I need help with an unusual problem.?

Question

I have a very unusual problem at least I think it is a very unusual problem. My soon to be husband wants to meet my ex husband. I can not see anything good coming out of this meeting. Both my ex husband and I have moved on and don’t have much contact with each other. We did not have any children but we parted on friendly terms.

Why would my soon to be husband want to meet my ex husband? I hope they do no want to become buddies. That would just be too weird. What does my soon to be husband want to do? Compare himself with my ex? All my friends tell me NEVER mention my ex husband to my new husband to avoid problems.

Should I arrange this meetings? People with ex spouses (and others), please give me your input.

Answer 1

No, no, and no. You're right - nothing good can come of that.

Answer 2

Not unusual at all.

Yes do it.



He is just trying to confirm you weren't deceptive.

Answer 3

You should reply that you're not interested in dredging up the past, and that you will answer any questions he has about your previous relationship without major details. Tell him you love him and you're not interested in running the same path you lived in the past. You are moving forward, and he can trust you completely.

Answer 4

The TRUTH can come of this. Such as:



-Did you divorce your ex and take a bunch of his money?



-Was your reason for divorce valid, or petty?



These will tell him if you’re a gold digger or not



Other things such as:



-Did you ever punch him?



-Did you ever cheat on him?



-Did you cuckold him?



Are all very important questions



If you were a classy and faithful woman to your ex and if you treat people decently and fairly, then you should have no worries about meeting up



If you avoid letting them meet up, then it doesn’t matter WHAT excuse you give, your boyfriend will know the real reason why, and he’ll then avoid ever marrying you.