I was a divorcee Hindu Khatri guy, married a Jat Sikh girl. She was not virgin, wt 2 do?

Question

I am a 33 year old guy. I got married and divorced around 2007. I married a Jat Sikh girl in 2011, proposed her for marriage last year. We got married earlier this year. She hid from me the fact that she was in a relationship for 8 years and that she was not virgin. Had she told me earlier, I would not have married her. I confronted her on this thing, and she accepted the fact, but then she said, even I was a divorcee. she has been asking me not to ruin our relation coz of wt happened in the past. But i cannot accept and tolerate such thing. She said no girl would ever say such a thing to her husband that she was not virgin. She says it happens. She also says that she cant change the past, wants me to bury the hatchet and move on. She keeps on tryin to talk to me, she says she luvs me, i knw she ds but....for me she is a *****. I am losing my peace of mind. wt should i do

Answer 1

You're a JERK !!! First of all How can you expect her to be a virgin if she's been in a relationship for 8 years ? Most of all: If you really loved her you wouldn't even pose that problem. Is her virginity the main reason why you married her? Do you have any interest and respect for her as a person at all and not as an hymen ? Why do you expect from your wife to be a virgin in the first place ? You do not deserve her that's for sure. And how dare you call her a ''*****'' ? Are YOU a virgin ? How can you expect her to be if you're not ? If she's a ''*****'' to you I have a lot of other names for you !



''Had she told me earlier I would not have married her'' Tell her those exact words and you won't have to do anything if she has respect for herself she'll divorce your ***

Answer 2

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I was a divorcee Hindu Khatri guy, married a Jat Sikh girl. She was not virgin, wt 2 do?

I am a 33 year old guy. I got married and divorced around 2007. I married a Jat Sikh girl in 2011, proposed her for marriage last year. We got married earlier this year. She hid from me the fact that she was in a relationship for 8 years and that she was not virgin. Had she told me earlier, I would...

Answer 3

With all due respect to you and your spouse



You shouldn't think ill of your wife just because she is not a virgin,u should realize neither were you.But,the fact that she hid it from you is not an honest thing to do for sure.If a woman can't trust you with her secrets she will be lying to you constantly only to keep her place secure.What I'm trying to say is that her not being virgin is not that much of a great issue than whether she is an honest woman or not.Look from a guy to another guy girls can tell you a hundred things like she loves you and sell you a lot of promises too but whether she means it or not I am certain that even they themselves are totally unsure of.

If she tells you now that she is sorry she hid it,its the only thing she hid,there is no guarantee that a few years later you wont find something else about her which she also hid,women are very good when it comes to things like these,especially if you have feelings for her she will always use it to her benefit.Yes they do that I'm sure you know that already.

Unfortunately there is not much you can do other than confront her and ask her to come clean with anything that u should know as a husband rightfully.I am sorry for what you are going through in your life only you know how helpless you are feeling but to be honest,having a good and happy marriage now a days is just like being successful in career or becoming really rich or something.

This is your marriage i.e at stake so you should do everything to make it right,but as a man to another at the end of the day ur wife is only but another woman,and girls have very tiny consciousness when they are ruining a relationship.

Try to work things out with her,u r a grown enough man to do that,but if, with time u still feel like this woman can deceive you in anyway I think u should consider some bold step then,coz like i said they will drag you till the end of the pit if they have to(thinking that she is doing any good) and when the sh** hits the fan she'll be the 1st one to abandon ship,so unfortunately and quite regretfully you Have to be selfish and look out for yourself,as it is only a rare few people who are blessed happy and merry love life and marriages and the rest of us will have to make though with wits and good foresightedness.

Good Luck to you and your wife I hope you two get on the same page soon.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Grow up .... she is more matured than you and you should accept what she says. You too are not a virgin and she has honestly accepted the mistake. No one can change the past. Think positive and accept her with open heart and open mind. Dump your male-ego immediately and thank God for giving you such a matured wife.

Answer 6

The girl was honest enough to accept what happened in past. Even you are a divorcee and so you arent a virgin too. i would suggest you to be a man and accept her with your open arms. She is not cheating you in anyway, if you give her respect and love you will get these back too. may be you will develop a strong relationship if you let go the past and look forward for a wonderful future.



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Answer 7

the girl is a dbag, first she was in a relationship with a jerk for 8 years, n then she married a bigger dbag.

I'm a Hindu Choudhary Guy, you people who answered please don't stereotype us bcoz of this jerk. he's a retard.

Answer 8

If i would have been in your place then i would have accepted her as it is , there is no meaning in digging the past, just live happily with her or again get divorce and do the same thing again and again.



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Answer 9

Were you a virgin when you married her? No, so you are also a ****.

Answer 10

you sound like total dbag ,,first you are divorcee yourself I dont evn kw why this girl even married you

Answer 11

If it was only like one person, I think it's not a big deal. And you didn't add if you were a virgin or not, so if you aren't, then you can't expect her to be one too

Answer 12

Ameture ba$tard you are.

Answer 13

you have sex with someone and get on level with her