is there anybody has a Mixed Marriages? i need some objective suggestion...thx.?

Question

hi guys, i wonder is there anyone who marry a people from another country? how do you feel now? happy or regret? what's the biggest problem you met? actually i'm a chinese girl who has an american bf. and now there are many suspicions and contradictions between us. we are not very confidence about our future...he think my english is not that much good to meet with his parents and to get a job about my major(architecture). but in my heart i don't think this is a big problem. when i go to the US. my english could improve a lot day by day with the language surrounding. what am i worry about is the culture differences between western and eastern country... so we do really need someone who has the similar experience please tell me what's going on after you marry a chinese girl and bring her to america? then we can do a right decision- to be continue or just give up. i knew different people has the different experience but i hope you can share it with me. thx a lot...
and another thing anyone know things about the architecture market? is that possible a chinese girl who got a architecture mater degree from a key university to get a job in some architecture studio? i can use photo shop, CAD, and sketch up very well. and can do good sketch and drawing about my design. or i can just work for the tattoo shop. to do some original oriental tattoo on people's body. hehe, who knows. or you have any other good suggestion about what i can do if i go to america?
am i too wordy=)? anyway thanks for you answer. i really appreciate of you. and if you have any question about china, just ask me=)

Answer 1

So you're a chinese girl in china who has an american bf? Your english isn't that bad and like you say, once you are in the US and are around it all the time, you will quickly improve.



Right now, the problem is getting a job. We've got over 10% unemployment and you certainly aren't going to get a job in your field right off the bat. No way!!!! We're looking at a couple years or more before unemployment rates decrease back down to 6-7%.



As to mixed marriages, they can always work of both parties are willing to work at the marriage. If he's not confident in your abilities, confident in you succeeding in the US, he might not be the right guy for you.

Answer 2

I'm not in a mixed marriage (at least not racially because my husband and I are both black) but we do come from different countries. I am American-born and raised. My husband is Trinidadian- born and raised. We have a lot in common but we are have some cultural differences as well obviously. Sometimes these come up but we really have so much more in common that the cultural differences are not always that great. We speak the same language and we are of the same race maybe that's why the differences are not as big.



Overall, I am happy with my husband. However, in only 2 weeks of marriage, we have argued over some things but these arguments did not pertain to our different cultures. The biggest problem I have with my husband (and this is before we got married) is that he procrastinates on things too much and he has to be encouraged to do certain things that he should be doing on his own. Other than that, he is a good man. He works hard. He treats me well.



Good luck.

Answer 3

whooo, what a question....

I was in a mixed marriage, had a longdistance relationship before, and i dont say dont nor do it.

BUT dont burn your bridges in china before you have been living together a time and before you were in the US. Go there to visit him for a couple of months , and go back, then you decide.

I suggest this STRONGLY!