Question:
Should I crack down on my husband's obsession with the Lottery?
2006-09-20 07:29:32 UTC
My husband seems to be really obsessed with the Mega Millions Lottery and talks about "when we win" this and "when we win" that. You and I both know my husband and I are never going to win. He buys one ticket every week. I don't want to waste money on something that isn't going to work out in our favor. Should I let him have his fantasy or tell him to get real??
212 answers:
g3010
2006-09-21 08:03:29 UTC
Will if one ticket a week is going to put that much of a financial burden on you then I think that a lot of us on here can start a fund for you so that you will have food on your table and a roof over your head.

I know that this isn't the winning answer; but let the man at least have his dream, if he does win the big one, then you will be all up in his face telling everyone that you are a big winner, and that your husband hit the lottery.

52 dollars a year isn't nothing compared to the million that he could win. You can't win anything if you don't play.

How much do you spend on your dreams, I didn't see any of that in your question. I am going to guess it is much more then that, a year isn't it.
son of the South
2006-09-21 07:40:11 UTC
One ticket a week is not considered an obsession. I know of people who buy $20 worth each week. They might win some lesser prizes, but that just encourages them. Unfortunately, it seems black people buy more than they should, and it's not just the Mega Millions. They buy 'scratch-offs' by the dozens. And when a new 'plan' comes out, most people obsessed with the Lotteries can't get to the new one fast enough. But I don't consider a dollar a week an obsession. It is played twice a week, and I buy one for each drawing, and I'm on a fixed income. It doesn't interfere with my lifestyle and now and then I win a buck or two, so I consider it 'entertainment. And remeber, SOMEBODY has to eventually win. Just look at those 16 bakery workers who played it every week for a year, and they all will get more than $150,000 each for their efforts. And there has been times when a person played it just one time and won, so don't be so negative. Think: "The next one could be ME".
2014-10-28 15:04:15 UTC
a week is going to put that much of a financial burden on you then I think that a lot of us on here can start a fund for you so that you will have food on your table and a roof over your head.

I know that this isn't the winning answer; but let the man at least have his dream, if he does win the big one, then you will be all up in his face telling everyone that you are a big winner, and that your husband hit the lottery.

52 dollars a year isn't nothing compared to the million that he could win. You can't win anything if you don't play.

How much do you spend on your dreams, I did
2006-09-21 10:33:39 UTC
yes because you have a better chance of getting a raise, struck by lightening, have an elvis sighting than you will winning the lottery.



besides your tax dollars go into it also. why put more than you can afford into something that won't give back?



it's better to invest in mutual funds and they don't pay very well... the key is.. PAY very well.. least a mutual fund pays.



he has got to find other ways to use the money and other things to occupy his mind that is more rewarding and doesn't involve false sense of hope.



and everyone else can relax finally along with himself.



i'm sure though he may or may not enjoy it there's a tension there.



he could just put that very money he uses for a ticket into a fund jar... and by the end of the year it'll be like winning the lottery!



really, i mean that jar will pay out better than any ticket can (due to the odds involved)
2006-09-20 19:57:27 UTC
Are you so poor that a fiver per week would make the difference between starving or not. I would bet you waste at least that much yourself. Do you drink coke or any other soft drink? Do you buy snacks when you go out? Sure seems like you are paranoid. It appears you have a computer and probably have other things to go with it. You sure can't eat a PC so why do you need it. Most likely you have a TV and sound system as well. I would not be surprised to know that you have credit cards and use them and then have to pay that high interest that you do not need to pay. If that is the only thing you can find to complain about then you sure had better look in the mirror and talk to the person you see there.
JennyF
2006-09-21 10:33:35 UTC
One ticket a week???? I would let him play. I bet you have some ways that you waste a bit of money too. He doesn't sound obsessed to me. He sounds like a guy who's a dreamer and a talker and he's probably just trying to engage you in conversation. The best conversations are always about dreams, hopes, and fantasies. You sure sparked a lot of intense debate with this question. It's interesting to read how others feel about gambling and marriage.
taboobiker73
2006-09-20 20:23:14 UTC
If your husband is only spending one dollar a week on the lottery, I really would not think of that as a problem. A ticket a week is a real respectable and controlled amount . He is in a real common category for a player. There is nothing wrong with investing a dollar a week for a chance at winning the big one. Most people I know have the same dream. And wouldn't you be surprised if he were to win. It does happen. And if it does happen, I'm willing to bet you will appreciate his efforts. I know. I have hit a couple good amounts myself. I wish you good luck!
sportyblush
2006-09-20 18:55:26 UTC
It's okay to spend a few bucks a week on something-as long as your husband doesn't let it control him. Allow him to indulge once a week, a set amount, and make sure he doesn't go over that limit. (It would probably be a good idea to discuss it with him first.) The lottery is viewed by some as a pasttime, while others see it as addictive. The question is, which one is it? Does he have control over the situation? It's just like any other "comfort habit"-like buying a pack of smokes (I'm not implying anything here, just using it for illustration purposes.).
Mr. Grudge
2006-09-20 07:43:18 UTC
I understand your frustration. Your husband's fantasy is leaking into reality. Still, he's only buying one ticket a week. If he was like the folks I see lined up at my local stationary store buying upwards of hundreds (not an exaggeration) of dollars a week in all sorts of lottery games, then he may have a real problem. Compulsive gamblers make it hard to hide their addiction as you will immediately feel the financial effects of their betting (lottery games are gambling games). One ticket a week is not excessive. His unrealistic expectations need to be met with more of a reality check. Let him have a fantasy, but remind him of the overwhelming odds. Don't worry about a few dollars a week adding up to thousands over the years. If we all took stock of the small things we buy for ourselves each week (coffee, newspapers, gum, etc) that too can add to thousands over the years. Tell him to lighten up, but don't stop him unless he spends too much money. That dollar amount is up to the both of you to decide. Good luck and win big!
Bigboi47
2006-09-20 18:47:20 UTC
One dollar a week? Are you kidding? Do you drink bottled water, drink soft drinks, buy lunch at work, drink Starbucks coffee? If you answer yes to any of the questions you are spending at least ten times that amount. This is harmless if he was spending 5 bucks or more a day on the daily games I would be concerned. To the women who think it is ok to nag your man about a dollar a week get real were not having it! To everyone else if I ever win the Mega Millions this is the toy I want. Sunseeker Predator

http://www.sunseeker.com/
Answer Schmancer
2006-09-21 08:16:34 UTC
Well, if he only buys one ticket a week, that's not that bad. That's only $52 a year, assuming you're getting the $1 tickets. My ex works at a gas station, and she had customers who would spend $50-$100 a week on tickets. That is a problem gambler right there.



Figure out how much money he spends on the lotto, set a limit to what you can afford to throw away (as this is what he's doing) and make sure he doesn't go over that limit.
Dreamlander
2006-09-20 20:03:48 UTC
Well, my favorite saying is "You can't win if you don't play!" I think he is staying within the limits just buying a ticket or two a week. It's when he starts buying five or ten you should start to worry. Besides, I think it is allot better to purchase a lottery ticket than alcohol or ciggies, regardless that he is gambling. Another point is that, I don't know which state you are in, but here in Texas, when you purchase a ticket some of the money goes to education and other things. So, all in all it is helping everyone.
jelly-bean
2006-09-21 10:27:49 UTC
I don't call one ticket a week an obsession. Hell. . .someone has to win. I cracked down on mine for spending $5 or $10 a week but I sure don't mine $1. It's very reasonable dream.
tman
2006-09-21 10:48:06 UTC
You are right that the odds are you will not win. But if you do not play at all that is a guarantee. Your husband has a fantasy that is relatively inexpensive and not very harmful to your lifestyle. As long as it does not get out of hand by using your retirement or a second loan on the car to play, I'd say let him play and fantasize how he can whisk you away in a new Cadillac to a dream life in the Caribbean.
onebusy_b
2006-09-21 10:37:14 UTC
I don't feel that 1 or 2 tickets a week is outrageous. What do you spend a buck or two a week on? If you honestly can't afford itit is a problem otherwise,let him have some harmless fun...at least he's not stickin' the money in someones g-string!
mr_oilfield_78
2006-09-21 03:43:13 UTC
First of all you should ask yourself is there anything you buy once a week and how would you feel if he asked you to stop buying it. If he only buys 1 ticket each week could that really be considered an obsession?



