Do you ask permission?

Question

I know about a lot girls/guys that have to ask permission to their significant others. Do you? and why? I never do I believe I'm responsible for myself as he is of himself and if he screws up its his loss so leave it our own judgement.

Hint: It doesn't matter if your are married, engaged, divorce, single I'm sure you had at least one serious relationship. Thanks your honesty.

Answer 1

No I would never expect to have to ask permission - but if i am in love, I would ask for the other person's opinion because I value it, and if it affected them, tell them out of common courtesy.



There is a difference between asking permission and letting someone know because you care.

Answer 2

I don't "ask permission" but I do check in and see if he is cool with something I am about to do or purchase. Afterall, it is OUR life, OUR home, OUR money, OUR children, etc. We have a partnership, and while we do not own each other we are two halfs that make a whole and it would be uncool to just do whatever we wanted individually whenever we wanted and then just say "Well, my bad, I screwed up, and sorry you didn't find out till now but that's the breaks". What kind of marriage would that be? That's two single people living together single mindedly. You've got to be on the same page if you want to have long term happiness as a COUPLE.

Answer 3

No, I didn't ask permission nor did my wife. If we wanted to do something and we didn't have plans we just told each other where we were going and that was that. Trust in a relationship is very big if that relationship is to grow and maintain. We were married 25 years (she passed away 3 years ago) and never had a problem with any kind of jealousy or trust issues.

Answer 4

We ask "permission" to a certain extent. We talk about going out by ourselves out of respect. We have a son at home so whoever doesn't go out stays home. I think it is repectful to talk about where your going and how long. Especially in a family because there is a lot more to focus on. When we didn't have our son we would casually tell eachother what we were doing, but not really. I think that PERMISSION is a strong word and used wrong. No one should have to ask for permission from anyone if they are a grown adult, but like I said it is respect.

Answer 5

If you have to ask for permission than there can only be two problems,

1. Your significant other is WAY to needy or controlling.

2. You are spending too much time away from your significant other and are feeling guilty so you "ask for permission" to get the green light, even though you know he/she is pi$sed

Answer 6

I wouldn't say that I ask permission. I do however make sure that what I am planning fits in with his plans. I am a throwback to women's lib. I believe that the man is the ruler in the household and has the final say. I undertand that many women have problems with that and its cool that they like getting their own way. I ask him if the things I am planning for the kids and I fit in with what he had planned for a certain night and if it doesn't then I reschedule what I had planned to a different night. I don't think that makes me any less independent or that he is my master or anything. I just think of it as respect for his feelings. He always does the same for me. He makes sure that what he is planning for a certain night is okay with me.

Answer 7

There are only a few things where we ask each other's "permission". If one of us wants to go somewhere overnight without the other or if one of us wants to spend more than $200 on a single item. It's really more ofa courtesy than anything else. I've never told him no and he's never told me no. We just think that it shows respect for the other one.

Answer 8

Honey, talking to your partner about what you are going to do is not asking for permission. You should both have enough mutual respect to let each other know where you are going and about how long you will be gone,things happen and it can be a good thing to know this.



On the other ,hand if your partner in life is not worth your time and consideration,and you want to live in a me me me world,then maybe that is where you should be. ALONE!

Answer 9

Ask permission for what?



Eating a pb & j sandwich? No.



Buy a new car?



Permission isn't the right word. Any decisions other than trivial ones are joint decisions.



EDIT Either you are not married or live very separate lives. When you are married, his failures are your failures, and vice versa. You BOTH suffer from screw ups.

Answer 10

i imagine it is totally respectful. My dad instructed me that he did not care if my boyfriend on the time, requested him or no longer. He reported he did not ask my mom's dad and wouldnt' assume to be requested for my hand in marriage. i changed into kinda taken aback and harm by technique of it....yet then I see the position he's coming from. He believes that once you're adult adequate to be planning on getting married, then you actually do not choose permission from everyone to do it. yet to each and every their personal.

Answer 11

Asking permission implies a subservient relationship. Communicating with you significant other about all aspects of the relationship is the foundation for a lasting relationship.



If you disrespect your significant other by engaging in clandestine activities that you know upset them, you are a selfish person.

Answer 12

no I do not ask for permission but I am conscientious of my husband by letting him know whats going on, whether its where I'm going or if I'm going to say be spending more money than the norm........but I have never said "hey honey can I buy?" it would be more of "hey honey I'm looking at buying? what do you think?" depending on the money situation at the time we make the decision together, My husband treats me the same way .......I am my own person but I am also one 1/2 of a couple and we respect each other......

Answer 13

No one is required to ask permission to do anything.....

Unless one is a minor, living in someone's home.

As an adult, one has the responsibility to advise a partner of what is necessary in any relationship. It's called consideration. It's not a requirement, but rather consideration.

