Uk single parent wants to marry Turkish man HELP PLEASE?

Question

Hi I'm a single mum from UK and have fallen in love with a Turkish man, that I wish to marry but I have no ideas what we need to do or where to start? At the moment he has been in uk for 5 yrs but has to leave soon due to visa. Will it be easier process for me to marry him in uk or turkey? We wish to marry soon and hope that he can re new his visa if you can do that and live back here again in england. Please can anyone give me any info on how I sort this out? Also I'm currently recording benefits due to not working as my son has disabilities, will this matter to anywhere? He has not yet complete his national service, he has just turned 20 and I'm 24. I really don't want horror stories or negativity, just pure help on what to do, where to start and if it's easier to marry here or turkey??
Many thanks to all who reply

Answer 1

Hello darling, first of all I must say congratulations to finding your true love to this turkish man, don't listen to the other comments whom say that he is after your visa. Ok. So getting a visa is very easy, I will show you how it is done.



First make sure that he meets the seven requirements:

■you are aged 18 or over; and

■you are of sound mind; and ( that means he isn't mental or crazy)

■you can communicate in English, Welsh or Scottish Gaelic to an acceptable degree; and

■you have sufficient knowledge of life in the United Kingdom; and

■you are of good character; and

■you are the husband, wife or civil partner of a British citizen; and

■you meet the residential requirements; or

■your husband, wife or civil partner is in Crown or designated service outside the United Kingdom.



The residential requirements are:

■have been resident in the United Kingdom for at least three years (this is known as the residential qualifying period); and (For example, if we received your application on 25 November 2005, you would have to show that you were in the United Kingdom on 26 November 2002.)



■have been present in the United Kingdom three years before the date of your application; and

■have not spent more than 270 days outside the United Kingdom during the three-year period; and

■have not spend more than 90 days outside the United Kingdom in the last 12 months of the three-year period; and

■have not been in breach of the immigration rules at any stage during the three-year period.



Now go to your UK embassy which can be in Turkey or UK, and apply.



They will interview him and decide if he is suitable for the requirements, here is some tips for the interview :



Make sure he doesn't sound too foreign, like when you finish the interview say "cheers" which is like what the english say, also don't stutter or sweat as this may create a negative image in the interviewers mind.



So all the best of luck and if you can, email me if you need any more answers and tell me how the wedding went by emailing me at



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I personally think it will be easy, since you did say he has been here for 5 years, just make sure he provides the documentation proving he has been there this long.

Also please marry here in the UK, because it is just so much easier.

Answer 2

Hi Sarah,

I don't have experience of turkey or UK visa applications although I do live in the UK - all my life.

I have a similar situation with you.

Ive met a lovely lady in america and am currently applying for a US visa to visit her.

all I would say is look at the UK visa website and turkish visa website, and just read the relevant pages.

The US system is bureaucratic yet most of the Information you need is on the website, plus a phone help line.

so I suggest asking the relevant uk visa department whay you need to renew a visa.

Sorry I cant be more specific

until about month ago didnt know how to apply for a US visa - have an idea now it just takes a little time and patience.

Answer 3

First of all I would certainly advise that you go with your son to visit your boyfriend and his family in Turkey. You need to understand a little of the culture and family you will be marrying into and you need to determine the attitude they have towards you and your son. Family is very important in Turkey and you will be marrying his family not just him! You will also get a chance to see him on his home ground which may be interesting for you. I am assuming that your boyfriend already gets on well with and accepts your son.



You should also discuss the religious/cultural differences that there may be between you The family influence may be strong here and they may expect you to become a Muslim if you marry, although this depends on how conservative his family is.



I would also suggest waiting until he has finished his national service as basically you won't see him for 2 years, married or not. Many Turkish couples face the same problem and i think it is best that he gets this out of the way as soon as possible. He can't avoid it.