Even though it is a long shot that he will actually win some one has to win it every now and again. So who knows he might actually get lucky.
Twisted Maggie
2006-09-21 01:05:20 UTC
You can't win if you don't play. Sounds like he is just spending a dollar a week. What is the big deal? That is only 4 dollars a month. What do you spend your 4 dollars on? Give him a break! I work in a gas station that sells them, and believe me, he isn't spending too much. I have 4 customers who come in everyday and drop at least $60 on the scratch tickets. Sometimes more. They are addicted to it, he's not. Your husband has as good a chance to win as anyone out there. Let him have his dream.
and,or,nand,nor
2006-09-20 21:58:23 UTC
I have never won, but........................



I do the same thing! I think it is already working in your favor. I noticed that you didn't state the $ amount he is spending each week, if it is just 2-5 bucks.... I say let him dream. I'm willing to bet that when ever he is talking about it, he has a big smile on his face...



I started buying the power-ball tickets about ten yrs ago. I spend two dollars on wed. and on sat. Back then it was just me and my wife, living paycheck to paycheck, barely getting by. I would always say " when I win, I'm getting a Porsche!".

I came home from the store the other day when I walked in I said it.... "when I win, I'm getting a Porsche!"..... of course my wife started laughing, My eight y/o daughter looked at me real funny, and said, "Why do you wanna win a Porsche?, you have two of them outside!"



Happiness comes in small doses. If it is not a problem, let him have this one. Maybe throw him for a real loop... Tell him "when I win, I'm getting a Porsche" It will be our secret!



Have a great evening!
Warren D
2006-09-20 23:54:06 UTC
I wouldn't call one ticket a week an obsession.



While it may seem he is obsessed with the lottery he is also donating a small voluntary tax to your state's treasury.



Personally, I feel pretty much the way you do about the lottery and I don't play it, but I wouldn't get ugly about it unless he starts spending a much larger amount of cash on it. Say ten dollars a week or more.



As long as it stays at this level it's harmless. Bug him about leaving the toilet seat up or his socks on the floor, but let him have this little obsession as long as he's reasonable about it.
llahaynos
2006-09-20 18:34:10 UTC
One ticket a week isn't bad. I know people that play the midday and evening numbers plus the take 5, the mega million, the lottery, play scratch - off tickets, go to bingo, play the football pool, and go to the Casino. Weekly. So, let him live his fantasy with only four dollars a month.
worldwise1
2006-09-20 14:30:58 UTC
If you think ther is a problem, there is, but maybe it's with you. I don't think that buying one lottery ticket a week constitutes a BIG problem, because I know of people who pour much more into it. Who knows? He just might be that one in so many millions who does eventually strike it rich. Does he work and draw a regular salary? I say let him have this one little freedom. If you insist on making a big thing out of it, it could lead to a serious relationship problem between the two of you. Live and let live.
pcreamer2000
2006-09-23 16:49:16 UTC
Depends, is this 'dream big' getting in the way of bills, and other activities...like a real addiction.



If the $$ is such that this is needed money, yes he should stop.

But if its, like me, part of my weekly entertainment $$, then so what... I spend $10 a week on movies or eating out, and that money is spent on lottery instead if we dont use it for movies or eating out.
ne11
2006-09-21 05:13:04 UTC
A few $ per week is not harmful. However, if you start seeing lots of other lottery tickets lying around, it could become a gambling addiction. Why not throw spare change in a jar. Set a limit like he can buy only one or two tickets per week. If the spare change doesn't cover the cost of the ticket, he can't buy the ticket. This puts a curb on overspending.



Good luck.
shalirha
2006-09-20 17:29:32 UTC
Wishful thinking is always the best- you know the saying- "you gotta be in it to win it". I feel there is nothing wrong with this, especially that he is only purchasing one ticket a week @ 52 bucks a year. The return will be well worth it shall you'll win. Everyone needs a little release from life that brings them great pleasure ( some turn to alcohol, drugs or other unsafe and/or expensive habits) . Being that this keeps him going and brings him pleasure, I say roll with it.

There is nothing really wrong with this as long as he does not get depressed from not winning, it's not against your religous beliefs and especailly that it does not harm either of you or your wallets.
.
2006-09-21 10:59:56 UTC
If it's one ticket, and the money for that ticket isn't taking away from bills/groceries, then let him have his fantasy...



...you're right, odds are against y'all winning, but it's not impossible...if it gives him pleasure to hope and dream, that seems harmless enough...it's likely you both piddle away more than the value of that ticket on a regular basis anyway (most people do)...



...if it becomes a financial problem or he starts spending more and more on tickets, then take action...but one ticket a week (I'm assuming they aren't that expensive) seems a harmless 'hobby' to me...
2006-09-21 09:43:04 UTC
He buys one ticket a week, you say? A simple one-dollar ticket, or something larger?



Basically, if you're going to grumble and gripe over a buck, then your problem isn't the lottery - and you need to figure out what it is so you can decide if the problem is him...or you.



On the other hand, if your hubby is spending $100 a week to try and win, then by all means sit down with him and try to get him to stop. But keep in mind, you can't control every facet of this man's life; marriages are compromise, not dictatorships.
johnna0317
2006-09-21 07:03:43 UTC
my father use to buy ticket like that too. he was so obsessed with the lottery and even gambling, but my mother is so good that he was able to tame my father's obsession with winning lottery or any other game. What she did was to join with his obsession but never plays the game... never telling him or never scolding him if he losses the game instead just be silent.. the more he knows you don't like him playing the game the more he'll find a way just to play the game.. And for sure, in that way he'll learn to hide from you. Just let him play till he stops and surrender but never give him money out of your own earnings just to make him more obsess. If he gives money to you.. buy it something worthwhile that is visible to his eyes so he would know the value of your money. Or spend time with your family outside. The only thing that can stop a man from one's obsession is by letting his mind be busy with the things not relevant to his obsession
ssbn598
2006-09-21 10:35:28 UTC
A fantasy is a good thing as it gets you through the day. (Don't YOU have fantasies?) And ONE ticket is cheaper than a cup of coffee in many places. I'll bet you both buy more than one cup of coffee a week. He could sacrifice a cup of coffee to support his weekly lottery fantasy.



Leave him be. At $1 per ticket per week, it would take almost 20 years to cost $1,000. Just make sure it remains ONE ticket a week.



Good luck.
stuckinamoment
2006-09-21 08:37:29 UTC
I used to be addicted to PowerBall. I played $6 a week for 6 years! Tell me how much money I wasted over that span of time. One ticket really isn't that much, if you think about it. It's fun to have the fantasy of winning. It's better than spending that on alcohol or cigarettes, right?
BG
2006-09-21 06:37:59 UTC
I am sure he spens less on the lottery in a year than you do buying clothes at the mall. Let him have his fantasy, it is not that much money a week and it is fun to dream sometimes.



