Why do people still get married?

Question

Isn't marriage a primitive religious institution? As a society which is slowly getting rid of religion shouldn't we also say goodbye to marriage? It is against the natural order of humanity...

Answer 1

That is an excellent question. Nowadays divorces happen at an alarming rate.

Here are the divorce rates per year (1950 - 1967): (In the US)



1950 - 26%

1951 - 1953 - 25%

1954 - 24%

1953 - 25%

1954 - 24%

1955 - 1956 - 23%

1957 - 22%

1958 - 21%

1959 - 1963 - 22%

1964 - 24%

1965 - 1966 - 25%

1967 - 26%



Divorce rates then took a jump in the 70s:



1970: 33%

1975: 48%



In the 80s the trend continued:



1980: 52%

1985: 50%



I think the general perception that divorce was a horrible thing, changed overtime, now some people consider it even glamorous to get divorced. If you think about it from a men's perspective, women can now have three or four weeding's instead of only one. There are some instead who chose to persevere and work on their marital issues instead of jumping the fence.



Source = http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Historical_Divorce_Rate_Statistics

Answer 2

Marriage is NOT a religious institution.



The nuclear family model (a pair of adults plus their own children) is one of the models that gave Paleolithic clans more chance to perpetuate (along with some polygamy though).



Most Middle-Age European states delegated vital records (registering births, deaths marriages...) to Church which was powerful back then.



Basically, a marriage is a civil contract between 2 persons involving possible future children.

Besides that, a religious ceremony could make a nice wedding if the couple is religious. By the way in some religious countries clergy still have legal rights to celebrate official and religious wedding in the same ceremony.



Couple bond for life has been a widespread arrangement for thousands of years (maybe hundreds of thousands according to chromosome X variations), long before invention of religions. while religions only issued marriage licenses for a couple of centuries.



But you'd be surprised to know that non religious people can love, have kids and want a legal protection for them. Religion has nothing to do with that.

Answer 3

The blunt truth is, lots of people marry because they need to feel secure or because they feel the pressures of getting old. Anybody else that tells you different is just in denial because they are trying to justify their own marriage. Don't let them tell you otherwise. Think about this with a logical mind and try not to blur your opinion with emotions. The best decisions or beliefs are always formed with a clear non emotional mind. This is a fact. If you want a completely unbiased opinion on this matter, ask a single person that has never been married before. (myself, 33 yr old male. Single by choice.).Mark my words - In 50 years time, people will have the choice of marrying on a 10 or 20 year contract. And this option will be taken up by many so as to give themselves peace of mind in not losing half their assets when they divorce. Humans are getting smarter now. We are slowly realizing that we were never meant to marry the 1 person for a life-time. At the end of the day, us humans are nothing but a speck in the universe. We are basically animals who have the ability to breed. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Answer 4

Marriage is the union of a man and a woman as husband and wife according to the standard set out by God. When God created man he made a complement for him, woman. Marriage is a divine institution authorized and established by Jehovah God. Through marriage comes the family unit or circle. Marriage was designed to form a permanent bond of union between man and woman, that they might be mutually helpful to each other. Living together in love and confidence, they could enjoy great happiness and have children. (Genesis 2:7, 15, 18). So marriage is the proper relationship between a man and a woman if they consider themselves Christian. Any sexual relationship beyond marriage is considered immorality. Marriage was a matter affecting the family, and not only the family but the entire community, for it could have an effect on the strength of the community as well as its economy. When we look at why the situation in the world has moved away from God's original plan we can see what happened. (Ephesians 5:17) There is only right or wrong to consider. Right is God's way and wrong is Satan's way. Satan has tried to under mind God's way starting in the Garden of Eden. (Revelation 12:9) If we are not trying to live life according to God's standards then we are in effect following Satan's standards. No and's, but's or or's about it! So no matter what nation people live in there will always be those who want to follow God's law and do things accordingly and will continue to get married. But even those who may not profess to be Christian will get married because the right thing is instilled in their consciences. Satan has confused people worldwide into believing they can live without God's moral standards but look what a mess it has made throughout the world! Sexual transmitted diseases, immorality, babies having problems before they are even born, abortions and just blatant moral breakdown of society in general!

Answer 5

If you do not accept the biblical account that God created Adam and Eve as husband and wife then you're going to believe the opposite. If you're going to believe that they taught their children and grandchildren this tradition and those children knowing about this. Then you're going to think that man created marriage and that marriage is not a religious institution. In fact you have to try to find a reason why marriage was invented in the first place because you deny the truth of the biblical narrative.



People get married today all over the world because it is their historical and cultural right to do so since the beginning... This is why. It is a very public event and a celebration of life about the importance for two human beings to start a new life as one. It is a true celebration of love where you find that person and you know that yours and your spouses desires are one in it's mission to life. It's a magnificent obsession that we human beings have to do this with.



And there is nothing wrong with that celebration. Look at the world of nature outside of mankind. Look at the animals and their mating rituals that proclaim this celebration of life and love and it's creation for creating new life into this world.



Marriage for man and the animals that have instincts that guide them in their mating rituals is a celebration of love on this planet earth. That is not seen anywhere else in our solar system or even in this galaxy. It is a profound thing.



Of course I am Christian. And sometimes you have to step outside the world of man to see what a wonder God created when he created life and love and marriage. And we all know that well.. love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage. Right? Of course I'm right.

