Why do people think that if they remain a virgin until marriage they are not at risk for STD's?

Question

Granted, limiting you partners helps lower the risk, but people lie, and the majority of marriages will suffer infidelity. It drives me nuts to hear people say they are never going to be at risk for an STD since they are "waiting until marriage" for sex.

Answer 1

They might be a little naive, but hopefully they are smart enough in this day and age to get their spouse tested

Answer 2

I can't believe that in this day and age, and all the information available to EVERYONE out there, that people still don't GET IT.



It boils down to ignorance. Or stupidity, depending on how you look at it, and what information the people we're talking about have had. And, the old "head in the sand" attitude doesn't help. Put that together with the "that can't happen to ME" statement, and the rest of the lame things people tend to believe, and voila! You have the ol' "virgins can't get STD's spiel".



Well, what more can be done? You read it, you teach it in our schools, some parents tell it, and on and on and on. Still, there are those that hold out (literally) until the marriage bed, and can't understand it when a couple months later, they're visiting Dr. Feelgood with some rather strange things going on in their, uh, well...you know.



The old saying "when you sleep with someone, you sleep with everyone they've ever slept with" doesn't say a THING about staying a virgin until marriage will protect you for life.



What can I say? Ignorance is NOT always bliss.



Savvy?

Answer 3

Where are you getting your statistics????



I don't believe the majority of marriages are suffering infidelity. And they are right-- they won't be at risk for an STD while they're waiting because they're not having sex. It's not possible. After marriage is a different story. You're confusing two different issues.

Answer 4

the whole point of marriage is for people who honestly take the time to know each other and love each other and treat each other as equal before tying the knot. that MEANS they are honest with each other. but having before marriage and having many partners sure doesnt help lower the chances of having STD's and i have never heard of people saying they wont get STD's if they wait. i have never heard that before.



if a spouse hasnt been honest, then yea the other is at risk

Answer 5

If you abstain from all types of sexual activity, you will not get STDs. That's pretty simple. But it means ALL of it, not just intercourse.



If you believe that the majority of marriages will suffer infidelity, you have a very sad and warped view of marriage. Many marriages are totally faithful on both sides. You don't have to believe it, but that doesn't change the truth of it.

Answer 6

You can get STD's if your partner is not faithful. You know where you have been & you can reduce your risk by acting responsible. There are other emotional pitfalls that you avoid by waiting until marriage. The best thing that you can offer your spouse on your wedding night is yourself; in purity and a clear conscience.

Answer 7

They could be staying virgins because of their personal beliefs as well.



Also, in school we are taught that the less people you and your significant other sleep with the lower the risk of an STD. Many assume that just because they stay virgins, their significant other will be too. Bottom line--the less people both you AND your partner sleep with, the lower the risk of STD.

Answer 8

Why involve yourself with the theory of others. Of course it is possible to become a victim of a STD. I work as a RN in the emergency room of a large hospital, and other than wearing a body condom, (which is no guarantee for anything), I use rational precautions when handling the secretions and collected specimens of the people seeking intervention to their health compromise. Virginity is not guarantee. Ya know Genital herpes can be transmitted orally, and digitally. The same for HIV, So good luck to those folks who participate in sexual activity that does not include genital intercourse.

Answer 9

Why does it drive you mad? If they say they plan to wait until they are married before they have sex, you are never going to know if they are lying or not! If they then have sex before marriage and get a STD, they are not going to tell you anyway. If they wait, then marry someone who has a STD and they in turn get it, they are not going to tell you! It's all academic! Don't let it worry you!

Answer 10

because when you get a marriage certificate, they test you for std's and if you and your partener remain abstinate then you have not came in contact with any STD's so you wont have any.



Although sometimes kids are born with HIV or AIDs because there parents had it and they passed it down to their children who later die at a young age because of it. HIV and AIDs are the only stds that can be passed down by genetics.



There you have everything you need to know about life packed into one tiny package

Answer 11

Because they are hopefully going to be with other people that are virgins as well. Zero chance for STD. There are people that lie, but life's a crap shoot anyway. You have to take your chances!



I got lucky... 14 years ago I married the man of my dreams, and he was not only free of any STD, but told the truth... neither of us were virgins, but we were both very careful! And lucky, I guess.

Answer 12

well theres no such thing as saying that you will never be at risk considering that most husbands cheat atleast once. Even if a person waited until marraige, their spouse could be sleeping around and bringing in diseases. I think I would kill my husband if he ever gave me an std from him cheating....im not married yet but im prepared to!

Answer 13

We learned, in our sex ed program at school, that if both partners wait until marriage and weren't born with an STD, you can't bring an STD and you're totally safe!

Answer 14

Because "Prevention Is The Best Cure".



The key to understanding STD prevention is to understand that the T stands for transmitted.



Just like I have to go online to transmit my answer to this question, virgins have to go online(become sexually active) to send or receive any sexually transmitted diseases.



If a virgin remains one, they can't get or spread STD's.



It does work.....it's just not as much fun.

Answer 15

If they remain a virgin until marriage they cut their risk tremendously. They are looking at their future optimistically, they aren't expecting to marry someone who lies and commits adultery. No one walks into a marriage thinking that. Try to think about it a little more optimistically, they are protecting themselves for their one true love.

Answer 16

I'm not waiting til marriage for sex...I'm just not going to be having it. I'm terrified of STDs. By the time I graduated high school most of my friends had STDs, including kids.

Answer 17

ignorance. infidelity has never been an issue in my marriage of 25 years. but things can happen before marriage and things really don't become apparent 'til later on. again, i will emphasize the ignorance part.

Answer 18

its just a lower risk... by waiting til marriage it will be one sexual partner rather than multiple..therefore its a lower risk. but they still can get an STD.

Answer 19

well if they don't have any sex at all...including oral before marriage most likely they won't get an STD unless they are IV drug users. And not everyone cheats in a marriage...

Answer 20

B/C you have a bigger chance of getting an STD if you have sex with a bunch of people than having it with inly ONE person. You should know this if you have ever had Health Class.

Answer 21

Well if you aren't doing it, then you won't get a STD. That's common sense. Yes people lie, but still, if you're a virgin, then you are 99.99% STD free.

Answer 22

"the majority of marriages will suffer infidelity"?



where did you get that stat from?



I don't know if I believe that one. how about some proof?

Answer 23

Most people "assume" that the person they spend their life with will be a virgin as well...or that other forms of sex are not "sex" in essence they go in blind fearing nothing because its not REALLY sex so they aren't REALLY at risk.



Sad truth,

Answer 24

WRONG !!! STD is a risk you take having unprotected sex

Answer 25

Well it cuts the chance way down. Intercourse and IV needles are about the only ways to get it. At least the most common.

Answer 26

Because they are not at risk before they marry, and they expect their spouse to be faithful - as most people do.

Answer 27

They are safe until they marry then it is a matter of fidelity of the spouse. Don't know why someone wants to cheat, it's all the same just different window dressing.

Answer 28

because they believe that they wont be getting an std if they wait until marrige because they arent haveing sex with anyone but their spouse

Answer 29

maybe thats not the reason they are waiting.. maybe they wait for religious beliefs...and then you still need a blood test b4 marriage

Answer 30

you're right. I know I would never trust anyone! ONLY way is to obviously get tested with your fiance

Answer 31

because they trust there partner

Answer 32

I am not sanguine.