No, if he starts spending $100's of dollars a month on the lottery, that is another question
2006-09-20 21:22:29 UTC
If one ticket per week isn't breaking your bank then it does no harm. My father bought lottery tickets for 50 years and hardly won anything over $1,000 but a sad story of my girlfriend's father is that he bought tickets over 40 years, died early at 63 and two weeks later won $200,000. Will your husband ever win? A question neither you nor him will ever know unless it happens in your/his lifetime. My spiritual belief is that if one is meant to have a lot of money to bring them good they will and one must make themselves happy without it if not. As long as he does not take it too serious and get depressed when not winning. There is many advices to this. Just advise him "yes you have to be in it to win it" but to chill if he does not.
2006-09-20 21:03:54 UTC
I don't think one ticket is going to hurt you or your finances. Nothing it wrong in wanting to win. Who knows he might. Understand if you don't play you have no chance of winning. Since he is buying one ticket a week, at least there is a chance even if it is small. Everybody has a dream...some come true and some don't. Let him have his fun one day a week. Be Thankful that is all he is buying and doing. Should he win Thank Your lucky stars for being reasoinable.
wvcountrygirl_93
2006-09-20 18:21:47 UTC
Well one ticket a week its that bad.that's not obsessed.Everybody talks about when they when the lottery at one time or another.And how do you know your never going to win?I will admit the odds are slim but it could happen.Think of how much you spend on make-

up,hair stuff, and nail polish.That's a lot more a week than it cost more than it costs to play the lottery.There's not really a difference.And he could be spending his money on booze and stripers.I wouldn't worry unless he starts spending his whole paycheck trying to win.
2006-09-20 07:34:28 UTC
Everybody wastes a little money on things that are unimportant, and one ticket per week is not much. For some people it's a coffee from Starbucks even though there's free coffee at work; for others it's going to a movie on Saturday night instead of the cheaper afternoon matinee; or buying premium instead of regular unleaded; getting shoes when they're not on sale; etc., etc. Let the guy have his fantasy of millions as long as it's not breaking the bank. Choose your battles wisely; don't start arguments in your marriage over trivial things.
2014-11-01 01:35:43 UTC
It all depends on his attitude. If it makes him happy to spend 'a few bucks a week' on gambling, then let him have fun. If he is unhappy when he doesn't win or starts to increase the amount he spends, then he might be getting addicted. Any such addiction is a cause for worry. A neighbor of mine lost their apartment when the money they spent on gambling caught up with them.
zippythejessi
2006-09-21 11:00:46 UTC
You know what? If it's not ruining you financially, let him spend the buck a week. There's other ways you can p*ss away a dollar, and if this entertains him, let him. It's nice to dream. Yeah, it *could* add up to thousands, but you've gotta be in it to win it. =)
2016-03-18 03:12:51 UTC
if you could buy extreme happiness for $1 dollar wouldn't you, deep down I am sure your husband knows he is not going to win, but there is nothing like the exliration of the minutes before the drawing and mentally spending the money, its a great pleasure. I am sure there is something you spend at least a dollar a week on that is unneccasary( I have to have starbucks instead of regular coffee my wife gets her nails done every week there are better things to spend our money on but who cares) let him have his fantasy, untill it becomes an obsession(spending hundreds of dollars) hope this helps.:)
China Jon
2006-09-20 20:25:46 UTC
It all depends on his attitude. If it makes him happy to spend 'a few bucks a week' on gambling, then let him have fun. If he is unhappy when he doesn't win or starts to increase the amount he spends, then he might be getting addicted. Any such addiction is a cause for worry. A neighbor of mine lost their apartment when the money they spent on gambling caught up with them.



Watch his attitude, and watch the cost. If he is happy, then it is worth it. If he is unhappy, then of course he is addicted and should stop. Be careful that he is not buying more than one ticket a week.



;-D People do win. Miracles happen every day. Enjoy the hope with him! Don't ruin it with nagging. Either you both have fun, or he should quit. It is your money too! Especially if he WINS!!
helpme1
2006-09-20 15:07:42 UTC
That all depends on how broke you are. How much do you make per week? We are on a fixed income so $4.00 and put a big dent in our budget. But if you are making $2000 a month then I don't see a problem in 'wishing'. Isn't that what we all do on occasion?

In the end it's your decision. Why not go along with him for a while and talk about how wonderful all that money would be, and dream a little. It can be fun.
david42
2006-09-20 14:41:15 UTC
Gambling addiction is a huge problem in this nation. Now, one ticket a week, sounds minor if the cost is low. One can be said to be wasting money on beer, football games and computer gear (ask my wife).

The key in my estimation is moderation. If this issue is concerning you, then at the least there should be a discussion. Below is a web site you may wish to visit.
Heather K
2006-09-20 07:33:37 UTC
As long as it's one time a week, that's not too much money. At least he's not going crazy like I see some folks do where they buy 10 or more tickets at a time. But I can see where it would be annoying at times when he talks about "when" he wins. When I buy Mega Millions tickets (which isn't very often), I find myself sometimes doing the same thing... Silly.
2006-09-21 03:47:42 UTC
You've surely heard that old saying, "TRY IT, YOU'LL LIKE IT" Just let him be, a few bucks a week, with a slight chance to win big ain't gonna hurt. If the bills are getting paid, let him have fun, and if he asked this question, I'd give him the same answer. Good luck, and love each other!!! Ron Couch
gabriel3791
2006-09-20 19:45:30 UTC
Hey Juli, you gotta lighten up! Every month, in the town where I used to live, I would go to city hall to pay my water bill. The city clerk, her and her husband used to buy 5 quick picks every week. Guess what? They won 4.7 million dollars. I know they paid off their house and put all their kids thruough college and retired. And I heard they paid a lot of money to a lot of charities. A guy at work told everyone if he won the lottery he would be in the parking lot before first shift passing out 12 packs of beer out of his van. Well. one morning a couple of years later, there he was passing out the beer! He retired that day. Him and his wife moved out of state and no one at work ever heard from them again. Your husband is only buying one ticket a week. As long as he doesn't start buying 100 scratchoffs every week, I think it is harmless. Cheers!
2006-09-20 16:18:39 UTC
its a give and take position... i quit Starbucks coffee, you know, up to 4 bucks for a Fancy coffee....so, i have 5 bucks a week i can play, usually don't play until pot is over 25 mil....you have a good as a chance as anyone else to win as long as you have a ticket...i know the odds is extraordinary,,,but some body out of the lottery pool wins ...so, i have a ticket in the pot
jamesnjenifer
2006-09-20 14:51:27 UTC
It is fun to dream and my husband and I have that same dream too, we also sometimes play the lottery. I also think sometimes about the money we've spent in tickets and that if we had saved that it could add up over time. If your concerned about the long term spending what about talking it over and coming to a compromise. How about suggesting that one dollar per week only if the jackpot is over a certain amount, say $150m-$200m? Is that something you might be comfortable with and that would still allow a little fun and dreaming but without spending oodles of money in the end that may of added up to a family vacation or something else nice?
tjslove
2006-09-21 10:30:32 UTC
I think it's okay - $52 a year is what I pay for cable each month! Having dreams keeps people upbeat and hopeful.



Does he smoke? - I'd focus on the money he wastes on that first.
robertspraguejr
2006-09-21 10:56:13 UTC
It looks like you have a much bigger problem than the lottery. You are attempting to control him. Your question reads, "... crack down ..." That kind of language is how parents speak about their children. Do you really consider yourself so superior to your husband that you feel you are entitled to dictate his behavior? My suggestion is to get marriage counseling. And to your specific question, no, you should not crack down on a ticket a week.
stefjeff
2006-09-20 21:56:47 UTC
Someone has to win it, and everyone that enters thinks they dont stand a chance.



Just so long as he isnt spending too much on the lottery its ok to spend a few bucks every week chasing a dream.
Mr. Georgia
2006-09-20 20:26:48 UTC
I say a dream is a great thing to have..... I mean it's not as if youa re really going to ever actually miss that little bit of money.... most people spend a few bucks a week on soda and candy..... that's thousands spent on junk food by the time we die.
Patrick C
2006-09-20 16:45:44 UTC
At "one ticket a week" Let him have his fantasy..He is one of the few players I know of that plays the lottery the way it was supposed to be played, sanely..consider yourself lucky..