Answer 6

Apparently, it means a lot to some people. Or maybe, it _doesn't_ mean much so what's the difference? When I was in my teens/20s marriage was extremely unpopular with (working) women and gays. In the 2000s it suddenly became the gold standard of gay rights. Then the younger crowd were all about marriage again. Marriage isn't the prison it once was, there are more different ways to be married and retain your identity...but now that I actually have the legal right, we haven't married. That was a deliberate choice.

Answer 7

It's true marriage was once considered a primitive construct of mankind, however, the concept of it has been adapted to fit the needs of all cultures, so it's no longer just under the institutions of religious practices. Marriage isn't just a death trap in a church (lol), there are also arranged marriages, secular marriages, and tribal marriages. As far as it being against the natural order of humanity, marriage is just as unnatural as any manmade construct thought through the human mind. Just because it's primitive, doesn't make it unnatural. Remember, it's natural to be primitive. It's also natural to change and grow, and as time passes by there will be more different concepts of marriage. One thing is for certain, marriage won't go away, just because of where it came from.



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Answer 8

From the Godly standpoint, a man and woman should marry and I agree with it. Today people believe they can live anyway they want but Jehovah God still has the right to say how we should live. Watch Judge Judy on any given day and see how many people buy a house or a car and they are not married, then split up and want courts to figure it out. It's a mess. jw.org

Answer 9

Over the years, human society has developed with the family as a unit. In the formation of a family the union of man and woman plays a great part. Marriage is just the formalisation of this union, the assumption being the newly wed are safe in the society. Like standing in a queue for convenience, getting married at a given age is for convenience and smooth functioning of society. Such conventions differentiate man from other animals. So long as there is no harm involved, there is nothing wrong in following the age old practice with regard to marriage.

Answer 10

It's not against anything. Every religion has it's own version of the whole marriage thing...who's is right? It's a choice. It's romantic, it's joyful, it's a promise, it's security, it's, it's it's. It's a commitment. You have to ask yourself if you want to be committed. If folks want to get married, they should, if they want to divorce, they should, the problem is when you take choices away. There are so many laws now, the courts are involved with telling us who to marry or not. It's another money making thing too. I am married, glad I did it. The person I wanted to marry is the person I wanted to be with the rest of my life. So we made the choice to tell everyone we were exclusive to each other...don't bother asking. It worked for us, so we stuck with it, we knew. We were sure of our choice. Man should not tell man how he should live. Religion to me, is a great guide to follow when you don't know the answer to something.

Answer 11

For those who truly love each other a ring and a piece of paper gives peace of mind that they will not cheat and that they are committed to the partner and children then can feel safe in a family unit where they share the same name. However it is not marriage that is the problem but divorce. It is a horrific thing to go through - the family courts, the lawyers, etc.. but even without marriage that would still happen. There needs to be better laws concerning break ups - marriage is not the problem - its how people break up that is bad.

Answer 12

As long as this world exists people will continue to marry. You want someone to call your own. Before marriage you are reckless and carefree. After marriage you mature and mellow into a good person. You branch out as a family. You have responsibilities which make you work hard for your family. Though the rate of divorce is alarming people will never cease to marry.

Answer 13

Marragie is a choice people make for some reason it's still the same as not being married your going to love and hate each other at times so yeah...

Answer 14

I'm not going to address the quesiton here, as I can see there are plenty of long and descriptive and informative answers already, what I am going to address, is you saying "As a society which is slowly getting rid of religion".



Why do you think we are getting rid of religion? What made you think that? I honestly don't know how to tell you this, except, religion has been getting stronger ever since it started. We have popes, bishops, and other religious figures which we didn't have before. We go to the church every Sunday, which wasn't a thing 2 thousand years ago. We all have a cross in our house and we pray every day to God, which didn't happen thousands of years ago. If anything, we're slowly strengthening religion rather than getting rid of it.



And I'm not just talking about Christianity, but all religions believe in the same God, they simply have different ways of representing things and understanding them, and they have their own prophets. But all is a mirrored image of Christianity.

Answer 15

Sometimes people call it tying the knot' as it could fear that the partner may lease them or the it could be the old fashioned parents putting pressure on them' Some people see it as a part of life, your born, you get and education, you get a god job, you get married you have a childrens, you grow old together and die. Some people get married in thought that it will strengthen their relationship which rarely happens. Nothing changes when you marry or shouldn't do people expect something magical to happen and it doesn't they become dissapointed have arguments and divorce. It's over rated!

Answer 16

People outside of religion want a union showing their love. It can convey to their friends and family they love each other and make the ultimate commitment. Some marry in some cultures to bring powerful lines together or through royalty. I watched a program called The Tribe and it was following a community in Africa. They lived as they had for centuries, in small village tribes, the leaders all meeting annually. They did marriage traditionally as an arranged one, they did a dowry, the woman was priced through livestock. It was an important part of their culture. Religion to me is made up. We had gods and goddesses for the sea, the sky, the sun etc, suddenly one god religions take over a mere 3500 years ago with Judaism. All of the 3 main ones, Judaism, Christianity and Islam go on about they are the "chosen ones". None are, we are all humans trying to live on our crazy, beautiful planet. Marriage is a concept for men to once rule over women or form alliances.Now most marry for love.

Answer 17

It is not, at its foundations, a religious institution. It has existed outside of formal religious overtones and has existed across all cultures and societies. It is partly a financial contract, and partly a work-share agreement.



And moreover, a marriage is whatever the people involved want it to be. It is not necessarily monogamous. It is not necessarily about children. It is a contract of commitment between consenting adults, period.



