us to choice and if you choose to follow him blindly by what other people told you is correct. i think it is just plain ignorance. you must follow it because it is you who has that personal relationship with god. if she chooses to eat there good for her. if you two don't agree on this than both of you shouldn't get married because you will disagree in bigger concepts of life.



i feel desperation from your side. remember that god wants you to be free and being stuck in a strict religion sometimes does not allow that.



i will pray for you and hope the best for you.

Answer 7

that's a contradiction because your making up your own beliefs... the bible does in fact NOT say that. God called for animal sacrifices many times in the bible, and even human sacrifice. What the bible DOES say is not to worship false idols. Idolatry is what is prohibited... yet every religion has their symbols and idols they worship and bow down to... ironic isn't it?!



That's why I am spiritual but not religious, because every religion is man made... if one person could show me proof of what religion Adam and Eve worshiped, I would follow it... oh that's right, they didn't have a "religion" did they =P It's MAN made... I was catholic till I reached the age of reason Time to be reasonable and just eat chinese food regardless of what decoration they have in the restaurant... I mean that's about as retarded as me saying I can't visit at your house because of the way you keep your lawn.

Answer 8

Yes, but just because YOU believe it to be an abomination, doesn't mean you can force it on your wife. Your wife isn't your child, and should be able to eat wherever she pleases.



If they had the Buddha in the kitchen where you couldn't see it or know about it, would you still believe your food was sacrificed to that idol? Most Asian restaurants probably do.

Answer 9

Wow. Im guessing you're the type of guy who expects the wife to have dinner made everyday and the house clean. If i were your fiancee* i would leave your sorry @ss. She is her own woman and can do whatever the hell she wants. If she wants to eat there, let her! You cant control her life. ALL chinese restaurants have a freakin Buddha. Its just showing the culture. Seriously, get a life.

Answer 10

Good f*ing grief. You think it's wrong for Chinese people to put their own culture and faith on display? Did someone attempt to force you to become a Buddhist? Incidentally, many Christians do just that because there is no conflict. Buddhists do not condemn the worship of anybody's deity. Does she know she a tyrant on her hands? No one needs domination like that. You need to apologize to her for trying to control her life and also for being unreasonable in your religious views. You also wouldn't want to eat my living room either. There sits the Buddha in silent meditation.

Answer 11

lighten up, will you? why do you have to live your life by the book (the Bible)? her favorite Chinese restaurant serves the best of whatever it is she likes to eat. any other restaurant will not do. no wonder she's mad at you. you cannot see beyond the Buddha statuette. in Chinese culture, the Buddha statuette is like a good luck symbol. and in all Chinese businesses, they have these statuettes at the main entrance to welcome people.



right now, she's your fiance. if you don't try to see her point of view or try to reach a compromise, i won't be surprised if she breaks the engagement.



so lighten up.

Answer 12

i can assure you that Load Buddha won't be angry with you as he spread

compassion for all. Those food are not sacrificed for idol, there is a separate process to do that. usually people don't eat food which are sacrifice to Load Buddha, especially at restaurants.

Answer 13

I hope she leaves you. It's FOOD, not a religious sacrament. Everybody has Buddha decor these days. Do you think the restaurant employees bow down to him everyday after work? Lighten up or you'll never get a girlfriend.

Answer 14

The Buddah has nothing to do with you our your beliefs. The Chinese people put it there and give it food as a symbol of there appreciation and to give thanks to THERE god for all those who walk in the door and keep there lives fruitful. YOU didnt feed it, so again it has NOTHING to do with you. You really need to be more open to other peoples beliefs and religions not everyone is like you. She has every right to be mad because you are making a big deal over nothing.

Answer 15

You shouldn't control your finance, I don't care what your religious beliefs are. If you really love this woman, you should talk to her and apologize for being so unnacomadating, and tell her that while she is free to eat at that restaurant, you don't feel comfortable eating there. Suggest dinner somewhere you think she may like and apologize that you weren't able to eat there. Maybe you can find out her favorite dish from that venue and cook it yourself, it will be much more personal and fun for you two.

Answer 16

Allowed to eat there?



If I were her I would not only CONTINUE to eat there, I would bring the food home from there and eat it right in front of you just to piss you off.



Seriously.....you control your wife to the point where you tell her where she can and cannot eat??



And BTW....Buddha isn't an "idol"....he was actually a real person. Your interpretation of the Bible is so far from correct, that the light from "correct" would take fifty million years to reach it.



Get over yourself.

Answer 17

First of all I am probably wasting my time here because I am pretty sure you are either trolling or have your mind made up but the Bible speaks alot more of having a relationship with God. Christ died so you dont have to live under the law anymore. God wants us to live to enjoy life not get wrapped around a bunch of rules and judge others.

