How do you know if a man is emotionally unavailable?

Question

What are the signs he shows? Do emotionally unavailable men say "I love you" and talk about wanting to get married? How do you let go of an emotionally unavailable man if he won't let go of you?

Answer 1

Emotionally unavailable men can and do say I love you and I want to marry you; however, when it comes to listening to YOU, they have a hard time. (Backtracking to the marriage part~ setting an actual date for it, now that is usually a difficult thing for them; even so far as to rescheduling if cold feet settles in too much).



They can talk & talk about their day, but when it comes to be your turn to talk, they typically show no interest, switch subjects like a remote control, leaving you bewildered.



Emotionally unavailable men are not generally giving/sensitive in bed. They are usually quite selfish/takers and not givers. So, if your man is giving, then you might be alright.



Are things all about him??? I'm talking things like Movies,T.V. restaurants, games, etc...Is it him who always gets to pick those, or does he let you also get to choose where to go?



Intimacy w/o Sex~ Im talking about massages, and such. Is he usually the receiving end of those? Or does he give them in return as well?



At bed time, does he snuggle up to sleep, or go to his corner ~ no touching?



Does he talk about his friends/collegues with you? Or are they a mystery?



Always trust your gut feeling ~ it never lets you down.



I hope I helped some.

Answer 2

It's interesting that you refer to him as an emotionally unavailable man. I'm sure that if he is talking about getting married or loving you then he is not emotionally unavailabe. Have you had intimate moments with him? Most times, you will find that if a man tells you that he loves you for the first time without any trouble and pro-wise, then they really just want your goods. Honestly, I wouldn't do anything with tht man until you are sure that he loves you. Try getting him into difficult situations. If he chooses you over another person or thing, then that may prove to be a very good sign.



If you are set on letting him go, tell him very straight-forwardly that you do not want to have a relationship with him anymore. If he asks you why, tell him that you don't feel like he really loves you, and well, neither do you. Try blocking all contact with him. If he still tries to get you back, then it's up to you to give him another chance, in which he will be more overprotective and careful than usual, or you can reject him, in which maybe you'll find another perfect guy.

Answer 3

In my experience, and also from observing my friends, emotionally unavailable men seem more mysterious and its back to the old " you want what you can't have" thing. For some reason, to a lot of women, this kind of emotional slowness in some men can be addictive and with the lows, the highs are so good when one gets a good day with one of these men! They are like a drug i suppose and it is really hard to break free as they can also be exciting and all consuming. As soon blow hot for one day, the heartache mends, then the next time they blow cold, it starts all over again. I am not sure if this makes any sense, but this is how it is!

Answer 4

Yes, they do those things. Mine did and he actually married me but he is still emotionally attached to his mother and moved out to please his mommy. So now I am married in name only. Sometimes you just can't tell if they are unavailable;they put on a good show and as soon as you say "I do" they act like animals trapped in a cage. The best I could tell you is if you suspect he is emotionally unavailable, there must be a reason. Dig deeper: is he in love with someone else still? recently separated/divorced? with his mother? trying to find himself? Commited to his work instead of you? Those are all red flags but sometimes even that won't help so be careful.

Answer 5

If he won't let go of you he must want to be with you so....keep hanging on. Maybe the two of you should be together.

Answer 6

Its not up to him. They are YOUR goods!!!! The number one sign is that they do all of the taking and you do all of the giving. They will use lots of words but their actions NEVER line up.