I've been married 27 years, and my parents have been married for 54 years, and their parents were each married for more than 60 years. It's a stable platform for raising children, for accumulating enough wealth to provide for those children, and for the couple's later years, and it is also comfortable and happy. I married my best friend, after all, and couldn't imagine living without her.



Again, slick, there's nothing inherently religious about marriage.

Answer 18

Society is not getting rid of religion. It still dominates the free world and will continue to do so as long as people continue to think. Religion is mankind comprehending its connection to the world. It will change and adapt as we learn more but it will never disappear.



The same can be said about marriage. We might stop spending thousands on a wedding that is over in a few weeks but I wouldn't hold my breath. Marriage is a promise between two people. People who know how to keep promises succeed at it and the less honest don't.



Much has changed and continues to change. Some of these changes are positive and some negative. A lot of this is due to the improper use of religion to throw challenges in the way of people wishing only to live in harmony and love. These challenges are not mentioned in the Bible.



The Bible talks about a man leaving his father and mother and cleaving to his wife, the two becoming one flesh. To this the church and judicial system have added several clauses that allow marriage to be a contract with the possibility of huge financial gains.



This might change as we continue to become more educated but when we have religion and the judicial system backing what we have now it will certainly take a great deal of time. There are rewards attatched to being unfaithful. Both are huge financial institutions that play off of each other at the expense of happiness and love.



In a capitalist society money talks and as long as we allow ourselves to be locked into unjust laws we will continue to have marriages that support the wealthy establishment.



We have crime for the same reason. Many of our laws support the criminal so cases will continue to be brought before the courts and the system will continue to be paid off in this manner.

Answer 19

Like most people nowadays, my husband and I did things backwards. We were however lucky enough that he was making six figures by 27 and I wasn't doing so bad either. We were together almost 8 years the day we got married. Marriage was the last thing on our list and we both agreed we didn't need it until we understood what it meant TO US. To us it was the ultimate portrayal of commitment. We'd already shown each other in every other way and the last was legally and spiritually.

Answer 20

It's traditional this is what most woman and men want it is just another chapter to ones life find a mate get married start a family etc. etc. Truly finding a companion to share your life with is what little girls dream about when they are playing with the Barbie Dolls at the age of 5 this is when they start to imagine their own Prince Charming and how they want the wedding to look like even to the point of starting a scrap book of photos from bride magazines.

Guys know that if they want to keep the one they are with for any great length of time proposing and making that leap of faith is required.

Answer 21

Religious ritual on marriage is just a ritual and nothing else. Marriage is really a social function and not religious. There are also non religious ways to marry e.g. civil marriage in court. Live in relation is also marriage sans rituals. Marriage is the declaration or acceptance of relation between a man and woman. Also the institution of marriage may be linked to individualistic capitalist economy. Family is the basis of law of inheritance. The alternative will be communist system with everything social. every man would be every other woman's mate. The children would be not of particular parents but of whole society.

Answer 22

I got married because I wanted to inherit my husband's social secruity when he died. We were very happy as singles living together, but the government wouldn't have allowed me ot have his social security just being happy.

So now he has passed away and I am able to keep my house.

Some people get married becuase all their friends are getting married and they don't wna tot look like losers. Some get married to keep a guy that they think will be faithful. Some get married to own a woman and get sex whever they want it -hahahahahaha

Some get married to have a nurse or paycheck. Or to raise their kids for them.

It is a societal thing. -partly religious and partly civil.

I didn't get married because of Adam and eve - it is a fairy tale. I do not believe in any religion. I think religion is bad for intellligent people. But some idiots need to be terrified to behave. OK for them.

I think religion - the fundies- is getting stronger and the NON-religious are gaining ground, too.It is always in style to be passionate. White bread church is dying- as it should. It is boring and out of touch with life..We will end up with 2 camps- fundies- Wackoes-who want to kill all the infidels and non-religious who don't want to participate and will ahve to get violent ot survive.

I think all adult people should be given the option to have a civil union --even a religious one is sanctioned by the STATE, and then have a religous ceremony if you want one.

Families don't look like mom and dad and 2.3 kids and a dog-never did. It is a fiction of the 1940s-even then there were war-widows raising kids with their sisters or two old guys living together for decades.

Answer 23

Marriage wasn't a religious thing. Originally, marriage became a thing when Homo sapiens evolved, their ancestors had no such ceremony. The function was to keep a family unit together, to work to raise kids and function on their own.



Perhaps you mean people continuing life as they do now, just simply not getting married. Which, at first, might seem like a great idea. No ugly divorces, no legal battles, etc etc if things went wrong. I personally like to think of marriage as a promise to my lover more than anything else. Sure, I can make that promise without getting married, but in my mind, the publicity of it, the sincerity, the official-ness of it makes it super important to me.



That and getting rid of the feeling of what's different in the relationship between my current girlfriend and my last ones.

Answer 24

People get married because they want a stable, loving commitment.



In spite of what you said about marriage being "against the natural order of humanity", it is part of what makes humans human, instead of a mere animal that is willing to mate with anyone available. The ability to have self control is part of what makes us different, and being in a committed relationship has many benefits; including mental, physical and emotional.



The current body of research consistently finds married men and women are:



More likely to live longer

More likely to be physically healthier

More likely to be mentally healthier

More likely to be happier

Recover from illness quicker and more successfully

Generally, take better care of themselves and avoid risky behavior



Marriage benefits humans, both individually and as a society.

