questioner
2012-10-25 14:43:47 UTC
Granted she is a student and I am currently looking for work so I have a fair bit more time than her. At the beginning we had a brief talk about how we were going to split up chores that went something along the lines of "I'll (me) cook/shop and you'll (her) clean and well split whatever is left" but It just feels like I'm doing everything and the few chores she does she does half assed and not nearly often enough.
Heres a breakdown of what chores we do:
Me Her
Cooking Dishes (no drying)
shopping Anything else I ask (If I remind her)
Washing (once a week) Cleaning the bathroom
taking the trash/recycling out
keeping the rooms tidy(ish)
Dishes: we don't have tonnes of stuff as this is her first place (at least where shes not boarding) as well as mine. so at most we can go a day without dishes being washed depending on what we have for breakfast. But most of the time she does it everyday, only when I ask usually about 5 mins before I need to use them again for dinner Resulting in a bunch of dirty dishes in the sink 24/7 and the clean ones like 1 inch away from that sink still wet as she wont dry them. Forgetting the dried food that's sometimes stuck to them still because they were left out all day :S.
Anything else I ask: If I specifically ask her normally she will do something for more, most of the time so If I bug her about the washing she will do it eventually but frankly its a really a pain to have to nag her about it just to get her to help. But I do this fairly regularly atm.
Cleaning the bathroom: Overall she does this, but there isn't a lot to clean outside the toilet. Shes cleaned that once but when the shower got clogged she wouldn't do it and got me to do it.
Washing/tidy up/shopping: Once a week, not big jobs but She has a million clothes and hasn't gotten around to putting most of them away. As a result there are clothes everywhere and about once a week I gather up them all and put them in a pile near the closet, sort out the washing baskets (Ive told her to put the towels in one and clothes in the other but it never happens) usually before I do the washing.
Trash/reclying: Currently as our place is tiny we have two small buckets for trash, one in the kitchen and one next to my lil area with my comp. we line them with bags then take the bags once their full out to our driveway and into the wheel-bin. She very occasionally if I bug her takes the kitchen one, but I have to sort and take out the recycling and the trash most of the time or we get a giant bag siting in the kitchen forever. I do my own lil one by my comp but thats fair as I set it up.
Vacuuming: We don't do this often (I think twice since we moved in) as we don't have a vacuum our self's just yet. but the few times we had I did both and would probli go crazy if I had to do it more often as there are clothes all over the floor.
Am I way over thinking this? is there a job I'm missing that shes doing that makes this not wildly unbalanced? I've already said if she gets a job before me ill just do her half np's but its not like she doesn't have time to help out around the house atm. I asked my brother about it and his response was "Does she put out? because then shes doing her job" which made me facepalm IRL. How do you sort out your chores Reddit?