Is this a normal reaction after seeing my deployed husband on webcam for the first time?

Question

My husband had his first deployment to Iraq at the start of January. I has been a very painful time for me, I have missed him more than words can say.
He has only been able to send me two emails so far because they have been so busy. Last night, his buddies and him borrowed a laptop and a webcam
from someone. They came online and took turns to have live chats with back home. As soon a my husband came on the screen, I was in hysterics with tears.
I couldn't speak to him because I was sobbing so much. I just had a wave of emotion overcome me, just seeing his face and not being able to be with him, concerns about his safety etc all came to me
at once... After three minutes, he was summoned and had to go.
i now feel so guilty that i couldn't speak to him..
Was this a normal way to react to seeing his face for the first time?

Thank you for helping

Answer 1

Oh yes it is! I did the same thing. The 1st phone call I got during my husband's 1st deployment I was at work and I had to go to our backroom and I just sobbed for at least 30 minutes after we hung up. (scared my coworkers b/c they knew both of us for yrs before he ever even enlisted and had never seen me so much as tear up for any reason!) It was worse after seeing him in pictures and on webcam. It's a very stressful time. I don't know if I was crying from relief from seeing/ hearing him or b/c of the stress of worrying about him or the loneliness or if it was everything all rolled up into one. (probably the last one!) I have always managed not to do it in front of him or where he hears it but I'm not sure how I've managed that!

So yeah you're perfectly normal ;-) And don't feel guilty.... you just miss him and are worried about him. He understands that! Just send him an email telling him whatever is on your mind and what you would've said.



Hang in there! He'll be home before you know it ;-)

Answer 2

Of course! He is in such an unknown environment, and your thoughts lead you to believe that he is in grave danger all the time. While you are worried sick back at home, the world around you appears unchanged. People are stilling celebrating the Super Bowl, making plans for Spring Break, and talking about the stock market. You feel isolated in your fear and worry. There's no one to share it with, because no else is his wife. You feel as if every day that a long black car doesn't drive toward you is the biggest gift, and then it starts all over again tomorrow. I understand. But, keep in mind that statistics are on your side. Your husband is safer than you know. The chances that he will make it back to you are high. Take each day as it comes, and believe that the time of his deployment will end. You will be able to look back at this time and marvel at your strength to carry on. Trust in this. Your reaction is 100% understandable. He understood it, because he knows you! God Bless!

Answer 3

My husband spent ten years in the army and was deployed twice for two different wars for a total of three years, the longest span being two. At the time there was no web cam just letters but the idea of keeping a positive attitude and reflecting that in all your conversations is vital to his moral, your reaction was normal but he has to know everything at home is okay so he can focus on the job at hand,God bless

Answer 4

I think any reaction is normal in such an emotional situation. I would feel guilty too though. Try and sort out your emotions on your own so you can be strong for your hubby. He needs to be sure that you are ok and can handle things at home. Try and hold it together next time and cry afterwards if you need to. Good luck!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

YES ! You will be ok, it takes time for the separation to really set in.



Get a calendar and start crossing of the days that he is gone. It will help you later saying..."One day closer to being together" . Good Luck and stay strong.

Answer 7

He`s your true love, your concern is appreciated by him. You are not weak, you are head over heels in love. He`s a lucky guy. The emotions were pent up inside you and you needed a release, you just didn`t know it until that moment.

It`s time to bring the boys (and girls) back home.

Answer 8

I'm crying just reading this and I don't know either of you. So, I'd say it is.



You can send letters that say what you want to say. It was about seeing him and it was an emotional thing for you. Nothing to feel guilty about. You love him.

Answer 9

Your reaction is normal and fine. It's not easy to deal with and you had an out-pouring of emotion.



Your husband is lucky to have someone at home who cares so much. :)

Answer 10

as a veteran. I understand your reaction. he probably started crying after he got alone too. you are totally normal concerning him.write him a letter and tell him about it though,he loves your letters. any letters from home mean the world to him.bless you for having such a heart for your husband when he is serving to protect our freedoms,

Answer 11

I think he feels blessed to have you! I know I would if I were a man having to be over there or anyone for that matter.



Don't feel guilty! I think he was very very proud to have a sweetheart like you at that moment.

Answer 12

You can't change how you reacted...but you can better prepare yourself for the next time. I say write down what you want to say and try to focus on talking to him. Make the most of the time you have.

Answer 13

God Bless you Sweetie! I couldn't imagine what you are going through right now. We as Americans love, support, and appreciate our troops for their service, but you, as his wife, have to dedicate and sacrifice just as much. Thank you.

Answer 14

Yes I guess so.

You have bottled up your true emotions and these came to light like an explosion when you saw your man.

Explain that to him next time, he'll understand.

You are really in love aren't you ?

Best wishes.

Answer 15

Completly normal. I am sure you showed plenty of Love with your reaction.

Answer 16

its a little extreme but not unheard of. I cannot begin to imagine how much stress you are under HUGS

Answer 17

stick in there. he is there for all of us and he needs his woman to be there for the little time that he doe's get.

Answer 18

yes

Answer 19

I probably would have done it too.

Answer 20

you should of least told him i love you no it is not a normal reaction maybe you just can't get a grip on your emotions i wonder what he is thinking know.

Answer 21

I think it's a bit over the top... my friends and i (who have deployed spouses/fiances/boyfriends) all get very excited when we see our men. But we don't just burst out in tears all dramatically... however i did repeatedly tell him how much i loved and missed him.

Of course I haven't even seen my man on webcam since November.

Answer 22

That's weak.