Depending on his profession I would advise staying in the UK as you will not get any benefits if you leave and it is likely, if you work hard together, that you can make a good life here in the UK. You also have to consider the education and care for your son and I suspect there will be better services for him here in the UK.



I would also choose to marry in the UK as you may have more legal recourse if things don't work out - but i am not sure about that.



So, my advice in short is; be patient, visit his family and if things work out, stay in the UK.

Oh, and Good Luck!

Answer 4

You'll get better answers if you ask in one of the uk immigration forums and look up all the prerequisites on the Home Office website. If he's already in the UK, get married here and apply for an FLR (M) visa in Croydon......easier than appealing to the immigration officers in Ankara! So long as you can prove you're in a genuine relationship, can survive without recourse to public funds, have adequate accommodation and prospects, I don't see why it would be a complicated process. Just an expensive one.



He wouldn't be exempt from his national service if he is still a Turkish citizen, which he will be for a few more years until he is naturalised. Be very careful, whatever you do....it's not just you in this situation, it's your son too. Does a 20 year old have the maturity to be a step-dad?

Answer 5

You don't say how long you have know his man, so I hope you are not rushing into marriage (regardless of his visa status). The fact that you are receiving benefits and have a disabled son will not matter, of course you will have to notify the agencies if you get married and you benefits may change depending on his income/earnings. If you go to live in Turkey with him you will not be able to keep claiming the benefits.



It would appear that he does need to do his national service so you may have to wait until he has done this. If it is real love you will survive the seperation as it would be awful if he was unable to take you to Turkey to show his family his beautiful wife in the future.



Also if the powers that be think he is using you as a marriage of convenience he will be sent back to Turkey. And just because he marries you it does not mean he can stay, it will depend on what type of visa he has.



good luck

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Answer 7

Read What you wrote! His visa is due to run out, he hasn't done his national service. I know for a fact that many Turkish men try to leave their country to get out of national serVice. How convenient that you have came along vulnerable enough to marry for a visa. You should take a step back and think of your lovely young son, I can understand that you may be lonely as you have a lot on your plate, but don't bow so easily to the pressure.



Have him leave the country then see if he still wants you when he goes and does his national service.



Why should he get out of his country's tradition of national service and why should he stay in our country leaching off tax payers money.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I would worry more about getting his visa sorted out first

As you cant marry here without it

If you went to turkey you would not be able to claim benefits there

Plus if you did this he would still have to apply for a visa to return here

Just because you married over there does not give him automatic entry back

You may find your stuck over there then ?

Take lots of advice on this before you do anything

Answer 10

I am Turkish,by law he can marry you here if he doesnt have an entry clearence visa at least 6 months long.He has to serve o military about 15 months so it is quite a long time.But if you are patient enough,after the military you can go to Turkey ,get married there and he has to apply for a marriage visa .They wont give him indefinie stay straigh away.He will get a visa because when he comes back here he has to go through some procedures like working for a length of time and providing for himself then he will apply for indefinete leave to remain visa .You havent told us what kind of visa he has.If he stayed here 5 years it means he came when he was 15.If there is a possibility to apply for an extension then you may marry here .But in any circumstances he has to do his military service otherwise he wont be able to go back to Turkey.He will get arrested if he has no excuse for not doing it like studying or any illness preventing him.

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Answer 12

hi, im married to a turk myself, been married 13 yrs now n been through it all with him since day 1.. its gonna be hard hun let me tell u that, 1st u will need to have a job, u need to show u can support him if hes allowed to stay here, 2nd, if he marries u here then he can stay till the decision is made, if he goes back home to marry you then he will have to stay there till the decision is made and it could take yrs, feel free to add me on yahoo or email me (unsure if u can see my email on this?) 1 last thing, if he hasnt done his national service he will have to do that first.. good luck hun xx

Answer 13

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Answer 16

Best of luck, take care of your child.

Answer 17

the best answer i can give u is to talk to some1 who knows eg;solicitor she or he will tell u what to do,all the best

Answer 18

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