im married for 5months, had sex evry night for 1 month.?

Question

he stopped making love from 2nd month saqying that lack of job is causing him erection probs. but the same issue is continuing even after he got his job. we hardly make love 3-4 times amonth. and it was always common that he reaches climax and dont. if we had sex 40 times on the whole, i reached orgasam for 10 times may be. but atleast its fine as long as we have it, it worries me that we hardly hav it. its been two weeks now since we had it last time and shows no sign of interest in it. I dont know y? Is it me or am i thinking too much? is it normal to be like this with in 5 months of marriage. PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Try letting him seduce you. Your constant need for sex and reassurance is coming off as dependency.



In his mind, this is just another need he has to fulfill. That's not what you want your sex life to be.



So breathe deep, take a step back, and help him to seduce YOU!



Dress provocatively when at home. Spray perfume on his computer chair if he's a gamer. Kiss him when he comes home from work. Give him admiring smiles when he comes out of the shower.



Men are hunters. Let him hunt you. You know why people hunt deers?



Deers run away. They're hard to hit.



You know why nobody hunts cats?



Because they'll walk right up and meow at your gun barrel.



So play the prey. Be patient. You've got your whole life ahead of you.

Answer 2

What woman reaches orgasm with sex? Very few. Much less every time.

Learn to pleasure yourself and then share your knowledge with him. Men need direction but are often afraid to ask for it.

Maybe he set a standard and cannot keep it up anymore. (NO pun intended.)

How old is he?

Stress. The kind of job he has.....yes, even gay..but doubtful....although who knows?

Lots of men, even young men have issues with erections. Getting them and keeping them alike.

Three or four times a month is not bad. There are lots of people not having sex that much with their spouse.

The longest I went while married was 14 days. And that was because we were fighting.

It is not normal, per se. Five months into my marriage, I was five months pregnant. We still had sex about 1 to 3 times a week. His work was a problem and he has chronic fatigue. Still we managed. I will admit to always wanting more myself.

Talk to him about it and tell him how much it is bothering you. Find out the reason why. Let him know you are serious about it.

Answer 3

Do you do anything to spice it up? I am not trying to sound condescending, but a lot of women don't. If not, try to spice it up, get a new outfit and dance for him, try a new position, make him feel like you are there for him. Hunny, women don't climax every time, it is nothing to be worried about. God put us here to please our men...



On the other hand, does he do drugs, again, no disrespect. My younger sister has this problem with her husband. She had no idea he was doing drugs and the kid he chose to use made him act exactly like that, and he could hardly "get it up"...



Try talking to him, in the long run, if you can't do that, you have nothing.

Answer 4

Been there! I have been married for 4 months and we use to have sex twice a day! kid you not and now.....I beg for it! he is always toooooo tired! he doesnt move off the couch ever! i go to bed hours before him! he usually strolls in around 2 a.m. !! he is just not into sex anymore and when we do it, it is just the act! BORING! But, i do believe that stress has ALOT to do with it because he is just too tired to just about everything these days! Hang in there!

Answer 5

if you both have different sex drives it can become a problem but only if you make it one try making it special there is nothing wrong with planning it ringing each other during the day to tell each other what you want is a real turn on not many of us reach climax through

penetration all the time so explore the possibilities are endless horses for coarses but you must communicate

Answer 6

unusual? No, on no account. Is it ok? particular. is this a solid theory? probable no longer. Now to be honest, your ex-boss ought to easily be a hospitable guy. My situation is greater approximately your reaction to all of this. If i replaced into your close buddy (or your counselor) and you advised me all of this face-to-face, i could look you in the attention, inform you to be one hundred% elementary with me and that i could ask you in case you have an pastime in a fling with this guy. How in all probability are you to furnish in to temptation in the experience that your ex-boss comes directly to you once you're traveling with him that greater advantageous day while your buddy isn't around? Your husband is a real gem, my expensive. His reaction to this exhibits that he trusts you thoroughly, and that's extraordinary. the genuine question is: are you thoroughly elementary? in case you have ANY fantasies approximately what ought to ensue once you flow on your ex-boss, do no longer flow to work out him. era.

Answer 7

please give me a break

if he has an erection problem go see a doc but be smart and realized that each person is different no one can give an accurate answer about what is happening wiht your husband

so talk to him and most of all don't presure him that will turn him off

Answer 8

You may need to find other ways in showing your sexual side with eachother...I think that you are willing to do what you can to make this work out....it is something that you go through,,,,,It is not quite normal but you have to find away in being sexual...Try wearing lingerie....being out of the ordinaire in where you have sex...

Answer 9

something is definitely wrong honey,I have been married 17yrs,34yrs old and we aren't even living in the same house right now,and we still have sex more than you do,and I always get off,I'm not to to make you feel bad,maybe it's something medical,are you truly in love?,or worst case scenario he's getting his jollies elsewhere.Look into counseling,have you talked to him about it? It's is very hard for a man to admit there is anything wrong in that area..GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 10

Have you ever heard of the "bean jar". The idea goes that for the first year of your marriage, every time you have sex you put a bean in a jar. After the first year, every time you have sex you take a bean OUT of the jar. You'll never empty the jar.



Sad, but true.

Answer 11

It could be stress, Try spicing things up and see what happens. And always change where you have, and how you have sex to keep it exiting.



But i think that it may simply be that you have a higher sex drive than your partner.

Answer 12

Most important of all - it's not your fault.



Here is a support group:



http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/DesperateWivesClub/



Good luck with this issue. I hope it works out.

Answer 13

lots of possibilities, before jumping to conclusions try some risk role playing...if that doesn't work, listen to the Fat Man

Answer 14

he probably does have erection problems and ran out of viagra pills...

Answer 15

Maybe he wants to know if you want him for just that. Ask him why he's not up for it, if you want it get it :) lol rape!!!!

Answer 16

Maybe he's gay?