Both my teenage sons work in a convenience store. They are stunned at the amount of money spent, almost every day, by the same people, playing every lottery game there is...

Besides you never know, right :):):)
2014-09-29 12:29:17 UTC
here anything you buy once a week and how would you feel if he asked you to stop buying it. If he only buys 1 ticket each week could that really be considered an obsession?



Even though it is a long shot that he will actually win some one has to win it every now and again. So who knows he might actually get lucky.
stumble__replay
2006-09-21 10:11:32 UTC
You definetely should.

It's an extremely unhealthy habit.. It's a game of luck. No skill needed. He should spend his money on something for constructive.
ldoc60
2006-09-21 00:52:18 UTC
My brother always wants to hit it big, you know get rich quick. He never does of course but still spends good money on schemes that could go to his two kids.

Your husband spends $4.00 a month on a dream of living large. Let him. He's doing what my brother does and a lot cheaper. So he likes to dream.... why not let him for that little.

One more thing....when he dreams of the yachts and summer homes... go with him, enjoy the thought of having no money issues and being filthy rich! Pretty cheap for $4.00 a month.



Good luck, hope he wins!
2006-09-20 07:32:13 UTC
Hey... is not bad to daydream... at least he is not spending all his paycheck in the hopes of winning a lottery... I say when I win the lottery I am going to do this or do that and I dont even buy the ticket.

Nothing wrong with that.
Big Blue
2006-09-21 09:39:25 UTC
Well, anything can become an obsession or addiction, but as long as your husband stays in-check and doesn't go overboard, it shouldn't be a problem.



Spending a few hundred dollars a year isn't so bad if it's something that gives him pleasure and keeps him going. We all need an outlet of some kind, whatever form it may come in - hobbies, sports, an interest in something. It's healthy! At least he's fantasizing about a better life with you than fantasizing about other women!



The important thing is to talk about it with him without condemning him. The fact that you feel you need to "crack down" on your husband indicates you are trying to control him, which could be a recipe for resentment and all sorts of other problems. Cut the guy some slack and leave him to his harmless "escape." As long as you're paying your bills on time and it's not interfering with your finances I don't see a problem.
trishopesisters
2006-09-21 04:06:43 UTC
If it stays at a few bucks a week, fine. But keep an eye on it. My soon to be ex husband got to the point where he was spending all his own wages, plus stealing from me, even my 11 year old son, to play Lotto and Scratch offs. We lost our apartment, cable and almost electric and it has taken me months to dig out. So keep an eye on it.
TrueSoul
2006-09-21 10:15:10 UTC
Lottery is gambling. Gambling addiction is a real problem. Contact the lotto office, I think by law they are suppossed to give tel. # or info on asssistance to gambling addicts. Or look up in the yellow pages. They have groups similar to Alcoholic Anonymous. Good luck.
rickherr10
2006-09-21 09:30:47 UTC
hey if its only a few bucks a week then what is the problem

now when he starts spending his whole pay check on it and lieing to you about it then yes its time to worry about it

and hey you never know you could win some thing but if you dont play you cant win
cnkbrum
2006-09-20 21:32:27 UTC
my mom plays lottery because she thinks it is fun. Yes she spends more than just a dollar. She also makes sure her bills are paid. All of us kids are grown, My hubby and i every now and again buy the scratch ones. It is a entertainment. I bet you spend your money on stuff you dont NEED either. Women like you take so much for granite.
2006-09-21 10:26:23 UTC
as long as it doesn't get out of hand. you don't want him to where he has to buy them and spend all of your $$$; in hopes to win back to make house payment, etc. Until then if it's just for fun what the hay.
smiley
2006-09-21 09:12:47 UTC
Get this! My husband dreams of hitting the Mega Million Lottery but he does not buy any tickets.LOL!! I asked him how was he going to win if he didn't buy a ticket? He just laughed. So, to your question. If it's just a $1.00 ticket what the heck. You could win but if the tickets more I can see your point. Maybe, you should take the same amount of $ he spends on a ticket & put it in a bank for a few months & then pull it out & show him how much $ he's throwing away. Good Luck with this. I hope I helped.
fatsausage
2006-09-21 00:35:13 UTC
One ticket, once a week, is not an obsession or an addiction.

What else are you nagging about.

Did you know that your number one job is to keep your husband Happy and support him in everything he does? Adjust your priorities. Read Taming of the Shrew!!!!
phoenixheat
2006-09-20 18:23:08 UTC
If he only buys 1 ticket a week, let him have his fun. Some guys go to the casino every week and spend hundreds of dollars.
2006-09-20 18:37:24 UTC
Let him dream, everyone needs to and who knows you may win, some is going too.



I don't know how long you have been married but if he enjoys playing the lottery and isn't going overboard why not let him have some happiness?
jamieinreno
2006-09-21 11:11:51 UTC
If you can't spare the money, then maybe you should put a stop to this. But if you can, why not let him have his fun. Everyone needs a little fun hobby.
curious ma
2006-09-21 01:06:13 UTC
Let him have his fantasy, one ticket a week isn't going to make or break you, but then again it could make you!!!! Like the advertising says "somebody has to win and it might as well be you". Wait a minute ... it might as well be me, what am I talking about!!!!
arpy_815
2006-09-20 19:13:14 UTC
If this is what's making him happy, trust me let it go.

If he has a set of numbers that he plays all the time and he gets real like you want him to. He will be very upset if those numbers actually come out as winners and believe me he will blame you for the loss. Why risk it?
2006-09-21 10:52:28 UTC
It is a dream, one that millions share. Everyone is obsessed with something (a favorite band, cleaning, etc.). If you can deal with his "when we win" talks and are financially stable enough, go for it. It may add up to thousands of dollars, but so does a daily coffee or newspaper, etc.



Then again, you could win.
Chuck N
2006-09-21 10:55:12 UTC
buy him fake lotto tickets where he wins

or get last week's numbers and put in last weeks vcr tape and pretend he wins and he'll go crazy and either get really upset (if he is he shouldnt be your husband) or laugh it off and get the joke



$1-5 bucks a week is ok i assume
dolphinluver22000
2006-09-20 18:10:58 UTC
Let him have his fantasy. It's not like he is spending all his money on lottery tickets. If he was, that would be a different story.
2006-09-21 05:20:27 UTC
You can't win if you don't play, granted it is a game of chance and someone is going to win; let him play he could be wasting money on something else. You mentioned "he buys one ticket every week", I wouldn't classify that as a waste of money you should call that an investment. Let him play you might get lucky.
SAREK
2006-09-21 03:51:19 UTC
Leave him alone. This "habit" may make you rich one day. Its better than him always running after other women, or beer drinking and other things men do.

Am a chess player. Am sure you would hate that. Would'nt you?

Find a nice habit to do yourself instead of worring about what your husband is doing.



