My ex wants md to wait for her?

Question

ok so me and my ex recently split long story short its a distance relationship and we only talk and text and every now and then see each other...but i fell deeply in love with her and i felt like she was holding back cause the last guy broke her heart and i didnt she was my first..she broke up with because she said i was nagging i didnt listen and she needed to find her self. and i felt like she dnt pay me no attention at all it was like she didnt care like ill call and text and she wouldnt answer or reply say her phones dead or what not but there was times we had really good times. anyways we broke up and she says she needs to find herself before she gets in a relationship again (what ever that means) and she wants me to respect her wishes so i said ok. but she said didbt want to damage our friendship and ask if i still wabt to be her friend i said ok. but its eating my heart out and it seems to have no effect on her our split that is. but i dnt know if i should wait or not..a part of me say wait and a part say move on. but we had somthing apecial at one point and im kinda willing to wait but waiting is killing me... feel free to leave ur opinion and oh im 20 thanks in advance.

Answer 1

At your "young age" of 20, I don't feel you should have to put your life "on hold" with her while she "finds herself" - yea, for whatever that means!!! She said YOU were "nagging", BUT she has to find herself. To me this doesn't even make any sense!! You're only young once, only have the chances to be dating others at your age. The more you date, the better chance you have of meeting the rite one. IF you're going to be put "on hold", this is not giving you the opportunities of being able to find that rite one for you. Personally, I feel YOU are getting the brunt of the hurt she got from her prior relationship that didn't work out. You're being expected to do ALL she wants. Her her her...what about you tho?!? I don't feel you are being treated fairly. WHY should you be "on hold", be expected to wait for her to make up her mind in what she wants to do. WHY is it not "bothering her" to just "be friends", but not have it seem to bother her. Easy for her to say & do, BUT, what about you & your feelings?!? My opinion? I feel she's taking advantage of you & she's NOT considering your feelings. By you saying "waiting is killing you", shows me YOU do care about her. By her saying "be her friend" shows me it's NOT "hurting her" as it is you. Sorry, but I'm being bluntly honest with you & only for YOUR sake. I'm just truly afraid for you that you ARE going to end up being the one hurt by all this. Seems as tho she's taking tooo much "in stride" for one who is "suppose to care". For YOUR sake alone, I would let her know things are NOT going as you hoped they would. YOU have decided you want to go forward with your life. You no longer care to be put "on hold". You want to put the past in the past & go forward with your life, THIS IS what YOU'VE decided for yourself. Put the past in the past & go forward with your life. Your past will be forever gone, BUT your future is still your own. You do deserve to find that special someone you've yet to meet, you WILL meet when you least expect it. You'll then know the reason this just was not meant to be. Think about it ALL in all seriousness, see if what I've said makes any sense to you. Take it from one who's been there & back again!! I'm saying all this to spare you eventual heart ache I feel is what it's going to result in being. I could be wrong, BUT how long are you going to be in the "holding pattern" for HER to make up her mind about you & a relationship with you...I wish you the best, my friend...:)

Answer 2

I'm sorry but life's too short.



If she doesn't know her own heart then she'll break yours.



Its best to move on. You were likely a rebound relationship and you had way way far far too much invested in her than she had in you.



Your best bet is to move on.



I personally do not believe in 2nd chances. Even if she came back and resumed the love affair with you, in the end she'll leave you again. Maybe not for the same reasons as before, but since it didn't affect her the first time, she'll leave you again.



And if you get back with her you'll always be wondering if this is the last time you and she are together, or if she's still pining for her ex before you. The simple fact that she wasn't over her ex tells me right there you are her last choice, not her first. That's not a healthy sign.



If anything the next time she dumps you, you'll really be abandoned and let me tell you that when that happens, it hurts so much worse and in the end it'll f**k you up for life.



Imagine on down the line, every woman you see after her will never measure up to your expectations because you'll pretty much carry some heavy baggage around. And though its possible even probable that you'll fix what's broken inside you, you will always be worried about something in your future relationships.



This way you make a clean getaway. And if you meet someone new, give HER a fair chance, not like the crappy chance you got from your now ex-girlfriend. You don't want to rebound with another woman and do THAT to her, since its been done to you. So be on guard for that.



Finally, moving on is healthy. Letting go of the ex is the best thing you can do. Just cut her out of your life. Stop talking to her. Make her leave you alone. If she has regrets later, its her problem not yours. Don't let her vacillating back and forth ruin your future.

Answer 3

Awe Hun i couldn't even suppose. This is rather what you need to do. Tell him you cannot talk to him considering the fact that that is highly stressing you out and also you dont need to lose the baby. Then with everything you will have try and not to fear or think about it except your youngster will get here. You must be as powerful as that you can be right now for your little miracle that way nothing occurs. When your youngster is born i would severely advocate getting a legal professional. I are aware of it easier said then finished however all you ought to suppose about is that its for your youngster. Stay powerful and close to your household and i desire you the first-class of success!

Answer 4

Did someone drop you outta 3rd storie window so yad land on your head?



Wait for what? She took up with another man. She wants other men more than you. Take the hints. Tell her to go fook off.



Move on. You deserve a helluva lot better than that.

Answer 5

I would not wait. This woman does not appreciate you. You are a convenience and someone to fall back on if she can't find something better. She is not devoted wife material. She will bring you misery. Move on or expect a lot of headache and heartache in your future.

Answer 6

Give her time to settle herself.

Stop all contact for a while. Than she will come back to you.