My wife cheated and I found out, so she filed an EPO, took away my children, home, everything.?

Question

I've been the proud example of a father. Being a good provider, always faithful, taking care of my children 1 and 3, mowing the grass, keeping the house clean, everything I thought I should be., I thought we were happy the past 5 years of marriage. She went to group therapy because of stress and anxiety and cheated on me with one of the group. When I discovered this, she filed an EPO and took away my kids. I don't feel I've done anything wrong in our marriage enough to deserve any of this. Now, I'm broke, living with my parents, without my children, lonely, I know she's still with the guy from group therapy, and it's hurting me so bad, I can't decribe the pain, I never saw this coming. My life is a trainwreck.

Answer 1

there are fathers advocate groups that would be able to advise you also get a free consult and find out what your rights are. Unfortunately one never sees it coming because you were so focused on doing what was right in life, and since your not a cheater how could you have seen it. Its something they hide very well. I would file for divorce and ask for joint custody. If your worried about your children's safety I would ask the courts to do a mental eval on her.

Answer 2

I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time in your life. It is obvious your wife did not appreciate you. You say you never saw it coming. Could it be you just refused to see all the warning signs? Your wife was under stress and appeared to not be happy, this was a warning sign. She has her own reasons for doing what she did, but because she did indicates the marriage was not a happy one as you indicated how you thought it was. My advice for you will be to get advice from a divorce attorney as to what your rights are in all of this. Then get into a support group with people who are going through a similar experience. I know you are in pain, and it cannot be easy, after all you feel you lost everything you had. You will recover. My heart goes out to you and pray God gives you the strength to endure. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

So I am assuming that you have filed for a divorce and custody of your children because you can support them and are mentally more stable than she is?

Been there brother! I was tagged as abusive to my children by my X but it was unproven.

I now have joint custody but would advise filing for custodial custody based upon her mental status. If you want the pain to go away you need to get up and dust off the pen, file for divorce and custody before she does. Because you feel you have done nothing wrong and it is she who violated the legal and moral agreement called marriage she should not gain from her actions.

Custody for a male is an up hill battle so you need to get you sh*& together and in one bag.

Stand up and be a man! Get a divorce and custody and you will feel a lot better.

Answer 4

take her to court and at least get some custody of your children! get a job and laying around feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to make you feel any better either. i would seek counseling. it is good for everyone especially when your going through something tough like this. no matter what fight for your children! they are your kids just as much as they are her's!



good luck!

Answer 5

That sucks, man. I feel for you. I hate hearing about a skanky woman ending up on top after destroying the marriage at their own leisure.



Forget her, man. She'll know how it feels soon enough.

Answer 6

Do not give up ......take her to court and get visitation.



If you are broke you may qualify for legal aid. If not most lawyers have a first consult FREE, you could discuss your options.

Answer 7

whoa..you cooked..



I say get a divorce lawyer and fight for your rights mr daddy.You have rights too and reasons why you should get visits as well.

I think shes psycho and needs help but,she just twisted it upside down for you.



peace-

Answer 8

Don't get married again, it's a no win situation for men.

Answer 9

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