Answer 18

I am a Christian, but if I had a favorite place to eat that had a "statue" of their particular heritage "decorating" their place, I would not spite myself into not eating there just because of a decorative figure of their culture. I feel you should maybe "rethink" your priorities & think more of the food your g/f enjoys rather than the decor...Good luck...:)

Answer 19

Even Jesus sat (and ate) with the Samaritan woman. Are you going to NOT eat in place because they are of another faith... are you going to NOT eat at a friends house because he doesn't believe the same way you do? You are not of this world, but you are in it. Be an example to this woman who owns the restaurant and to those around you. God loves everyone. God Bless.

Answer 20

You should relax. You're supposed to be kind to those you love. Let the woman have some delicious chinese food. There's being religious to a point that you feel it makes your life better, and then there's being religious to an obsessive point that's just silly.

Answer 21

Dude...i dont know what ****** up world your livin in.... you need to get over yourself realllllllll quick or your not gonna be a fiance anymore. "forbid" give me a break..she can do what she wants ...just because your the "head" doesnt mean you have any right to tell her what to do at all. Gods not gonna go "you ate at a chinese restaraunt...im taking your life" its part of their culture... its not just a pure religious thing for them all the time. you need an adjustment if you think your gonna be her boss! lol

Answer 22

First your an IDIOT, why would anyone marry an IDIOT i don't know???



Next, You forbid??? who the *&^% are you to forbid any other adult?



Now go ask your mom & dad why they did not use protection to prevent problems like this one???



She, being your girlfriend does seem to be a bit smarter than you at this point, listen to her and you may save this wonderful relationship!



GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!!

Answer 23

You're being silly. The food isn't even remotely used as an offering to Buddha...so poof, there goes your point.

Answer 24

dude your a muke knoe person can follow the bible to the t on top of that she isnt worshipping it just tell her to say grace befor she eats because we live in a nation of idols look in your home maybe you have a favourite pair of clithing thats your idol because you belive it will make you look better or give you luck and bhudda isnt really an idol as he is a symbol gets your facts straight about other beliefs and religions befor you feed others your holy then though bull crap and on top of that you probaly feel pride for not eating there because your better then the rest FYI thats pride better go get forgiveness

Answer 25

I think she should dump you quickly. No offense, but obviously you have no understanding of Buddhism, or the fact that the Christian Bible is only one of many scriptures and Christianity is only one of many religions.



Generally, Taoism, Buddhism and Christianity are considered the religions that promote tolerance, love, and harmony.



The only thing you should avoid are trolls in Y!A, for the Mighty Yamster abhors trolls.

Answer 26

I think you should just let her eat their.. i don't think the bible has everything to do with controlling your life or hers..if she wants to eat then she doesn't believe as strongly as you do and that's okay because not everyone believes the same as everyone. But just remember if you let her do this then she will bring it up when she doesn't want you to do something.

Answer 27

You FORBID her. You may be marrying her but you've got a lot to learn. I would have told you to take a long walk off a short pier.

Answer 28

Yeah seriously dude get over yourself. No wonder she wants to leave you. Who the hell does things like that? She won't see your point because your point is totally retarded.



Do us all a favor and never reproduce.

Answer 29

You're a truth seeker and you believe in the bible ?? HAH.



No wonder shes mad at you .. Thats kind of childish and selfish of you.

Answer 30

It isnt like shes worshiping the Buddah. Shes going there to eat let her be.

Answer 31

all of those resturant have those in them.. for them that is what god looks like to them..and really were you around during the time he was alive.i do not think so.now if you really start to think about were he came from..he came from the middle east..the people we are fighting right now..chill. it is just food

Answer 32

its just food weird-o.. and its your beliefs you dont have to force everyone to believe the same thing. dont be such a selfish jerk im sure she sees your point if you refuse to eat there but dont try to stop her who do u think u are GOD??. you cant tell ppl where to eat or what to believe.

Answer 33

Unlike these people , I think you are totally right! I wouldn't go in there nor allow my family there either.

Good show!

Answer 34

You sound very controlling uptight and shall I say...weird in your beliefs.

Its fanaticism that causes the biggest problems in the world and not religion!

Answer 35

How to solve the problem is to get it to go, and eat at home.

Answer 36

you and she are not the ones sacrificing and when you order they aren't either, they're selling it to you. that's a little too up tight to me.

Answer 37

If she wants to eat their then she can eat their.

Answer 38

If you need some "guidance", ask your priest. He probably eats there too.

Answer 39

You are way over reacting.

Answer 40

it is not what you eat that makes you a sinner, but rather what comes out of your mouth

Answer 41

who are you her father? get out of here and get over yourself. your beliefs are yours not hers. forbid her, ha give me a break.

Answer 42

You FORBID?

You little fu@k!

Answer 43

What the hell? No wonder she is mad, you're a retard..

Answer 44

Wow...

Answer 45

WTF. Who are you her master? Is she on strings or is she a hand puppet?