I am getting mixed messages from my partner! Your thoughts pls?

Question

My partner got engaged to me & suddenly distances himself when I left the country to complete my studies - which he insisted I need to do & so we agreed upon it. Now he is unreasonably angry with me (previous texts quite angry) & wont talk to me. He says its over then later he sends me a sexy text photo / video when I sent him something flirty ... & then he doesnt communicate with me - for weeks! So I ask him to return my things if he wants to move on - he says he wont. Then he'll post something for my business in his country & ask if he shall do it for me. Apart from this no communication or replies & then he'll text me finally to say to me he is alone too much & bored but nothing he can do about it. I love him so much & have just 10-weeks study left & can't afford flight back to see him. I ask him to come here but he says he wont. I am getting mixed messages - feel like I am being tested to my limits. I wonder if there is another girl he has found friendship with ... or ???

Answer 1

Hes just frustrated, study, ten weeks will be over before you know it................

Answer 2

He is being immature. Concentrate on what you went there for. Your studies are more important right now. You are doing this for you not him? If he can't be supportive now when you need him the most then why should he benefit from all the hard work you are doing?



Tell him you are not going to talk to him again until you get home because he is confusing you and right now you have enough on your mind.And if he thinks it is any easier on you being apart from him then he doesn't know you that well.



Also, you may want to rethink weather or not you want to be with someone that is so selfish he only thinks of his own needs and not yours.



He's bored? He won't come to see you? This lets you know that he won't be there for you when you really need him and that he will get angry when you aren't there for him even though it is important to you..



I hope you realize before it it to late you can find someone better that appreciates all you do and who will support you and also be doing the same to better his self instead of sitting there whining because he is bored..



You are a strong woman with a head on her shoulder that deserves so much better. He is immature and needs to grow up but never will..

Answer 3

Yes, I agree with you, he is sending mixed messages, and this is very immature of him. He sounds to be playing head games with your emotions. From what I know of most men, they tend to feel insecure when they begin to see there girl striving for financial success. Since men have a hard time expressing how they feel for fear of seeming insecure, he instead reveals his anger in an indirect way without telling you why. If he does have another girl my guess is he found one that he can feel more above, this is if he does have one, no one really knows for sure. This sucks and is so unfair to you for it leaves you wondering where you stand in this relationship. I bet his insecurities is getting the best of him. Some guys have a hard time with feeling second best to anything even studies. He needs to either be upfront with you and not be allowed to tease you with his mix messages. In other words, call his bluff. If he wants no communication then don't give him any, not even responding to his text. Do not play along with his game by texting or calling him back until he can be upfront with you leave him alone. Once he sees you are not allowing him to play you, my bet is he will sooner or later come around and behave more responsibly towards your feelings. .

Answer 4

Studying is very important in your life, its something you will not lose to someone else and it also can't dissapoint. U will have to decide what comes first in your life, him or education. To me he is selfish, you agreed on this then suddenly he changes his mind. U can't afford to leave school and run back to him, he can't give u what u get there, which is knowledge. Love sometimes can push us to do things we regret later, if he can't wait, just leave him alone, as long as u remind him that u love him. U have options here, he can come up to you, but he refuse, so he expects u 2 be the one running to him. Just ask him what he really wants, as u are not sure. Ask him if he is willing 2 wait up for you, then if he said no, let him go, tell him you are letting him free to do what ever he wants. This is a test, if he really love u, he won't and those words will ring in his ears.

Answer 5

It's really sad, but he definitely found another girl. You can't wonder or worry about a thing if you two are engaged. If this is happening already, what is the marriage going to be like?



Your life with the man that you are engaged to should be perfect. He should always be with you and treating you like gold. He should love, respect, trust and communicate with you all the time.



YOU CAN'T GET MIXED MESSAGES WITH THE MAN THAT YOU'RE GOING TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH, TILL DEATH DO YOU PART!

Answer 6

DUMP HIM!



Ya know, the whole point of dating is to "try" out the person and see if you are compatible. If he is acting like this now it's not going to change later if you get married, it's only going to get worse!



So move on...there is someone out there for you who will not treat you like this.. you just need to wake up and realize you deserve better!!

Answer 7

Sounds like he is playing you like a Fiddle!! He is being very wishy-washy!! For me, that wouldn't sit well at all. He goes weeks with no communication. I don't think it's unreasonable for you to think/feel that he may have someone else. Stick to your studies, and deal with him second. Good Luck !!

Answer 8

Sound like he needs some help....you need to right off your stuff or sue him...Guys don't always know how to communicate their personal issues(express their true feelings)and he may not understand them himself.

Answer 9

you know, chances are that there's a root cause for his anger, whether it's your fault or not, i have no clue.



bottom line is that he can't say what's up his @ss. that makes him a 4 year old for life and you dump him right about now.

Answer 10

concentrate on your studies and deal with him when you get back. don't let a man side track you.