Im having an affair w/ a married man & his wife read a nonsexual e mail I had sent does she suspect anything?

Question

Ok so heres the full story...Im having an affair w/ a married man....im friends w/ there family meaning his wife knows me.....we all e mail back in forth like forwards & stuff like that but since me & her husband have been talking I sent him an email one night telling him to write me b/c my husband never gets on the computer well she read the e mail I had sent him.....do u think she suspects us having the affair together by the sound of what I wrote to him???

Answer 1

If you are going to do something like that, get a "private" mail from Yahoo and don't read them unless there is no chance of getting caught. She may suspect something if she is reading and looking at his mail so "put up your dukes" and get ready to be confronted.

Answer 2

I have been in his wife's shoes and I can tell you that she does suspect. By putting in the e mail that your husband never gets on the computer you have told his wife the relationship has a secret element to it that you don't want your husband to find out about. I lived through the ABSOLUTE HELL that you two are putting her through. I lived through the 18 month affair where I almost went insane trying to find proof. I have lived through the 6 month struggle after I finally found out what was really happening before I got the ***** out of my life. What you are doing is cruel. It destroys lives and people. Tell her the truth. She deserves to know. At least then she can do something about her cheating husband. She is not doing anything wrong but you are and you know it. When it's all out in the open your affair will not be so much fun and he'll probably run a mile. 2 years later I'm still hurting like hell. Why do you think it's OK to inflict pain like that on her and your husband. Do his wife a favour and get out of her life. You are NOT A FAMILY FRIEND!!!!!!! With friends like you........

Answer 3

What a shame. Who cares if she suspects it or not - is that supposed to somehow justify anything?



You need to learn to keep your legs closed and show some respect. Fooling around with a married man is whorish and, in the end, most of the time nobody wins. The affair always damages the marriage. Sometimes the guy goes back to his wife and you lose. Sometimes the guy goes with the mistress and after the marriage fails the relationship with the mistress usually fails as well.



Right now you are likely just a distraction to him. Chances are if he lived with you day in and day out you would be on his wife's end of the table too. Why would you sell yourself so short - this guy is cheating on his wife with you. Where do you think this relationship is going? Even if he leaves his wife and gets together with you what makes you so sure he isn't going to do the same thing with another woman later down the road - remember, he did it once he can sure do it again. Don't kid yourself. You're opening yourself (and everyone else involved) up to a lot of hurt. Where is your respect?

Answer 4

It's understandable to be insecure because of this man's success, but I say let it go dude. Even if she did have an affair with the guy, it was 10 years ago and you didn't even know her then. On the other hand, if you think they keep in touch a little "too" much you may want to worry though. If she was very young when this relationship took place she probably thinks of him as MUCH more than just a friend and there was a lot more to the relationship than she's fessin' up to. If you don't think they're too close now then don't worry yourself over it.

Answer 5

She probably will know of it now. Break off the relationship. End the affair. It's more than you and him that are going to get hurt. It's the whole friend circle and the kids. Once it gets out, get used to hearing "Homewrecker." Or worse from your closest friends. People have a tendancy to take sides and you won't have a sympathetic ear. No more emails. Nothing. No one will trust you. End it now. If you aren't happy with your husband, that's what a divorce is for. But divorce first.

Answer 6

WHY are you having an affair? If you are unhappy, be an honest person, get our of your own relationship because you are treating your own husband like dirt and you are being very self-indulgent by pursuing someone who is unavailable. Grow up, do the right thing and break the ties that are apparently not working for you. People who cheat are insecure and selfish and don't seem to realize how hurtful their actions are to those around them - their spouses and other family members. ...and believe me, everyone knows and there is nothing more hurtful and degrading that to even suspect that you are being replaced by someone else.

Answer 7

here goes. You need to severe contact with this guy. He is married! Its unfair on all involved, do they have a family?? WHEN the wife finds out she will know that her husband and a so called friend of hers (you) have betrayed her. Stuff like this allways comes out in the end. There are plenty of single men out there so go and find one of your own. Then there are STDS ! Have some integrity. Put yourself in the wifes shoes and think about how you would feel.

Answer 8

This is what I tell people having affairs. The next time there doing someones husband or wife, think of there spouse behind you with tears in there eyes. His wife will eventually find out. Do you like being a s***? I hope you both get found out. Your both pigs.....

Answer 9

First of all.. forget her wondering... Why are you cheating on your husband and at the same time with a married man?!?! you need to either work things out with your husband or get divorced and stop being a homewrecker. How do you look at yourself knowing what your doing is WRONG?!?! I hope she suspects something and catches on and puts you two in your places!

Answer 10

I hope she does. There are consequences to this type of immoral behavior. I'm sure you'll be discovering them.

Don't be a part of destroying a family for your own selfishness. Stop this relationship...exercise your conscience if you have one.