Answer 25

Marriage was a Cultural Defense that began in early European History, due to INCEST, and the obvious Birth Defects that arose form from the close, and inter Family mixing of Blood, The Masters / Kings of Communities would have to assume full Responsibility for the offspring that they produced; after the 13th Centuries, and as Women achieved the Powers of the Throne, the Male King Deviates were also sent to Newfoundland after their Degenerate Kids, IE. Kingston, NY; along with 12 other Penal Colonies, As the kings received 1 Ton of Gold, and Ships for their Voyage, to the Americas, IE. Kingston, NY ...0204.2016

Answer 26

Marriage is a legal arrangement.



This is established beyond question by answering a few simple questions.



Q1)

Can I marry with out the consent of the government?

No, because I must have applied for and have it granted after paying for my marriage license.



Q2)

Can I marry with out the consent of a religion?

Yes. Many people marry with out the involvement of religion.



And so the answer to your question is, marriage is a personal thing.



I don't know why they do it, but I do know its not my business to judge.

Answer 27

No marriage is not a religious institution. No explanation needed.



Basically people get married, because they want to and they want to be with the person they love rest or there life and spend there time together until there die. So no religious need to be involved.



Its really important that you choose to marry the person your really love and fell in love with, not with the person you dont really like. For example match making marriage. You basically meet an stranger with your parents or guardian and let them choose who you marry. But Isn't it not unfair to get others to choose who you marry? I think its better to choose from yourself who you want to marry and fall in love with. Because its important too to know the persons feeling and decision as well about getting married and who they want to be with. So we should respect that strongly, no matter what race we are and where we come from.



The only thing you need when you get married is, love, respect, courage, honesty, loyalty, enjoyment, trust, positivity and lots of smiles. Thats all you need for a marriage and most importantly, be happy and love each other no matter what happens, if you fight, argue or hurt each other accidentally. Just dont forget to love each other strongly from your heart. Thats real love and marriage and real love story.

Answer 28

Marriage is or Living Together both are 1 and same.



In Common Man Language , Marriage is legally Registered as Husband and Wife, Later Law will be there to support in case any Issues.



Living Together, Its a Mutual Understanding and later , incase of sepertaion, Either man or women , i think there is no legal support.. To children too

Answer 29

Marriage is not all about sex but companionship. Couple come to the rescue of each other when in need. It is like a partnership firm. If both husband and wife are compatible to each other then the life's ups and downs are easily tide over. Marriage is a bond between the two. Love emanates thru it otherwise you have nobody to put your head for shoulder.

Answer 30

A lot of people get married, because they want to. I'm not getting married again.

Answer 31

Some people get married because they feel that they need a partner to make them look good. Other people fall in love and want someone to be their companion and lover for life.

Answer 32

Marriage is a HOLY covenant created by God himself, NOT BY A CLAN. The point of getting married is that God says if you really cant wait to have relations, at least be married. This way the marriage is holy, protected and not wrong in the eyes of God. Living in sin is the wrong thing to do because that means that that person has no respect for you as a title of wife and he can walk out at any time without regrets. In a real marriage you work at it and it's wonderful. You share your hopes, your life, your dreams with someone you truly love, not just someone from the street. You make memories. You run to the door to hug and greet your husband and he's there to hold, love and protect you. That is the beauty. I have three children and been married for over twenty years. We have our bad times but we work through it so we have more love for each other than bad times. I can't imagine my life without my husband. Thats why people get married. Because there are those who know the true meaning of marriage and respect the SANCTITY of it. Its not just a piece of paper. it is a holy union. this means God has your back and what God has joined together let no man divide it.

Answer 33

people get married because they fall in love at that moment in time and do it and not think beyond the present. They may think they will stay like that forever but that s not the case. People change with time and at different rates so they realise it s not the same anymore and don t love each other and more often then not get divorced.

Answer 34

Marriage is people actually making a commitment with one another, instead of just cohabiting. Basically if you're married, your far more likely to try and work things out because you can't just 'break up'. You need to jump through a whole host of legal hoops.



If you're just living together... then its dead simple to simply decide to end things...

Answer 35

People still get married because without marriage there is no divorce and without divorce the lawyers would be forced to chase ambulances down the street to the hospital and fight with each other for the law suit. We cant have that now can we?

Answer 36

I myself really want to get married, I really don't want to still be a girlfriend when I'm in my 80s I want to be a wife, sadly my boyfriend has your views so it doesn't look like I'll have that commitment any time soon, it's all about personal preference.

Answer 37

during stone age people lived as individuals . there was no marriage.. This led to complications about the fate of children and society. The intellectuals of that time realized need for some arrangement to make man/ woman relations more systematic and meaning ful with the intention to make life better and peaceful and stable .. This led to the marriage system it is not religious. it is a social arrangement based on needs of man / women / and children from them and stability. the present marriage system is damaged due to greed of people and Dowry systems.



It is law of nature that people will go for an arrangement which provides better stability.

Answer 38

No....it's not a religious thing....people were marrying long before that. I married in a civil ceremony because I wished our union to recognised by the state.



My nephew has no legal rights to see his children because he was not married to their mother.



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Answer 39

Atheists follow rituals (getting married, funerals, Christmas, etc) because humans are born as religious creatures. We can't help it. Christians have a healthy way of dealing with our inherently religious nature. Harmful cults use it to take advantage of people. Atheists pretend their religious nature doesn't exist.

