Should I stay and be unhappy?

Question

I've been with the same guy since I was 15, six years now, and we have been married for 4 years(no kids). I used to be head over heels for him, but I have fallen out of love with him in the last 3 years, and have become extremely unhappy. Everything is fine in our relationship, and he's the most wonderful man a girl could ask for. I'm just not happy, and I think I got married too young. I told him I was leaving last night, and it's breaking both our hearts. I've tried to make myself happy..ie..couples counseling, individual counseling. Nothing has worked. Help!!!

Answer 1

People grow apart and change. You've been together since such a young age, you were both still developing (emotionally and personality wise). Perhaps you stayed with him as long as you did because you were 'used' to each other more than in love.

You're young. Why would you stay if you're unhappy? Because you don't want to feel that pain and hurt him? Well, guess what, the two of you being unhappy is going to hurt too.

Just move on, as hard as it will be, move on. Your whole lives are still ahead of you.

Answer 2

You probably did get married too young and you might have missed out on being single and dating. You have to ask yourself what is it that is making you so unhappy. You could end your marriage to learn that it isn't him at all. A good man is really hard to find. I wouldn't go around giving that up so easy. Are there things that you could do together that would make you happy or things alone that would bring happiness back into your life? I think that sometimes people fall in and out of love all the time and you have to work to bring that magic back.

Answer 3

I would say to definitely make it work if the two of you had children together, but you don't. Therefore, I think it would be okay to admit you married way too young, divorce, and get on with your life. That is going to be very hard, and I typically do not think divorce is okay in situations like this, but at least you won't be hurting any children in the process. Good luck with everything hun

Answer 4

Maybe if you legally separate for a while you can find yourself and see what it will take to make you happy. That does not make it final, it just allows you and him some personal space. You could be missing a whole world of opportunity by not moving forward. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. Just a thought.....you can always give it a try. Meaning you or him would have to move out until you resolve your personal issues.

Answer 5

Wow, I wish you could give lectures to all the people on here who don't believe they are too young to get married. That's exactly the problem for you, you never had the wild teen years that people are SUPPOSED to experience.



I hope you both find some happiness.

Answer 6

I don't think you should be unhappy, but I don't believe in divorcing without going through all possible options to try to make it work (especially when there's no abuse, ect ect) Have you tried praying together? I don't know if you're religious at all, but I have a strong faith in God - He can always lead you in the right direction.

Answer 7

Sounds like you already gave up. No kids... let him find someone who wants to be with him. Your not ready for marriage. He may not be either

Answer 8

There's nothing we can do about it...If you don't love him anymore, you don't love him anymore! However, I hope for his feelings that you haven't met some guy that you are secretly leaving for!

Answer 9

you should leave him, your too young and you don't have any kids so it's not as hard.