I wish you a happy marriage!
Anø1eus©
2006-09-20 17:59:30 UTC
playing the lottery is like an addiction to gambling..i was a former gambler myself..blowing my wages on the slots.. i wised up later after learned it started to affect my handling of money..i wasnt able to get my credit back on track..i wasnt able to get food on the table.

i had a jar filled with 500.00 worth of pocket change..i converted it into cold hard cash and gambled at local indian casino..im not that stupid anymore. i havent gone to a casino in 2 years.. because i learned from my mistakes..so, in conclusion..i dont think buying lotto tics for 1-2.00 every week is going to hurt your budget..let him enjoy his fantasy. IMHO!
Sam X9
2006-09-20 17:38:51 UTC
Guide him to control expentidures on lottery tickets. Do not totally restrict him from buying a ticket, maybe one day, his dreams will come true.
*AMY*
2006-09-20 14:16:49 UTC
I wouldn't, my husband plays the lottery all the time too. I ain't gonna tell him what to do with his money, crap maybe he just wants to win the lottery. Now if he wins lots of money, what are you gonna do, tell him to give it all away? You should just let him play.
massage_erica
2006-09-21 01:05:12 UTC
Honey if the only thing your man is obsessed with is taking a chance on making you guys rich.......consider yourself lucky. There are worse things in life to be obsessed with. Yes he may in the end be wasting money.....but then again you never know. Its only money....you cant take it with you. Don't worry about it. Let him have his fun. If you try to stop it.....im afraid.....he will sneak it behind your back....or worse.....find something more harmful to your relationship to be obsessed with. Take it from someone who knows.
JoJoBa
2006-09-20 20:13:39 UTC
It seems like he is not obsessed with spending lots of money. He is cheap at playing the game. But by him being your man, stick by him at all cost and agree with him, and should you do he could hit big and you are gonna want some of the pie. So if you start agreeing with him either he will stop or continue knowing you are on his side.
cat_Rett_98
2006-09-21 01:30:40 UTC
You really shouldn't look at it as cracking down. That makes it seem as if he is doing something wrong. It may be a problem. But cracking down presumes an issue of dangerous importance.



For most people the lottery is just a wishful gest of money. The simple idea that it's possible, so why not? To crack down on a gest is to arouse angry feelings, putting undo stress on the relationship.



I think it would be best to treat this as a quirk. A simple oddity that your husband seems to have. It's far safer to treat it as a simple habit than to crack down on it as if it was a criminal activtity.



I would reccomend you starting with the following:



The fact that he likes the lottery so much.

Why it bothers you.

Why it worries you.

Why he should stop.

Possible compromises.



Compromises may include:

Entering the lottery once a week.

Only for significant occasions.

Only when you are both present.

If you win, it goes to childrens college fund.

Etc. etc.



You should ask yourself though, is the lottery the real problem?

Behind most gamblers is a history that begs to be talked about.



Perhaps you are less worried about his gambling with money and more worried about his gambling with life?
Sandylynn
2006-09-20 14:03:53 UTC
There may be a way to compromise (after all, marriage is a series of compromises), and tell him if he must participate in the lottery, wait until it's a really large amount before buying ONE ticket. While it may drive you nuts about his daydreaming, it could be worse. He could be daydreaming about....well, I won't get into the possibilities. Even a dollar a week isn't as bad as what he could be buying. If that's his only distraction, you're coming out on the cheap end. While I'm not saying gambling is a good way to supplement your income, if all he's purchasing is one ticket a week, it's pretty minimal. If it still really bugs you, then open up a savings account, and put one dollar a week into it. At the end of the year, show him your bank book, letting him see that with his dollar a week, you could have had $104 by now instead of $52. Maybe seeing it will help him decide where he wants to bank his money. <*)))><
2006-09-20 16:08:06 UTC
He already sounds obsessed. Tell him how you feel about the lotttery, but remember that having hope is a good thing. If he is depressed or something, sometimes things like that are all someone can hang onto if they're in a difficult financial situation.



I've never bought a lottery ticket and never will. I would rather take my chances at poker (which I suck at) or blackjack at the nearby casino or even the one dollar jackpot machines that you see old ladies spending buckets of chips on. At least there's some fun involved in it, even if you do lose. And if you do lose, you find out right away. You don't have to a week to find out and meanwhile hope and hope and hope that you are going to win.



Did you hear about the woman that won a million dollars from the lottery two years ago and then about a week and a half ago won another million dollars? I bet everyone H-A-T-E-S this woman.
ken742386
2006-09-20 15:04:43 UTC
$1 a week will hardly hurt anyone, but do you also have things you spend money on that would not help financially? Such things like cigarettes tabloid newspapers or useless trinkets. People have their diversions, allow him his as long as it doesn't get out of control. If you crack down on his diversion he may out of spite say something about yours.
I think...
2006-09-21 09:58:23 UTC
I think that you guys should both get "set spending allowances" and only be allowed to spend that money... if he wants to spend it on a lotto ticket -- fine. It means he cant by something else.



Or, you could just crack down - your choice
eric g
2006-09-20 16:58:00 UTC
let him play his one ticket a week, you say it would be thousands of dollars when you are older, but would you really save that 1 dollar? My guess is probably not because most people think 1 dollar is insignificant
reene2g
2006-09-20 13:51:53 UTC
Once a week is not bad. Coz you might say something and then he starts having a secret gambling obsession which will then get out of control coz he cannot tell you. Just make sure he sticks to once a week and to a minimum.
Jason The Great
2006-09-21 10:46:37 UTC
Absolutly!



The lottery is a waste of money, just think of the things you could do with all that money he wastes!



YOU COULD BE ON A CRUISE RIGHT NOW!
Karasu
2006-09-20 19:21:08 UTC
I don't know who you think you are talking about "cracking down" on your husband. Are you his mother? You are his partner not his owner and he has a free will just the same as you. Who do you think you are talking about "cracking down" as if you think you are the police or some other AUTHORITY. Your husband should tell you to kiss his rear.
Mauntie
2006-09-20 13:51:55 UTC
You can't win if you don't play...

At least if you play, you have a chance.

My husband and I play every week, and we come up with what we would do if we win. We have a lot of plans and its a great conversation that we pick up at different times as the jackpot gets bigger.

If you can afford it, I don't think it's so bad.
2006-09-22 20:47:07 UTC
No, you shouldn't. It would be in your best interest, as well as his, if you didn't sweat the small stuff like this.
Ranchgirl
2006-09-21 10:24:13 UTC
You need to tell him that if he doesn't stop there is going to be a BIG problem
Mojo Seeker Of Knowlege
2006-09-20 22:47:48 UTC
No without a ticket he cant dream.and he is far from a obsession whats

a few bucks.
dari98dae99
2006-09-21 04:20:10 UTC
well how much is one ticket? as long as it's not over $20 I say it's fine even though I don't agree with the lottery, but if that's one of his pleasures then why not.
hollywood
2006-09-20 16:55:20 UTC
Oh my god,Don,t be so cheap first of all!Second if he is only doing it once aweek,thats not exceive,and let your husband have dreams and wishes,Everybody needs them my friend!Specially if he works all week just to pay you guys bill!Give the Guy a break!Hollywood!
StoneWeasel
2006-09-21 04:20:56 UTC
What you are essentially asking is



"Should I force my husband to live the way I want him to live his life or should I let him Live his own life?"



Now can you work out the answer for yourself? If not I feel very bad for your husband.
claire
2006-09-21 08:34:58 UTC
One ticket a week isn't going to hurt. If he starts spending more and more, then you need to stop it or at least cut it back.
boozer
2006-09-21 06:51:52 UTC
you cant win if you dont play,some maintenance guy just won the other day ,i think he gets 99 million,as ong as hes not spending the rent money whats the big deal
hoodoowoman
2006-09-20 22:05:53 UTC
As long as it's one ticket a week, let him dream.

If he starts talking about it like it's an "investment" and starts spending money he doesn't have to spend, then stop it.



We all need to dream.
Ed A
2006-09-20 19:57:27 UTC
Unless he has a full blown gambling addiction, then no.