Answer 40

It is certainly not necessary to get married. There are various risks in marriage or in any human association. We can end up in wrong career at the wrong company with wrong friends at a wrong a nation. We can often end up with wrong business partners and taught by wrong teachers. However, when things go well, each of these human associations can bring up enormous benefits. Same with marriage.

Answer 41

Human being what can I say feeling of their emotions or she got pregnant my friends got married all through their didn't work mine will they experience it then they see theirs didn't either so the try again just think if we could do like the olden days more than one wife or husband then we have More friends no one get bored that what I think why a marriage end

Answer 42

People still get married because it's still the most fulfilling, rewarding relationship of all time. It works. For many people. If you don't think it's a good thing you don't have to do it.

Answer 43

Got married in a registry office, so no. There was no pomp or ceremony about it. Part of the reason we married was on visa grounds / to stay in country (because we loved each other), other beneficial technicalities, had sod all to do with religion. Should imagine we are not alone in our decision...

Answer 44

Before there were societal laws and religious rituals, a couple were considered married if they were seen entering the same tent three nights in a row. Today it is known as a common law marriage, whether the couple involved wants it or not.

Answer 45

In the US it is a civil institution that to many people can have a religious component to it. But think of this, if you get married in a church, but don't get a marriage license (so you don't get legally married), most people aren't going to think of you as actually married. The courts won't, the government won't, the banks won't, employers won't, most people won't.

Answer 46

Proud to be part of Jesus' family, however my marriage is sacred, married in the church I was baptized in as well as my husband. Our marriage is the real deal. Only God could put a boy born in Turkey to a girl born in the most civilization in the world in Hawaii. Married on the mainland, met here. God choose a man who would love me the way I need to be loved.

Answer 47

NO one is getting rid of religion. People get married because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together - plus, create a loving family.

Answer 48

Marriage is also a way to know if you are romantically involved with family. Think about it, the last names? Those were put in place for a reason. There's a chance you could be in a relationship with your extended cousin or something without the recorded family lines.

Answer 49

It is a moral issue for the good of the community and the future of humanity.

Like a program in a computer. It can catch a virus if it is not in sequence.



And some will tell you some story like this and that is normal:



Long answer...

Marriage is not only pre-Christian it’s pre-Human as well.

Monogamy and lifelong pair bonds are evident in the Animal Kingdom. , Many animals display moral behavior and altruism as an advantageous adaptation.



Moral behavior arose in animals with the cognitive recognition of their sexual partners and offspring. Altruism and Empathy is an instinctive survival mechanism.

Altruism >noun,

(1) unselfish concern for others.

( 2) Zoology behavior of an animal that benefits another at its own expense.



Gibbons are the nearest relatives to humans that mate for life. They form extremely strong pair bonds and males and females of the species are of roughly equal size and perhaps relatively equal status . The coupled male and female will spend time grooming each other and (literally) hanging out together in the trees. Cheating does occur.



One cultural anthropologist I’ve read stated Man invented marriage to enforce men's control over women. The Christian "sex is a sin” thinking is part of it. Sexual attractiveness gave the women power. So the best way to keep women in a subservient role, was to turn sex into a sin.

I’m not making that up.

Answer 50

I would personally much prefer it if I had been married off to a woman when I was eighteen. I'm attracted to about half of all women my age, so there's a fairly good chance I would have been happy with her.

Answer 51

Marriage is an unwanted institution created by the so called civilized human beings. The concept itself is against the will of nature. Marriage has no connection with religion though in some cases the function may be arranged in a place of worship. Marriage is one of the causes of most of ther problems we face. It creates selfishness, greed etc. The earlier this system is abolished the better for humanity.

Answer 52

2 reasons for me

1. At the time, I didn't have the same legal right to raise my children as my partner did. I was told that if she died, I would have ask authorities to be their legal guardian.

2. We wanted a big family occasion, and our parents were ageing. They all died within about 10 years.

The whole marriage thing needs adjusting now, as heterosexual couples are not allowed to have a recognised civil union, but gay couples are allowed. Rules should be the same for everybody.

Answer 53

I wonder the same thing. Personally, I never wanted to married and still don't. Plus, I don't want kids. People think I'm strange or different but to me it feels natural and right.

Answer 54

sadly a lot of those who do never should, they are young poor and end up multi divorced



but its a good institution, just don't sign ANY contract you can't FULLY commit to: IMHO you should have to be 21, sober, not on ANY type of parole/probation, and able to pass a piss test with proof of full time employment for at least one year prior to doing so.



If so......divorce rate would be almost 0%

Answer 55

The data trend for marriage shows that it is on the decline with currently there being seven marriages per year for each 1000 persons. The average for the period between 1900 and 1970 was 10 marriages/year/1000 people.

Answer 56

God established marriage by bringing a man & a woman to become as 1 flesh.

This couple would leave their parents & together establish a home for themselves & their children.

God never "established any religion", what he established was always a relationship between man & himself.

There`re benefits to being married.

Having a person to love & share our life with promotes physical, mental & spiritual stability.

Statistics show that those who are married are happier than those who are single.

It is easier for a man & woman to raise, nurture & provide for their children. Legal marriage provides stability for the children because children see marriage as a sure way for their parents to remain together throughout their lives.

These children are happier, stable, positive & have a better understanding of themselves, their family & their environment.

Answer 57

Because its nice to have somebody who we can share our life with.. Or don't marry.. Just live together.. I been marriage and didn't work.. Now I live with a partner and without marriage and works thousand times better

Answer 58

Marriage is not a religious institution.It was invented to regulate sex and protect women against unwanted ,fatherless babies.Sex as integral part of life is for initial few years only.Mostly men and women want company beyond sex after a particular age and the institution of marriage continues.