You are the type of woman who helped ruin my marriage and household. Do you have any idea how bad that hurts? Do you even care?

Seeing how casually you can talk about what you are doing makes me literally sick.

Answer 11

Done deal. She knows. It doesn't take much for her to go and find out what you two are up to now. What's he gonna say, "we were preparing a surprise party for her husband and we didn't think to bring you in on the deal?" If she's got any sense, she's going to act nonchalant for the next few days all the while digging up more dirt on her husband who has probably put his guard down not suspecting anything himself. He'll slip up eventually and I imagine...so will you. Start looking for a relationship therapist or find a good divorce attorney.

Answer 12

Hard to say since you don't say what you say in the e-mail. What is wrong with you! It is wrong and you know it, it is just wrong!!! If these people have you in their home and you are friends...not! You need to be ashamed and get away from this family...you are being a home wrecker and a very stupid person as well. You need to go to school or at least learn to spell by using spell checker...do you really thing he is after you for your mind or intelligence...NO! Anyone can pick up a married man with sex, if they try and to say you are social with these people...it is sickening to me. You need to get on your knees and I hope you get caught!! I hate it for his wife but she needs to know too for her own health...any diseases from all this sex?

Answer 13

why in the hella are you having an affair with a married man is there some wrong with you, why am I asking there is something wrong with you



and I hope she does suspect something.. how can you do that knowing he has a family.. does it not make you aware of how it would feel that a motha freaking friend of the family is sleeping with your dad.. do you not care what the kids think no cause your a women who likes to be messed with





I feel like slappin you

Answer 14

This sounds like guilt. It is good that your consciense is working. It will help when you are caught because in this everyone knows everybody, it is only a matter of time. Sweety, if its not this email then it will be the next or the one after that.

Answer 15

With emails or not the wife can always the "feeling" about the rival. I am not really against your relationship but personally I don't wanna be on that crap. That was just a game hurting 3 people. The WIFE, your bf and yourself.

Answer 16

As you can see from all the answers you recieved...people like you aren't liked at all. You are playing with other people's lives and emotions. I'd say if you took a long look in the mirror, you won't like who's looking back at you very much either.

Answer 17

Not sure. But it sure is nice that you are keeping your adulterous behavior among friends. Wouldn't want you to be fornicating with a stranger and ruining the marriage of someone you didn't even know. So how long have you all been friends?

Answer 18

Oh honey, this is the least of your worries. You are sleeping with a married man and you are a friend of the family? That is disgusting! All that trust. I bet you even know the kids. I want to vomit.



The truth always comes out. It may not today, but it will, and it will destroy everyone in it's path.

Answer 19

why come to us for absolution?I hope she doesn't suspect a thing.At least this way her life will be free of your filth.I pray your husband finds you out and sends you packing.

This is to you RYU JIN when one poses a question here it becomes everyone's problem.You want best answer so much you've dropped the string that holds your moral pants together,Now here you stand naked for the world to see.

Answer 20

jee, all the answers are nothing more then narrowed minded monogamy people bi*** and complain for crap that are not even their business.



First of all, if you are family friends, then common E-mail like that is considered normal. As long as you don't blatantly say hey honey, lets meet up and F**k, depending on how close of friends you guys are, you can even E-mail for a date and his/her spouse will think nothing of it. After all, friends do just hang out.



As long as the person does not come home smelling like his been doing something with another woman, no lipstick, ect... and act casual around her. She will never find out, *statistically, if she is sexually satisfied, she wouldn't care even if you spend too much time with her husband.* It will be considered as friends hanging out.

Answer 21

Sounds like you want his wife, God, and everyone else to know that you're sleeping with this guy? What's wrong with you? You're going to be treated just like a complete outcast when either he tires of you or she finds out.

Answer 22

unless something is going to come of this relationship and you are both going to leave your partners for each other, then i'd stop playing with fire if i was you.

my mother has spent the last 25 years cheating on my father and I unfortuantly know about it. it sickens me. my father is a terrific provider and an excellent father and has done nothing to deserve it.

affairs not only hurt partners, they also hurt family and friends as well.

enjoy it while it lasts.

Answer 23

if you consider it an affair already - stop emailing each other from now. Affairs lead you both nowhere ... just gives you more headaches and pain for ALL parties involved, eventually

Answer 24

it's amazing how relaxed you sound at the horrible thing youre doing. I hope that she does find out what kind of

***** her husband is screwing and leaves him for someone worth her time. And as for you I hope you end up with a desease as screwed up as you are.!

Answer 25

seem.s like you already know the answer to this question you end up in court and can be charged with adultry. as well causing her mental as well emotional problem.s as well . you dont play with fire and not get burnt. you have as well him reap what you both have sown. as well bible speaking broke .5. of the.10. commandments as well . my opion?

