My husband and I have been separated for 10 months, were married for one year. We have a 2 year old. I want to move to another state.?

Question

I want to move to another state with our dauther, we haven't started divorce proceedings yet. He is an alcoholic thats why I marriage did not work. 2 weeks ago he stated that he wanted to kill himself because he drinks so much, ge currently is on paxil, for depression. Well since I said I want to move he wants to fight and doesn't think I should leave the state. He has a cousin that's an attorney, I haven't been able to sleep, I have also been by his side dealing with his depression, I was there when he said he wanted to kill himself, he's making my life an emotional wreck. One minute he wants me to move home and then I talk about moving to another state and he gets all crazy not eanting to hear my side of things, but gets scared of me.

Answer 1

Booze + Paxil is a really bad combination. He is using emotional blackmail to keep you there enabling him. The abuse will not abate with time.



You should not need an attorney. Collect all financial statements of any sorts... including any debts. Stop by the bookstore and pick up the latest do-it-yourself divorce guide for your state... some editions have a CD with all the forms on it. Fill out the forms and take the requisite amount of cash to the county courthouse and file for divorce. Should be less than $400 in most states.

Answer 2

Hes an alcoholic that means hes ill, if you were sick you wouldn't want him walking out on you so show some patience & understanding & don't walk out on him. Try getting him the help he needs to be healthy then if things don't work out, you leave. BTW, Paxil & all other anti- depressant medications causes suicidal thoughts. Also consider the side effects of all anti-anxiety/depressants, sleep & pain meds, get worse when alcohol comes into play. Try getting husband into a rehab program & attend counseling before packing up & moving your child away from a parent that she needs as much as her mother.

Answer 3

All this stuff about his depression and alcoholism is completely irrelevant. You need to consult a lawyer and learn your rights. I would suspect that as long as there is no court order in place forbidding you to move, you wouldn't be breaking any laws by moving. But I'm not a legal expert. Hence my advice to speak to a lawyer.

Answer 4

Give an attorney a call yourself. Some states consider taking a child out of state without the estranged spouse's permission to be kidnapping. Find out the laws in the state you live it. Matters.

Answer 5

I would consult an attorney before moving out of state. Legally, you may not be able to move with your daughter.

Answer 6

You need to speak to an attorney about your situations so you'll know what rights and options you have available.

Answer 7

Talk to a lawyer. Get a pro bono attorney if you can't afford to hire one.

Answer 8

Yeah him wanting you to move home and you wanting to move to another start will do that to a drunk who is depressed. I think it would be best if you moved away from him, no telling what he might do to you or your son.