Why is it that in relationships if one partner wants to call it quits the other partner does not wan to?

Question

I have seen this in many situations.. Is it selfishness on behalf of the partner who wants to leave or ignorance or bad first choice? Why is it that in some relationships or marriages one partner is so grown out of it that he/ she wants to leave whereas the other partner is shattered and crushed on knowing that they wanna leave. I rarely see a couple on the same page, agreeing with each other and calling it quits together. Is it selfishness on behalf of the partner who wants to quit or insecurity on behalf of the partner who does not want his guy/ girl to call it quits?

Answer 1

I think you will find that the person wishing to end the marriage is the aggrieved one and has endured all that they can out of the relationship. It has nothing to do with being selfish as it takes a lot of courage to decide to divorce - it is so much easier just to stay married and suffer quietly.



The person hanging on to the relationship knows they have mistreated the other and wants to hold on out of insecurity. If the other is adamant to quit they should allow it and who knows the separation may do some good and they could become better friends later on. But to force and hang on is just another sign to show that this person does not understand that the marriage has reached its limitation.

Answer 2

Very good question, i myself wonder the same exact thing wow! you would think two people in a relationship would agree mutually about throwing in the towel. some people just have more tolerance than others. if you want out you just have to do what you have to do for you regardless if the other person still wants to work at it. i have a hard time leaving a relationship first, because i usually end up in situations where the other persons hell bent on fixing things even when things seem not fixable.

Answer 3

Its not selfish to see that a relationship has gone stale

If one or the other is not totally committed

Then its best you part company

Its hard on the one who does not feel that way

But why stay in a loveless relationship ?

Answer 4

I think it is total insecurity on the partner that does not want to give it up.

Answer 5

I don't think its one or the other, it entirely depends on the situation and the maturity of the two people involved.