Answer 26

i am married and to hear you ask that is so weird. i dont know if you have heard this word KARMA and if will bit you an the a** if you dont get out now honey. you have some courage to ask this. she will find out we all do so be ready.

Answer 27

She probably does suspect. You did wrong, and will probably have to pay for it. You'll get what you deserve. Have a great life!

Answer 28

He is a loser and you are stupid.



How would you like some home wrecking douchbag to be sleeping with YOUR husband?



If he lies to his wife, how can YOU trust him?



What's gonna stop him from cheating on YOU?



You are obviously a tramp... sleeping with a married man. He will never trust you... or marry you..



You both deserve to get caught.

Answer 29

Just how stupid do you think she is? Of course she now suspects! I would! You deserve eveything you get, she and her children however are too good for you or him!

Answer 30

Not an affair "YET" but it could go further - she will keep an eye

Answer 31

Anytime another woman emails your husband personally, you are going to get suspicious. Shame on you.

Answer 32

I hope she knows you are having an affair with her husband and I hope you know how many lives are ruining in the process.

Answer 33

The old sayin' that you can't turn a ho into a house wife is so true ...

Answer 34

she might hate to say it because i mean why would he care if your husband never gets on the computer???see what i mean..but who knows maybe she didnt even think anything of it.

Answer 35

It is people like you that make the divorce go up. You asked the question

Answer 36

Show up naked, bring beer.



You will either have a threesome, or get your rear end kicked so hard your teeth fall out.



Either way, it would be great to witness.

Answer 37

my father did the same thing and you i hate the dump ugly home wreaking slut that he left my mom for i hope you get whats coming to you

Answer 38

maybe your husband isn't on the computer because he is banging her instead. You reap what you sow. YOu will end up single and alone. And yes you will get caught.

Answer 39

What's wrong with you?!!!! I hope his wife finds out, and I hope your husband finds out. And, I really hope there are no children involved in these marriages.

Answer 40

Well if she didn't maybe she does now. HOw does she treat you when your around is a good way of finding out.

Answer 41

you're going to burn in hell?

thats not true.

you cant help who you fall for and you cant help who you love.

im only 15 but i know about these things trust me.

i doubt she does.

she probably just thinks nothing of it.

but for now i wouldnt say anything.

just save whatever you have to say to him. untill you can say it to his face.

then she has nothing to suspect.

hopefully you'll realise what you are doing is wrong.

and come clean about it.

because you may be feeling bad about it or you may not but whoever his wife is shes going to be devastated so maybe you should just tell the truth and see what happens from there

but hopefully things will turn out good.

and no you wont burn in hell, he dosnt know what hes talking about [:

good luck with this anyway.

Answer 42

you call yourself a friend.

with friends like you who needs enemies

Answer 43

no i don't think she thinks ur having an affair just because of that, i bet she just thinks u were being friendly.

Answer 44

HE** HAVE NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED...HOPE YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE A HOMEWRECKER AND HE WILL PAY. THATS LOUSY BUT LIKE I SAY BEFORE. MARRIED MEN NEARLY NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES. YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO MONICA'S SONG CALLED" SIDELINE HOE"

Answer 45

That one thing i hate about is CHEATING PEOPLE Get a life

Answer 46

yes, I do - in that you said your husband never uses the computer, she'd be onto you...hide the bunny...

Answer 47

god i hope u know what ur doing. hopefully they dont have kids



http://youtube.com/watch?v=zSxoKQ_sWYY

watch it, do those lyris represent what u are feeling???



if no then u are an idiot

Answer 48

OK first wtf are you doing with a married man?????? he's married and if your friends with his wife wth are you doing..... if i was his wife and i found out i would be mad at my husband and pissed at my friend

Answer 49

of course she suspects.... she is a woman just like you... you need to expect the worst... and ditch the dude...



put yourself in her shoe... what would you do?

Answer 50

You know what they say about a woman's intuition

Answer 51

Who flippen knows??? You don't sound too proud of it though...perhaps you should reevaluate your actions.

Answer 52

Stop being so selfish....how youd u feel if you were his wife?

Answer 53

People like you disgust me...... so so selfish.

when it all comes out .....(and it will)...................it will affect both families, children and all.

Affairs ruin families.............GROW UP!

Answer 54

Everyone hates homewreckers.



..Therefore, everyone hates you.



=D

Answer 55

she might.

Why are you with him?

find a single man.

Answer 56

your a slu t

Answer 57

not if that's all you wrote.... her radar may be up though.

Answer 58

uh, how are we supposed to know how she's feeling?

Answer 59

i would ask him and see what he said she said about it..

Answer 60

skank, ohhh you so deserve what's coming to you ...ohhh karma.... ohhhh i don't like you OHH

Answer 61

shame on you!

Answer 62

Yes...........I know.

Answer 63

your going to burn in hell. have fun