Answer 59

Marriage is a very serious institution, started by Jehovah God back in the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve were made “one flesh.” Christ Jesus referred to the first marriage, and that this is an arrangement of God and should remain clean and that the marriage bed should not be defiled. (Matt. 19:4-6) Thus, husbands and wives can render “sacred service” by making their marriage successful and an honor to God’s institution of marriage.

Answer 60

Not strictly a religious institution. Check out Brehon Law marriage in Ireland. This pre existed the coming of Christianity and regulated the institution in a very practical way. It also allowed for a trial marriage of one year's duration and for divorce. Then...the church came and changed the rules.

Answer 61

Wow. Just setting this question is depressing. God created marriage and gave humans the need to bond with another. Marriage is something that is not only fulfilling (physically, emotionally, etc) but also has some benefits with filing taxes and other things.

Answer 62

Why do people still get married?



It's all about the wedding dress.

Answer 63

Contracts.

Unmarried person may not be covered by contracts, like Insurance.

Probate Court cases involving inheritances. A marriage (contract) makes it easier to divide the estate.

Hospital Care, a marriage partner has more influence in the care given.

Answer 64

non marriage and cohabitation is against the natural order of humanity..

if no one marries, then partners can just end a life long relationship on a whim, an argument, no commitment to stand up to..

families will be torn apart, relationship ruined.... trust broken..

bastard children born here and there, not knowing parents due to no marriage and having fornication with whomever willy nilly here and there due to no commitments again..

this will tear apart humanity and trust.. we dont want to go back to the animalistic days of past where there were orgies and free sex everywhere... we are not animals.. we are above that and are supreme beings on earth and honor our commitments to God and humanity..

Answer 65

marriage has been coopted by religions but its origins and its ongoing legitimacy rely on its legal purpose



essentially marriage is a contract and a joining together of legal affairs



it is important regarding property rights and perhaps most importantly with regard to offspring resulting from the marriage



theres lots of little reasons too in the modern world - access in hospital in case of an accident, standing in legal matters, conveyed rights to govt benefits and on it goes



indeed all reasons why marriage equality is so critical



a non formalised marriage "de facto" now provides many of the same protections but by the nature of de facto it makes things more complicated - civil unions may be where marriage ultimately heads but for the moment a formalised marriage remains important in most jurisdictions

Answer 66

"Why do people still get married?"

There are literally hundreds of legal advantages to it.



"Isn't marriage a primitive religious institution?"

No, it is defined by the government in the law of the government. Churches have been given the power to perform marriages and they like to do a ritual as part of that, but you still need to get a license from your local government by following the procedures defined by the government. The religious ritual is not necessary. You don't have to go to a church to get a marriage recognized by the government.



"It is against the natural order of humanity"

Evidence? Mating pairs are part of our species as long as we have recorded history, and the evolutionary evidence looking around at other species, is that it's a natural part of being a mammal. We evolved that way.

Answer 67

It's called LOVE and COMMITMENT. I was raised to wait until marriage before sex. Of course I got married @ 19 the first time lol.

Answer 68

I just asked this. Being female....having a good job, why get married? MOST of the work at home, including raising a kid will be on HER!!!!! Got a good job ladies, want a baby, visit a sperm bank!!! Why should I get married work 40 hours a week, go home to wait on him while he watches sports, have his kid (son) to carry on HIS last name...not worth it!!!!!! Have a kid, give that child YOUR last name!!! It is NOT worth getting married!!!! NO IT IS NOT!

Answer 69

Why are people not married but are living together ? - Hebrews 13: 4.

Answer 70

The puposes of marriage are multiple. It wasn't religion that came up with marriage. People have always gotten married, often for reasons of power, lineage, economics, land, resources.

Answer 71

I can assure that you since the beginning of mankind ,no animals on earth ever created their own primitive society by getting married and I heard them saying to each other that as soon as human being ,who posses intellect, abandoning the marriage ceremony then they would start off their animals cultured by getting marriage, in using only their instinct.

Answer 72

some of us get married because we are not afraid of commitment or loyalty to one another as for religion God from the very beginning has had a remnant that is a people who worship Him if you would please read your History you will find that there has always been those misguided people who have tried to get rid of true religion all without success God is the Truth and the truth is its own defender

Answer 73

Because they fall in love or they have an arranged marriage or marry out of a fear of being alone.

Answer 74

It's way too pointless and stupid for me. I mean back then it meant something, now people just do it for a fun night and honeymoon when they "think" they are in love. Yeah have fun with the divorce in 4 years like what usually happens.

Answer 75

Some people feel that they want a place to go after work a place where they are needed and appreciated they may spend only a few hours awake in this atmosphere but, to them, it's worth everything they have to do to be able to have this one secure place they call home.

Answer 76

men get married because they get fooled. Women get married because they know how much they can bleed a man dry for and not give him any sex because they divorce laws will ruin him financially. this is why all men cheat

Answer 77

Less tax. Actually not getting marry will save a lot more.

Answer 78

The Catholic Church believes that God himself is the author of marriage and has created it for one man and one woman.



The spouses of a valid marriage:

• Create a bond, which by its very nature is perpetual and exclusive.

• Are strengthened and consecrated for the duties and the dignity of their state.

• Are sealed by God himself in their consent to mutually give and receive one another.