When he's spending the rent/mortgage or food money, then it's time to crack down.
malanina
2006-09-20 08:24:03 UTC
i think 1 a week isn't so bad..dome people waste money on smoking and other things that adds up to a lot more than that in a life time..
mona75243
2006-09-21 06:38:11 UTC
I have to say that if it's only a couple of bucks, let him enjoy the hype. You never know you two might just hit one day.
dionne m
2006-09-21 04:51:54 UTC
You have to be in it to win it. I think a ticket once a week is okay.
2006-09-21 01:56:08 UTC
This obsession will only lead him to doom. Wake him up.. not many in the world have made money by buying lotteries. It usually happens to the least expected. Even if he does manage to get a few bucks.. he will not respect the money as he has not earned it.

Introduce him to investing and trading if thats his cup of tea and atleast there is some science in the art of investing. Warren Guffet is the world's richest (2nd).. he's made all that fortune only by investing in stocks. I'm sure he would be interested as he plays with numbers. If he wants an additional kick ket him get into trading.

Hope this helps, all the best
JEREMY B
2006-09-20 20:17:30 UTC
You must be joking! Over 55% of adult Americans spend over $1dollar per week on lottery. Concider your husband an normal average American.
n317537
2006-09-20 15:25:24 UTC
As long as he only buys one ticket a week I would let him dream.
Miranda
2006-09-21 08:04:45 UTC
Why not agree on buying a lottery ticket every now and then? Until then, everytime you do not buy a ticket, you "win" that money.. Maybe you could calculate what you spend on it a year, get that amount of change at the bank, put it in a bowl and show him; This is what you would save... Or visualise; If you would not have bought lotterytickets all this time, you could have bought tickets to ... or have a X-Box.



Good luck!
2006-09-20 22:45:14 UTC
One ticket a week!!! Is that all? That hardly qualifies as a bad habit. Let him have his little fantasy if it makes him happy. I am sure you have your own fantasies!
dreamchsr
2006-09-20 16:56:02 UTC
First of all, you're fooling yourself if you believe it's only one ticket a week. Secondly, the lottery is an addiction just like playing the slots can be, or drinking, or drugs. The lottery commission wouldn't have a special commercial on TV about problems, if it weren't an actual fact. Sure they're out for the money, but so many have lost so much because of their addiction. It starts small, then they start rationalizing why they should buy more for better chances, then the lies start about only buying one, and before long, they're spending the grocery money and so on. I said all that to say this - nip it in the bud before more drastic measures are needed. Good luck.
2006-09-20 15:08:03 UTC
i dont think so my dad dont really call it a obsession but he still think we'll win when the highest we got was 4 #'s we were close but not close enuff and i m not superstishis but everything i wish 4 i get cuz i may not go 2 church but i pray!
rickybellanco
2006-09-21 03:40:01 UTC
there is nothing wrong with his obsession provided he doesn't derail from reality, allow him to have dreams about winning big but still encourage him to work very hard at his workplace or whatever he is doing, its not wise for him to indulge in daydreaming and slothfulness
WheeeeWhaaaaa
2006-09-20 18:34:04 UTC
If its literally just 3 or 4 dollars a week, relax he could have far more expensive habits.

If its more, then make him stop.
lonelykuroinu
2006-09-20 14:37:38 UTC
Go ahead and let him have his fun. I am sure that you buy shoes and things that don't work out in his favor.



If you decide to make him stop- then to avoid being a hypocrit- why not stop splurging on yourself? Same difference....
2006-09-21 10:15:43 UTC
i would say if it is taking a toll on your economic health, yes definitely get some help. if it is no big deal, i would just say... let him have fun with it.. maybe you will win big one day but let him know that it is just a game of probability and to not get too obsessed with it...
jplrvflyer
2006-09-21 08:29:11 UTC
A ticket a week isn't going to break him, and it makes him happy.



You could say something like, "You do know the odds, don't you?"
michael looooou
2006-09-21 02:11:22 UTC
U should join in and buy your own ticket cos 2 is better than one per household...PeAcE
TheDude
2006-09-20 18:36:05 UTC
No. leave your poor husband alone. Even if you live forty years and it comes out to $2,080 it is a small price to pay for forty years of hope you dreamstealer.
HughGRection
2006-09-24 11:37:30 UTC
A good swift kick in the nuts the next time he walks in with a ticket in his hand ought to do it...
Tosh
2006-09-21 03:09:38 UTC
In australia the main gambling problem lies in people being addicted to slot machines. the typical average income gamblers spends 1500 ~ 3000 dollars a month on the slot machines that are popular within bars all across different suburbs. it is already a problem that raised attention of state level departments where helplines have been set up to provide counselling.

I personally DO NOT believe in gambling. but interms of lottery, i don't think it's a big problem if your husbands spends only couple of dollars a week on a powerball ticket. but the small urge might lead to bigger habbits, like those tempting "one hit wonder" bigger odds "scratch tickets". as long as it's a part time leisure and it don't interfere w/ his central life like those problem gamblers above. i would say just let him. if you have a gambler's helpline at where you live you should consult their professional opinion.



* yesterday, i calculated the money spent on total packs of ciggarettes that i buy withing a year actually adds up to a round trip plane ticket at the end(USD ~1500). i'm not going to quit entirely but cut down on the frequency instead. this is the balance for me.
?
2006-09-21 06:02:46 UTC
just let him spend his dollar a week, remember all the things you may have bought that you didn't need and most was probably for yourself, at least he is dreaming for his family as a whole unlike most people who dream for themselves
2006-09-20 21:12:30 UTC
Absolutely do not "crack down" on one lotter ticket per week, unless you are prepared to lose your marriage over it.
BUPPY'S MEME
2006-09-20 18:39:55 UTC
Ask your husband to give you the same amount each week that he spends on lottery tickets. Save the money. Then after a year you can show him how much he has spent. Then you could both be sure if having a dream is too expensive.
devika h
2006-09-20 16:21:56 UTC
one ticket a week is worth a dream and you never know he might win!!!
2006-09-20 18:24:28 UTC
a few bucks a week??? BIG DEAL!!! he could be spending more at bars and on other women...i wasted money on worse. you only live once...don't nag!!
edwardnprice
2006-09-20 15:09:22 UTC
One ticket a week isn't bad. So, should you stop him? I would. It's your money too. However, make him a deal. Find out what he's interested in and save that money toward a project or investment. The guy needs to dream a little. Start a project that could turn into a business. Find out what else he's passionate about and encourage him to dream in that direction instead: something that actually takes some skill and smarts. That will increase his chances greatly. For me it's website content like animations, games, or other entertaining websites.
Summer G
2006-09-21 10:34:25 UTC
no you should not stop if he is just buying one a week now when he start buying more then one you will have a problem but keep the faith you might when
Christal
2006-09-21 07:31:12 UTC
cracking down is not going to help. it is unhealthy that he is obsessed with anything. you may want to talk to him but addressing it in a manner of get real is not healthy and will just hurt him. If you can just let him spend the $2 on the ticket... and it isnt hurting u guys financially.... thats just 8-10 a month. thats better than him being addicted to drugs.lol and u might win something. But maybe if u address it as a gambling habit. but please im telling you.... dont just come at him like he is foolish.... it will not be helpful
2006-09-20 13:54:10 UTC
One ticket week. No big deal. What if he stops and his numbers come up, he would kill you in your sleep for sure. If he spends hundreds and such, then you have a problem.
Aria
2006-09-21 07:43:51 UTC
Yes. Why? My husband thinks we will win "The Mega Bucks" in Vegas. He says "he has a feeling". Well, all of his "feelings" are for naught! All of this money, this twenty dollars here and there, could have been used in other ways. I am not prude. I like to have fun. But I also like to pay my bills. How to do it? I ignore him. I am dead in the bed when this happens because I WORRY and I can't get aroused. I know no other way. When he's cheery because the next "time" could be the biggie, I downplay it. I'd rather have assets. Gold, gems, money in the bank. Statistically, a whopping 1% win here in Vegas. 99% do not. And we are middle class. Do what you have to do. If you have childen, preserve for them and to heck with his "when we get this and when we get that". If he wants it, by God let him EARN it. My husband is a dreamer. I love him, but I do NOT LIKE GAMBLING when we need other things FIRST. If the money is there AFTER, let him dream. Until then, no. Unless he wants to hit it big on penny slots!
VICTORIA L
2006-09-21 07:28:05 UTC
If it's only one dollar a week i wouldn't be that worried.....some people spend WAY more than that every day!!! Let him dream on.......you never know...maybe you will win???????????
2006-09-20 17:22:53 UTC
What are you, his mommy? Leave him alone, it's only one ticket a week. There's no harm in having a little hope.
kitkat
2006-09-20 07:38:58 UTC
Leave him alone. He could be spending money on drugs or booze. He has a harmless obsession. Love him for who he is....
honeypot0214
2006-09-20 18:59:02 UTC
EVERYONE NEEDS A DREAM OR SOME KIND OF FANTASY.I REALLY DON'T SEE WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.IS HE SPENDING THE GROCERY MONEY OR OTHER THINGS?IF NOT I WOULD NOT WORRY.I PLAY RESPONSIBLY,ALSO.
2006-09-20 07:33:43 UTC
As long as he's not causing you to go without food or a roof over your head, let him indulge his fantasy.
loserlover
2006-09-25 14:05:07 UTC
well if you dont he miight go on a loseing streak and your in the pour house id slow him
2006-09-20 17:54:47 UTC
if it's only a few bucks - what's the big deal? let him have his fun
ncman372000
2006-09-20 07:33:00 UTC
If it's only 1 tkt once a week then let him have his fantasy woman!. It might be the poor guy's only source of happiness.
kissesmemov
2006-09-20 17:49:22 UTC
I think you should tell him how you feel. Let him know your concern and if he continues to buy these loto tickets let him buy one more and if its a winner (a million to one) then you can have fun with the money other wise let him know that that will be the last loto ticket and that is valuble money that could be used in some other way.
jadamgrd
2006-09-20 21:58:42 UTC
Well, if 52 bucks a year is not going to break you.. then you take a dollar a week and save it. At the end of the year take him out to dinner. But do not let his fun grow beyond that.
2006-09-20 14:20:22 UTC
let him have it, let him dream, a few bucks a week is worth him having a dream...
2006-09-20 21:29:59 UTC
A dollar a week?