Answer 14

I dont necessarily ask for permission but i do take into consideration my partners opinion. I ask what he thinks of me going to do a certain thing or If i want to go get my nails done or hang with my girls, if a certain time is ok with him since we have an infant. Just common courtesy

Answer 15

It may sound like asking for permission, but actually more of a notice out of respect for the significant other. If I do this, I just word it so to make him feels good. Males are chauvinist ***s sometimes.

Answer 16

When you were a child you asked your parents for permission. Dealing with a relationship your not asking permission. I would say it's a thing of RESPECT.

Answer 17

I'll usually let him know my plans just because that's what we do, not to ask for permission. It can also be less asking permission and more checking to see how someone feels about something (e.g. strip clubs). Or if I want to go to dinner with my friends tonight, I'll check with my bf to see if he was planning something for us that night or something like that but not to see if I'm allowed. It's just a courtesy.

Answer 18

it depends on what your talking about but in general i always inform my husband on anything and everything that i do and that is just out of respect not to get permission and there are times that we dont agree but once again if its not a matter of life and death or a huge financial decision then we just leave it alone and agree too disagree

Answer 19

Ask permission? Are you serious? How old are you? I was married for 6 years and I never asked permission for anything. If you're an adult, who the hell would you permission from? Wow. Strange question.

Answer 20

I think day to day activities no, like you say you are both adults. If you are going out it's only courteous to let the other person know your plans especially if it affects them.



But if you are sharing finances with someone and they go out and buy a $4,000 62" plasma TV or a $40,000 car without consulting you it is very inappropriate.

Answer 21

That is why I will remain single. I answer to no one in this World. Affairs? I have had so many that I could not even give you an estimate. Why put your trust into something that you do not believe in?

Answer 22

I feel it is more of a respect thing than a true permission asking.



It is part of the two way communication needed for things to work

Answer 23

No. I don't ask permission. Out of respect sometimes I may see how he feels about something, but for example If I wanna go to Walmart or out with one of my friends I don't say, Is it alright for me to go here or there.

Answer 24

isnt it just common courtesy to ask certain things? Your grasping a straws when you think its ok to do anything you want.. You are probably very responsible And him too... What will be the loss you are talking about? You?

Answer 25

Yes, we have a respect for each other. I only don't ask for her permission when it's a surprise like a gift for her birthday, etc.

Answer 26

You mean like when my son and I went out for a while and found ourselves in Canada, (oops forgot to ask), or when I bought that brand new airplane,(just couldn't help myself), or the new truck,(great deal had to act quick), or......

By the way, 21yrs married and looking forward to 21 more!

Answer 27

Yeah, I guess my husband and I both do this. Although I don't consider it asking for permission. I consider it being considerate of each other.



A marriage is about the two of you and your life - it isn't about just me and it isn't about just him.



If someone wants to be just responsible for themselves and answer only to themselves then they shouldn't get married.

Answer 28

Your question isn't very clear, but if you mean permission from your paretns to marry, it's just a quaint old custom dating from the times when it was usual to ask for the hand of the bride. I agree it is outdated and quite sexist, maybe you shoudl also ask his Mum if you can marry him.......

Answer 29

My fiancee and I we don't ask permission but we talk it over. Its also respectful to tell someone where you are going so they don't worry about you .*that goes for anyone mom,dad, kids, ect if you live in the same house its respect to tell them.*

Answer 30

It is much better to ask for forgiveness later than to ask permission.

Answer 31

It depends. My husband really hates face piercings. I would love to have my nose pierced but I won't because of him. Choose your battles and make sure you can survive on your own. That way your other half can't control you..

Answer 32

I don't ask permission, but I let 'em know what I intend to do or where I intend to be (that's just courtesy)...and I appreciate the same from them. ☺☻

Answer 33

I do but it is just with courtesy of respect he needs to tell him where he goes as I tell him where I go I am responsible for my actions as I know my husband si as well.

Answer 34

Generally speaking, yes- our decisions are collective. He also runs things by me as well. (I'm married)



Edit: PS- I'm not talking about trivial things like going to the store, etc.-more about the larger decisions.

Answer 35

well over the years, i have from out that it is easier to ask for forgives then to ask for permission

Answer 36

It's not so much asking permison as is letting the my mate know where I'll be and with who. The details that keeps him from worrying abot me.

Answer 37

there is a difference between permission and talking it over with your partner before you do it.

Answer 38

1st rule , take care of number one (witch is myself). everyone for there self's, 2ND rule if you don't understand the first one reread it

Answer 39

Shouldn't have to and I never have.....it's good to talk over major decisions tho.

Answer 40

i would never ask anyone's permission for anything.

Answer 41

yes. i am old fashion i will always ask my wife first

Answer 42

Yes!!! I do.But sometimes not daily.

Answer 43

No way! I'm no ones slavegirl. :)

Answer 44

its your significant other, not your damn daddy. screw asking for permission. i can think for myself!

Answer 45

No! I tell him what I am doing but I certainly don't wait for approval.