• Form a covenant that is integrated into God's covenant with man: "Authentic married love is caught up into divine love."

• Have their own special grace that:

. • Perfects the couple's love.

. • Strengthens their unity.

. • Helps one another to attain holiness in their married life.

. • Helps in welcoming and educating their children.



With love in Christ.

Answer 79

As an institution that allows men to mark his women and children and have complete control of his family/property? No.



As an institution that joins consenting adults into a thriving union that promotes love and family? Yes.

Answer 80

Long answer...

Marriage is not only pre-Christian it’s pre-Human as well.

Monogamy and lifelong pair bonds are evident in the Animal Kingdom. , Many animals display moral behavior and altruism as an advantageous adaptation.



Moral behavior arose in animals with the cognitive recognition of their sexual partners and offspring. Altruism and Empathy is an instinctive survival mechanism.

Altruism >noun,

(1) unselfish concern for others.

( 2) Zoology behavior of an animal that benefits another at its own expense.



Gibbons are the nearest relatives to humans that mate for life. They form extremely strong pair bonds and males and females of the species are of roughly equal size and perhaps relatively equal status . The coupled male and female will spend time grooming each other and (literally) hanging out together in the trees. Cheating does occur.



One cultural anthropologist I’ve read stated Man invented marriage to enforce men's control over women. The Christian "sex is a sin” thinking is part of it. Sexual attractiveness gave the women power. So the best way to keep women in a subservient role, was to turn sex into a sin.

I’m not making that up.

Answer 81

Marriage started as arrangements by families to ensure their heritage.

By the middle ages, the church took over to protect widows & orphans.

Latterly civil authorities register marriages of any two partners.

Marriage was intended for improvement of human rights.

Answer 82

Because people want to have a ceremony that marks a huge event in their lives. I'm sorry for you if you've never felt that way.

Answer 83

From a woman's point of view , a big flashy day , which is all about her , followed by access to a man's resources. From a man's point of view , he THINKS he will be loved & have access to sex....sorry guys , wrong on both counts , especially the sex bit !! You will learn the hard way after she takes you to the cleaners !!

Answer 84

Yes let's do that, and every time a woman becomes pregnant out of wedlock, the guy gets to raise the child until he or she is 18.

Answer 85

After over 45 years, marriage is still great!

Answer 86

marriage has never been "religious" - its always between a formal contract between man and woman



The "contract" being the promises (oaths) taken between bride and groom



A long time ago it was given to "religions" to administer the oaths as "religions" were the cornerstone of communities, and often they were the only ones who could read and write (hence why the minister asks them to repeat after him, cos HE was the only one who could read the oaths they had to take)



The actual "marriage" did not take place until the contract was signed by bride and groom and the minister had signed as witness to them taking the oaths, and THAT was a civil contract, not a religious one.



Today there is no reason for marriages to be specifically under the control of religions as many cultures now allow those licensed to administer the oaths to carry out the "marriage"

Answer 87

Ask gays why they want to marry so badly. They will have good answers. I'm willing to bet you're a gay marriage supporter.

Answer 88

Marriage is not a religious institution. The fact that you're atheist doesn't mean we're slowly getting rid of religion. In fact, atheism in the West is remaining static while religions like Islam grow rapidly. Google that if you want. Don't get on my @$$ for stating factual statistics.

Answer 89

Yes, it is a primitive, archaic pointless ritual.

Same goes for believing in God and other BS. People have advanced far enough to comprehend that no gods have ever existed.

Answer 90

Because God instituted marriage, not evolution, or mankind. Genesis 2:21-25.

Answer 91

No.Because love exists.



Maybe.

And people fall for another and want to spend their lives with them.

It's perfectly natural.

Answer 92

Because of love and they want to be truly committed to one another. Making the ultimate commitment. When you get married you become one with your partner.

Answer 93

Its such a pointless thing, so happy me and my partner dont want to get married or have kids for that matter :)

Answer 94

Basically to fulfill their dreams and various reasons.

To carry their family name, Business, sex .etc

For smart people to show that the can do anything.

Different people have different ideas marriage is one part of it.

Answer 95

of course we should say good bye to marriage as its not a natural process. After marriage freedom finished of an individual, and many times it has been seen that even love marriage not going well.

Answer 96

Marriage is religious! It was designed by God as a union between man and wife. The world has twisted it to be between same-sex couples and something that can easily be undone ----> quickie divorce.

Answer 97

You're primitive, your going backwards from a human being to becoming an animal

Answer 98

If you find 'marriage', (something that Christians love and respect) "a primitive religious institution" what do you call civil wedding ? Or is it the 'religious' bit that bugs you ?l

Answer 99

It is nothing but increasing a species to continue it's past generation..

Answer 100

Actually natural instinct drives you to have one spouse. Lots of other animals are the same way. But ya monogamy is fairly natural to humans.

Answer 101

For loving people and make family

Answer 102

we need a life time partner to share everything eavn our secret also to survive life comfortably thats why we get married

Answer 103

If they're religious or want to make it officially recognised it makes sense. It is hypocritical to have a church ceremony if they don't believe in God though.

Answer 104

because they need to get married

Answer 105

Cause this is the best possible relation people can make outside the biological relationship. Also people wants to inherit.

Answer 106

To have a partner who they can share there happiness and sadness with. Someone they can rely and trust without worrying. Someone they are comfortable around

Answer 107

You get married so that when you get divorced you can have half of the house.

Answer 108

Actually these days it's a legal agreement to share everything you have together.