You want to squash all his spirit, don't you?
2006-09-20 21:13:25 UTC
Yes, tell him to stop wasting so much money.



There is a better chance of him falling out of bed in his sleep and dying, or getting struck by lightning twice in a row.



The lottery is luck taken to the extreme.



But even if he doesn't waste money on the lottery, there's a good chance that he'll spend that money on something pointless anyways, so there's another point of view to consider!
javamanyak
2006-09-20 17:46:03 UTC
what if you win? :) you will live happily ever after till you die aahhaha
?
2016-03-13 06:33:17 UTC
How much do you spend on your dreams, I did
Dee I
2006-09-20 14:45:35 UTC
Yes you should because the chances of you winning is a long shot and that money can really add up. If you have trouble definitely go for couseling because not all obsessions are easy to stop by simply saying no more honey!!
Mechelle
2006-09-20 07:35:59 UTC
Its not like he's buying drugs or something..I don't think its that big a deal and besides what if he did hit the big one then who would be complaining then...MMMMM
Anne R
2006-09-20 20:27:18 UTC
Maybe if you calculated for him how much money you could set aside for something you would both enjoy (like a vacation) or invest in a cd and make money off that if he didn't buy the tickets, he would see how much it is and see things more realistically. I think planning for something fun could work because he might just be using the lottery for something to dream about and look forward to. You could also promise to buy him one on his birthday every year if you think that would ease him off of it.
speddy
2006-09-20 19:47:49 UTC
Tell him to put the money he spends each weak in the bank for one year then ask him if he would like to throw it away because thats what hes doing try pch dont buy any thing all you are out is a stamp
ally_oop_64
2006-09-20 17:45:17 UTC
What if he wins?
macgyver
2006-09-20 15:59:41 UTC
if people in my house threw away money like that

(i call it throwing away money because do you know the odds of winning the lottery)

i would probiably tax them or something

not really taxing but like a money collector like a limit to what they can spend in a day
Gone Rogue
2006-09-21 08:50:40 UTC
Just tell him your concerned. Ask that he agree to never spend more than $5 a week on his fun for your feeling of well being. He will agree because it is for you.

Or you can tell him you would rather he put the money each week in a jar in the Kitchen where we can watch the money grow. With it he can buy for you his favorite bustier or garter belt or wrist cuffs etc. He will do that instead.
Hope Dollar
2006-09-20 21:32:10 UTC
Hi!Juli

You can clearly see something wrong with your husband's behavior because you're not addicted and he is.Gambling is addictive.It has a deceiving abilities to make its victim think of all he's going to do with the money than what is now happening with money he uses.Be careful Juli,his getting more money may actual change him.All addictions cause divorce.Pls see Proverbs 28:22.Hug!
2006-09-20 14:07:39 UTC
Tell him to get real. I know plenty of people who blow money every single week on that crap. And yeah, they might win now and then, but it's nothing compared to how much they spend. It's not worth trying to go broke over trying to win big.
gotmine
2006-09-20 21:19:15 UTC
You are not dealing with him but rather his ego, he wants to be a winner, if he is a winner he doesn't need a ticket, you can make him a winner by sincere compliments, men want respect, women want love, give respect.
2006-09-20 16:16:40 UTC
get help from financial adviser to analysis your current and future needs then he may advice your husband how much can he spend on fun.



But I advice you to but real needs on priority and the money expected from wining a lottery should not be part of your financial planning unless you really win the money.
2006-09-20 16:01:32 UTC
Good question. I'd say there are healthier ways to have fun, such as bowling or something. Get him to take up one of those. Besides, he needs to know how much hurt this will cause you both. Try to be sympathetic with it, as he may actually enjoy playing, and if you fail, accept it.



Hope that helps! With all due respect,
2006-09-21 10:00:27 UTC
If you feel that it is a problem, then yes.
Grrr Grrr Miao
2006-09-21 08:14:52 UTC
basicly if its just one ticket and it ends there and his happy? maybe its worth, people spend money on BS so its better then buying a pack of cigar, unless its going on the cost of something else.. any way, u should really talk to him about the term "IF" cause if usually doesnt pay the rent or put food on the table..
ndzone32
2006-09-20 19:01:37 UTC
yes, just think of all the money that you would be saving if he didn't buy a lottery ticket. Tell him to save every dollar that he would usually put into the lottery and i think he will be surprised at how much he saves.
myzznetta
2006-09-21 07:16:48 UTC
I would sit him down and talk to him about it, let him know that even though there is nothing wrong with dreaming about being rich and what you would buy...you still need to realize that in reality you have bills and things that you guys should be doing together. Not just swindling your money away. Gambling is gambling no matter what way you look at it.
2006-09-20 16:55:47 UTC
Weigh the enjoyment he gets against the hassle/arguments to get him to quit and determine if it is worth the money spent/saved.



Of course if he goes beyond the one ticket/week then the money may easily outweigh other issues.
Tim B
2006-09-20 15:50:24 UTC
What if he wins?
island3girl
2006-09-20 07:32:27 UTC
if it's only a few bucks - what's the big deal? let him have his fun
redbumps69
2006-09-21 08:14:49 UTC
Tell him to get real. The money would be better served going into an ira, cd, or some other type of savings plan.
2006-09-21 08:13:10 UTC
give the poor guy a break
Telltale
2006-09-20 15:55:18 UTC
he is probably just tryin' to get some money so u guys can get whatever u want.But he sould not buy it every week.Maybe u should talk to him about not playin so much. Confront him about his obbssesion.Or maybe he is cheatin on u and tryin 2 support 2 families,but i dont want 2 put any ideas in ur head.
Annie R
2006-09-20 13:51:01 UTC
somebody has to win
to_sassy4_u
2006-09-20 07:31:37 UTC
My bf does the same thing. I just let him dream. Actually it's kind of fun to talk about what we would do with the money.
N3WJL
2006-09-21 06:01:07 UTC
YES! it is a waste of money. He'd be better off saving it and investing it.



