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2010-03-23 09:23:32 UTC
Last week our first date in several months was ruined by his friends wife calling AGAIN b/c her DuH the alcoholic friend of my husband for the last 10 or more years, had stolen her credit card, money from their child, and her car to go and get alcohol. If this were a one time thing, I would have been irritated, but blown it off. However this has been common place for awhile now(last few years) and a few weeks before this, I found an adult website adult friend finder type story w/ a girl who looked exactly like FW, and wore the same work dress as FW does. The story was all too similar to FW and her DuH, and in the story the FW like character was cheating on the H w/ the best friend to screw her husband over. I found this on the computer history, and this is not the first time I have found porn of this nature on the computer history either. Between that and the fact that she is calling him and texting my DH rather than talking to her husband who has been locked away in an institution for the last week, even texting him at 1am or later at least once, and calling him and asking him to come over w/ our son when she knew that I was gone(which she has also done before), along w/ other things(see my previous question for a bit more detail on this), I have no interest in my DH sexually. I have tried to tell him that she is going over the line, and so is he, and everytime I say anything negative about the situation he immediately blows up and shuts down on me. He has only been around for myself and our son when he has to be(like when a family friend came into town), otherwise he is going off to the store, to take the dog out etc.,- places where he can be alone, and when I have looked out to where he is walking the dog, if he is there he is talking on the phone, and I can pretty much bet it is her.
I am also almost 7 mos. pregnant, and everytime he runs off to attend to his FW, I for the most part am left by myself to care for our small son by myself. When we were at F's house last, DH and FW spent the better part of the time outside, leaving me in the house to watch DS and their child by myself.
This woman has ruined every date that DH and I have had for the last 2 years esp., along w/ whenever I say something about it to DH, he just blows it off and acts like she has no other friends(she has PLENTY, as well as a family that helps her out) and says they are "just friends". I have a few friends, and I would not be spending every minute of the few dates I had w/ my husband on the phone away from him, in addition to going over to their house for hours by myself, ignoring my husband and child. All of F's other friends have written him off for the most part b/c FW tried this crap w/ them, and after the 2nd time, they stopped dealing w/ it and told FW she needed to get F committed as he was suicidal and resisting treatment.
Am I wrong for not being interested sexually in my DH? I have tried talking to him about it as well as trying to get us into marriage counseling, which he refuses to even look into(it would have to be done on his insurance). I thought we had settled this problem w/ FW almost 6 mos ago, but apparently not.