Answer 109

I get tax breaks and other benefits

Answer 110

Because it is the right thing to do...



1 Cor.15 shows that fornication is committing sin.

Answer 111

Tax breaks and a legal binding commitment that means nothing.

Answer 112

Marriage is a religous institution God ordained it! get it right and yes marriage isnt easy. needs alot of work on both sides. www.newlife.com

Answer 113

Because Jesus.



His law is written on the heart of all men.



And everyone can't help but to live by it, even those that are suppressing the truth of his existence.

Answer 114

Government issues marriage licenses, not religions.

Answer 115

No it's not religious. To me will just make me and the other feel more special and important to each other.

Answer 116

Because they love each other and want to formalize their love with a legal union.

Answer 117

Because

Answer 118

Personal choice?

Answer 119

i would love to find the answer to that I get they still want to maintain the culture and value of that but there not much left.

Answer 120

It is a healthy precursor to raising a family

Answer 121

Many reasons including spiritual, social, economic, etc

Answer 122

Marriage has been one of the most important rituals in primitive societies, being one of the key elements in the preservation of society itself.



Why have marriage... why have family... why have society at all?

Answer 123

You are one of the many people who are making the world the way it is now.

Answer 124

If you find real true love you want that person locked and secured.



Union

Answer 125

Wow you just wanna be ANIMALISTIC.. huh?



It's funny how you chose the word "PRIMITIVE" as if ATHEISM isn't trying to take us back to the CAVE MAN days for sure..

Answer 126

Because it's right

Answer 127

There are various marriage contracts now

Answer 128

i personally don't see the point in marriage, all it does in my opinion is cause problems later in life when the relationship doesn't work out

Answer 129

they marry to divorce

Answer 130

In faith , it makes a strong social bonds there fore create a strong believe.

Answer 131

then who will take care of the children. we are not animals. if you want a child then marriage is a must

Answer 132

This may be the shortest answer I have ever given: because they love each other!

Answer 133

Because they have nothing to do.

They want to make their life busy.

Answer 134

Besides it is a natural phenomenon or process. You know potter for potter, cow for cow, dog for dog......

Answer 135

They don't want to be alone when they get old.

Answer 136

Ah

Answer 137

According to the bible and God marriage is very important and I will always follow him.

Answer 138

Well, everyone has different views. You believe its primitive, i believe its classical. Classical has no age,

Answer 139

when your "significant other" isn't married to you, and u end up on life support it WON'T BE that " significant other" making decisions.

Answer 140

Wow that would be scary! No restrictions, no trust, no obligations and no Family???!! why would anyone want that?

Answer 141

It's amazing how people ask such dumb questions.

Answer 142

there is no order without marriage, and not setting any rules for procreation simply makes a disaster in society, as is obvious .. to be strong and have a healthy society humans need large supportive families, and in this 'modern' world people seem to want to learn the hard way what being promiscuous and dividing themselves into individuals that try to stand alone with big daddy govt ruling them and robbing them blind is accomplishing ..

Answer 143

For connection, having babies, sharing their lives.

Answer 144

for life

Answer 145

for finish own life

Answer 146

Because they want to.

Answer 147

For half of everything

Answer 148

Might as well start flinging crap at each other.

Answer 149

Some do because they like the tradition, the rest are stupid

Answer 150

Those things can protect women in the future. :)

Answer 151

people believe in love and all that it entails

Answer 152

Because, there f?kin idiots

Answer 153

Check it out



http://see_the_truth.webs.com

Answer 154

tax purposes

Answer 155

Why do people always ask such dumb questions?

Answer 156

because people want commitment and companionship

Answer 157

Its noy

Answer 158

huh

Answer 159

Then with whom will u live with? Dogs?

Answer 160

idek

Answer 161

It is a choice.



It is also a belief.



OR .. a non-belief.

Answer 162

To get mad money

Answer 163

to enjoy sex and produce race

Answer 164

Why do you care what others do?

Answer 165

Because it is the done thing

Answer 166

security

Answer 167

I would suggest that since marriage is an institution created by God, it is an inherent desire within humans to marry. Just as it is an inherent human desire to love and be loved. It is natural for us to want to formally join our lives to another human. Is marriage a primitive institution? Well, farming is primitive too. Is that a reason to stop? We still eat, don't we? Growing food - primitive though it may be - facilitates that eating. Don't you agree?



We humans are imperfect (at the present time) and so we enter into a perfect institution and bring our imperfections with us. I do not believe that marriage "is against the natural order of humanity." Though the trend is definitely moving toward ridding earth of religion (and you may be surprised to know that in this regard humans are simply working out God's will anyway: to get rid of all false - and hence useless - religion), I do not see that getting rid of marriage has any connection. Marriage is the formal uniting of two humans - which can be done with our without religion. Marriage is quite productive, advantageous and beneficial and has, historically, been proven as such.



Hannah J Paul

Answer 168

I like how you think!

Answer 169

so they can get divorced

Answer 170

Where did you hear that from?

Answer 171

IN ORDER TO PREVENT ADULTARY, MARRIAGE WAS SOLOMNISED !!!

Answer 172

sentimentality /money

Answer 173

Because it's the right thing to do.

Answer 174

I have no idea:)

Answer 175

they can

Answer 176

for heavy sex

Answer 177

no

Answer 178

Sex sex sex WOOOOOOO!!!

Answer 179

?

Answer 180

Idk

Answer 181

SEX!! DUH!!!