I think it also shows a major fawl in him. He is trying to get rich quick without doing any work. He should put his money and time into something more productive.
blsdca
2006-09-20 20:39:00 UTC
One ticket a week is nothing...but gambling can get out of control. So, keep your eyes open, and if it starts progressing to a point where you are very uncomfortable, then have a talk.
LORD Z
2006-09-21 01:30:33 UTC
Just put in a savings account an equal amount of money to what he is gambling and that way you feel safe while he feels daring.
colarstar77
2006-09-21 08:40:24 UTC
YES!!! Gambling is a addiction just as drug & alchol abuse, if yo do not start clamping down on it now, it will get bigger and out of control.

Just look out for the national gambling society in your area, they could help you with more information, also how you to get him to stop the habbit.

Good luck
IDO
2006-09-21 02:39:29 UTC
Oh, it is quite tough to ask someone to quit what he is obsessed with. However, you still need to be patient and try harder to help him come to real life since this will become very bad habit.
2006-09-21 03:16:17 UTC
WOMEN do not have the role to "crack down." MEN run the households!!! Check with your hubby if you should even be thinking about "cracking down!"
PyroPixie
2006-09-21 07:53:01 UTC
if its putting you guys inthe hole yes!!!! if nowt then just let him have his fantasy for a while it wont hurt too bad. if its already hurting u financially but not in the hole tell him to back off a little.
Sweet&Sour
2006-09-21 02:15:34 UTC
Yes, headbutt him in the nose when his eyes are somewhere else, then grapple him to the floor and kick him in the ribs 3 times...
silver butterfly
2006-09-21 00:27:54 UTC
lottery=poor man's tax



go into a microsoft excel program and do the math for the rest of his life if he lives to 100, from the age he began buying tickets.



Then...base it off annual interest of 5-10%....(5%=CD,10%=tax lien certificates,etc) ....

He should be able to understand simple math.
OSCookieDelta
2006-09-20 20:06:32 UTC
'cracking down' on a spouse is like playing a parent to a child. Most changes we desire in others come through our changed behavior. First, realize that you can't change someone else's behavior by lecturing or trying to 'teach them a lesson.'

even when they act like a child or have unrealistic expectations (winning at gambling odds), they have to suffer their own consequences. Go to AlAnon or research the 12-Step programs available in your area. Gambling addiction is an illness, and you are (or can) contribute to it by your behaviors too, which is called "co-dependency".

Growing into a healthy adult attitude is not always what is modeled by our media, so don't believe everything you read or see on TV!
mole
2006-09-20 20:44:48 UTC
ahem i had this problem and what i did was ask an attorney to send something in the mail insinuating a divorce and the grounds. it worked, costed me $100 but hey that was better then blowing about $40.00 a month on lottery
2006-09-20 20:06:01 UTC
Yes, I think you should. First it’s a habit, then it becomes a obsession and then it’s compulsory and before you know it all your rent money and food money is being wasted on tickets. Let him know that maybe once a fortnight should be enough…
slingblade
2006-09-20 14:54:00 UTC
ask him to put a dollar in a jar for YOU for every time he buys a ticket. do this for one year and see who comes out the winner. i made 3,012.00 from my husband that way and now he has quit buying the tickets.
Derrick
2006-09-20 14:45:51 UTC
you want be mad if he ever wins, now will u?
Servers
2006-09-22 17:21:20 UTC
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llrsister
2006-09-21 07:27:05 UTC
well, since your married i'd say to tell your husband the problem.

If he is really loves you and understands you, he will understand that you do care for him and that you are only concerned for his best in mind. or you could confront him and tell him he could buy once a month. hey it's worth a shot.
2006-09-20 22:05:33 UTC
YES. If he's going to gamble, at least get him to gamble over something he has a bit more control over, like poker, or blackjack.



And from what you've been saying about he talks about, it sounds like he's got a gambling problem. Go to this site.
2006-09-20 07:46:44 UTC
If you word "obssession" is really true then crack down.. or else be ready for getting ruined...
esha
2006-09-21 06:30:44 UTC
I think you should talk to him about, try to get him some help.If he doesnt want any help tell him you are going to leave him and see what he does.
LacusCline
2006-09-21 01:19:18 UTC
YES!! It's a total waste.....Do you know how much of money he is lozing,tell him to STOP THIS NOW! tell him to keep the maney for something good.I mean come on,get real man........
sirawa
2006-09-21 01:01:03 UTC
Gamblers waisting time & money like that, at the end gainning nothing and loosing every thing... silly
Got Curves?
2006-09-20 23:12:39 UTC
It depends on how bad his gambling gets. Some people get addicted to it and it can lead to poverty.
chevytrk1232000@yahoo.com
2006-09-20 17:36:29 UTC
yes put him on a $10.00 limit a week. thats what i do. this way hes not speeding that much & it will keep the peace between you & him
2006-09-20 14:58:58 UTC
Watch it. He could start wasting more money. Then you would have a real problem.
2006-09-20 13:59:28 UTC
If it concerns you like this, you already know the answer.

Those things are a trick to drain the incomes of the poor
Lucy Lu
2006-09-21 05:14:21 UTC
Get him help. There are 800 numbers he can call for help.
2006-09-21 04:28:36 UTC
Tell him to Sh*t in one hand and wish in the other and see which fills up first.
kaeh
2006-09-20 22:49:15 UTC
Why are you discussing this here instead of with your husband?
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2006-09-20 16:55:32 UTC
Yeah..everybody wants to be rich.....the odds are against it. You may need to put your foot down....before your broke...good luck.
Snail Bunny
2006-09-20 16:08:25 UTC
If you love him you will get him help
2006-09-20 15:10:56 UTC
No just see that it doesn't get ant worse
Cj
2006-09-21 08:33:15 UTC
Yes I don't think he should be spending his hard erned money on that crap.
elitetrooper459
2006-09-20 15:04:18 UTC
If you want to keep your financial situation stable plead with him to stop, for both his sake and yours.
TIM
2006-09-20 22:00:26 UTC
yes
Direktor
2006-09-20 18:09:51 UTC
I don't know,but I like your avatar!;)
2006-09-20 07:33:16 UTC
Yes, tell him he's just wasting time and money, when he can used it for some other expense.



goodluck!
coorissee
2006-09-20 22:14:48 UTC
If not you, then who?
2006-09-20 20:40:42 UTC
oh course you should because soon you could have no money so he will resort to stealing
mickey864
2006-09-20 20:39:36 UTC
Yes, do it soon or he will have to file for bankrupcy, but mosst important because you care about him.
2006-09-20 20:27:09 UTC
Yes, you should. he's gonna waste alott of useful money.
2006-09-20 15:20:28 UTC
get familiar with the local homeless shelter !!!!
bunny b
2006-09-20 07:32:17 UTC
yes that is gambling and you do not want to get caught up in that its just as bad as doing drugs. you blow all your money. . and forget whats important
green day fan
2006-09-20 16:18:35 UTC
no you should go masturbate
Mom
2006-09-20 15:44:35 UTC
absolutley
2006-09-20 07:31:25 UTC
if you dont slow him down, get ready to be broke
momie_2bee
2006-09-20 13:58:51 UTC
Yes do it now......
2006-09-20 07:36:26 UTC
take away all his money


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