I have read 5 questions this morning over Divorce and kids around new bf/gf's?

Question

I have read 5 questions this morning over Divorce and kids around new bf/gf's?

Answer 1

You are all to correct. Some do not even wait for the filing to begin. It is very traumatizing on the children and If adults want to play games well let me just say this, Let the games begin because that is what will happen when the children get older. What goes around comes around. I am a firm believer in that and more times than I can say it has held true.l

Answer 2

You should be actually finished with one relationship before beginning another. I agree.

Answer 3

Absolutely right. The ink isn't even dry, or in some of these cases, there isn't even ink yet.

Answer 4

My wife and I split up after I saved a man from drowning while on vacation then I found out she had started an affair with him after we got back home. " He lived about 3 hours away" We have 2 small kids I love them so much I just bought a house across the street. My wife dated him for about 2 years but never brought him to the house and never discussed the separation from me w/ our kids or about her new boyfriend. Our kids just thought Mom & Dad had 2 homes. We worked things out moved back in together and the kids never knew anything had ever happened. Be discreet about your love life and very protective about your kids mental state. They don't have the mental capisity as an adult they just want to play and have fun like kids are suppost to do. Keep it simple and let them be non stressed happy kids

Answer 5

I have read about three questions about dirvorce and kid around bf/gf. well from my perspective, nothing is wrong if people start dating before a dirvorce is final as far as they are discreet.What I see as demeaning is the rate this people are ready to slash at each other without considering the mental state of thier kids. Kids feel it the most when they see thier parents hacking at each other like demented people.

Answer 6

I am a firm believer that dating happens before marriage and AFTER a divorce. There should be no messing around of any kind while the vows are still there legally binding the two together. All this infidelity is a real source of trouble for families and children. What are we teaching our kids? Basically they see that adults have no self control, self respect or sense of responsibility. No wonder we have such issues.

Answer 7

I'll take what you said a step further -- I don't think people should get divorced at all.

Answer 8

Each of my kids have a Bible that includes the Old Testament. My kids are between 12 and 8, sexual education appropriate for their individual ages have been given. topics are discussed as a matter of normal life, for example when watching TV, commenting the news, or events in the life of relatives and firends. This verse may provoke new questions and they will be answerred by me and/or my wife, including why God used those comparations in that verse / chapter.

Answer 9

When I got divorced, I did not share any of it with my kids. They had no idea when exactly we were finally divorced or what the settlement was. It's just more than they needed to know - and they were teenagers!



I dated before my divorce was final because my ex was the lawyer doing the divorce and he balked and drew it out for more than a year. My emotional ties with him were OVER and I moved on - final divorce or not. I did not ever bring a date home until I met the man I am going to marry. We were very discreet in front of the kids and they got to know him as a person before he moved in. He never appeared undressed in the house, but they knew that he was sleeping in my room. They knew that we were engaged before he moved in. He has worked very hard to have a relationship with them too - as well as with me. He is an excellent role model and I think that my girls were not harmed by the fact that we were living together before being married.



My feelings on the subject are that my marriage and dating and divorce are none of my kids' business. My love life is my own and as long as I don't flaunt my partner or our sexuality in front of them I should be able to have a personal life.

Answer 10

I agree its wrong as well. What ever happened to protecting your children it seems now a days the childrens feeling and well being is lost along the way...