Will this cause my ex wife a problem?

Question

I have been told it is unusual but my ex wife and I are on friendly terms.  She has remarried and I try to stay out of her life as much as possible. We did not have any children. However a very unusual problem came up.


Her job where she works is being eliminated. This would be a financial disaster for her. The company told her it has openings in other parts of the company if she get some specialized training.  The open job that pays the best is Web Page Designer.  She priced that training locally and it is very expensive.   She ask me if I would give her that training on credit.  I told her I would give her that training and I don’t charge friends for helping them.


There is however another problem.  She doesn’t want her husband to know that her ex husband (me) is giving her the training.  She wants me to pretend to be someone else with a different name and give her the training.  I am not sure I want to do that.  I would like to help her in her time of need but I am afraid this will cause her and/or her husband a big problem.


Any suggestions on how I can get her the help she needs with out causing a problem for ANYONE. I am thinking that I give her the training and insist her husband be in every training session to see nothing improper happens.


THANKS for your advice.

Answer 1

She needs to be honest with him. If he finds out she did that behind his back that's gonna cause problems. 

Answer 2

I think that it's already a very kind thing you're doing (Offering to pay for her training). But I agree with you in the sense that she should not mis inform to her husband. If you guys could find a way to talk to her current husband and come to an agreement where nobody is deceived, I say go for it and help her out. However, please don't compromise your morals, if you do not agree with something, then you have a right to not go along with it.

Answer 3

Nope. You keep everything above board. If she's not brave enough to tell her husband the truth and he has trust issues that is not your problem.