Actions or Words?

Question

Ive been dealing through a situation recently with an ex-girlfriend. She calls me a couple of times a day, or sends me messages. She says there is no chance of me and her, but then turns around and does the opposite. Whenever she's out with just me, she gets pretty hands on with me, and she continues to poke at me or brush my hair back. If I go one day without returning her messages she starts acting crazy she'll call 6 times in a hour and want to know why I'm ignoring her? She says its because were "friends" but I dont call my friends 6 times in a hour if they dont return a call or message. Pretty much the whole point is her words say no we wont get back together, but all of her actions say yes. She cant go a day without talking to me, and I dont even try to call her, because i know she will eventually. Does it sound like she wants me back with her actions or do I just have false hope and her words are correct?

Answer 1

You've answered your own question. Talk is cheap, and actions speak louder than words. If I would you, I would look her straight in the eye, explain that people don't treat each other that way - either friends or significant others - and let her know that if she wants any kind of relationship with you she needs to back off. Otherwise, tell her that she's out of your life once and for all and stick to your guns.



Good luck.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Honestly that sounds like a very very toxic relationship that you just need to cut ties with seriously. If she is an ex she is so for a reason and those reasons need to be remembered. She acts crazy when she doesn't hear from you which sounds weird since she says you guys are just friends. My advice would be cut the ties and start fresh with someone whom is nothing like her.

Answer 4

Either she is playing you or she does want to get back ,but maybe is afraid.No difference she needs to make up her mind.Tell her all this and see what she says.Women like to play the same mind games as men do.Some do and some don't.Depends on the person.For one thing does any of your other friends hang and touch you like she has been?Just tell her honestly what you are thinking.

Answer 5

Sounds like she just wants the attention, not to be with you. It's difficult going from a relationship to nothing. The need for attention gets overwhelming and she is getting carried away with it. She knows you want to get back together and teasing you with it with her constant need for attention. Tell her it's either get back together or leave you alone, the constant contact is too frustrating and confusing.

Answer 6

It sounds like she doesn't want you but she doesn't want you to want anyone else - she's happy for you to always be there when she wants you to be - without having to give you any part of herself. Sounds very one sided and if I were you I'd stop answering her calls so much.



Actions usually speak louder than words, unless the words are negative, then pay attention to them.

Answer 7

Shes playing a juvenile game and also sounds depressed and needs attention all the time, when your alone she needs attention from you, when shes surrounded by others she already has someone elses attention. She thrives on attention. Needs to feel needed all the time.



Her self esteem must be kinda low when no one is around.

Answer 8

Sounds like she is confused and has no idea what she wants. She sounds kinda psycho too if she is calling you that many times and gets upset when you dont answer. Be care full with her

Answer 9

She obviously can't let it go. Actions speak volumes, they generally tell the truth about how someone feels. Don't buy into what she says. Don't pay her too much attention and this will eventually blow over. Just go about your life and don't worry about her.

Answer 10

She is still attached to you and probably is hoping to get you back. It is up to you to make the move to have a relationship with her again or tell her strait to her face that you would like to be left alone.

Answer 11

There is a huge difference. Words don't mean a thing. Tell her you are ignoring her because she is a liar. It doesn't sound like she wants you back it sounds like she is INSANE RUN RUN RUN REALLY FAST Change your number!!!

Answer 12

She doest know what she wants..it sounds like she doesn't want you but she wants to know your where abouts at all times and you have to nip this in the bud...you can not be friends with her obviously...

Answer 13

Pay attention to her words, not her actions.

Answer 14

I think its about control, she doesnt know what she wants except one thing is for sure, she wants you to be at her hands and feet.